“Indlela engcono kakhulu yokususa imicabango engafunwa noma engemihle iwukujwayela ukucabanga ngendlela eyakhayo.” UWilliam Actinson Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina umkhondo walokho esikucabangayo, kanye nemizwa esiba nayo. Imicabango nemizwa yethu ayithinti impilo kuphela, kodwa futhi nobudlelwano nezwe langaphandle. Imizwa emihle iletha injabulo nenjabulo. Yonke into ezungezile ibonakala iyinhle, siyasijabulela isikhathi futhi yonke into ihamba kahle. UBarbara Fredrickson, omunye wabacwaningi nababhali bemisebenzi yokucabanga okuhle, wabonisa ukuthi okuhle kumshintsha kanjani umuntu futhi kuholele endleleni yokuphila ehluke ngokwekhwalithi. Imizwelo emihle nokuziphatha - ukulula, ukudlala, ukubonga, uthando, isithakazelo, ukuzola nomuzwa wokuba ngowabanye - sandisa umbono wethu, sivule ingqondo nenhliziyo yethu, sizizwa sivumelana nendawo ezungezile. Njengezimbali eziqhakaza elangeni, abantu bagcwala ukukhanya nenjabulo, baba nemizwelo eyakhayo.
NgokukaFredrickson, “Imizwa engemihle inomthelela ekukhuleni kwethu, kuyilapho imizwa eyakhayo, ngokwemvelo yayo, idlula ngokushesha. Imfihlo ayikona ukuphika ukudlula kwabo, kodwa ukuthola izindlela zokwandisa inani lezikhathi ezijabulisayo. Esikhundleni sokusebenzela ukuqeda ukugxeka empilweni yakho, uFredrickson utusa ukulinganisa imizwelo yakho + kanye – nemizwa yakho ngangokunokwenzeka.”
Cabangela ukucabanga okuhle: 1) Ukululama ngokushesha ezinkingeni zenhliziyo nemithambo yegazi 2) Yehlisa umfutho wegazi kanye nobungozi besifo senhliziyo 3) Ukulala okunekhwalithi, umkhuhlane omncane, ikhanda elibuhlungu. Umuzwa ojwayelekile wenjabulo. Ngokocwaningo, ngisho nemizwelo engabonakali njengethemba nelukuluku inomthelela ekuvikeleni isifo sikashukela nomfutho wegazi ophakeme. Ukuba sesikhaleni senjabulo kukuvulela amathuba engeziwe, kuvela imibono emisha, futhi isifiso sokusungula siyavela. Kukhona njalo izinsuku lapho izinto zingahambi kahle futhi sicasukile, kodwa kufanelekile ukubuka imizwa, ukuphazamisa ngokuthile, ukucabanga ngezikhathi zenjabulo, futhi uzobona ukuthi imicabango engalungile incibilika kanjani.