Konke kuyaguga - izingxenye zemoto, amahembe, izitsha nezicathulo. Futhi, ngaphansi kwethonya lokucindezeleka okukhulu, ngokushesha noma kamuva umzimba wethu uyaguga. Kubonakala sengathi sibhekane nokushaqeka, kodwa umzimba uyehluleka. Kungenzeka yini ukugwema ukugula okungokomzimba okubangelwa ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo? Ake sikhulume ngalokhu nodokotela wezengqondo u-Elena Melnik.
Wake waphuka ingilazi ezandleni zakho? Noma ipuleti laphuka kabili? Zazingekho izizathu zalokhu. Onjiniyela banencazelo yokuthi kungani izitsha zingasebenziseki.
Kukhona into enjengokuthi «ukukhathala okubonakalayo» - inqubo yokuqongelela kancane kancane umonakalo ngaphansi kwesenzo sokushintshana kokucindezeleka, okuholela ekushintsheni kwezakhiwo zezinto ezibonakalayo, ukwakheka kwemifantu nokubhujiswa.
Kalula nje, usebenzise inkomishi noma ipuleti isikhathi eside, wawisa, wawushisisa, wawupholisa. Futhi ekugcineni yahlukana ngesikhathi esingafanele. Kwenzeka okufanayo ngomzimba: ukucindezeleka, izingxabano, izifiso eziyimfihlo, ukwesaba kunqwabelana ngaphakathi futhi ngokushesha noma kamuva kuphule ngendlela yokugula ngokomzimba.
ukucindezeleka kanye nesifo
Amaklayenti avame ukuza kimi, okungezwani kwawo kwangaphakathi kuzwakala cishe ngokomzimba. Abakhali, bakhuluma ngomoya ophansi, banengqondo. Kodwa ngizizwa ngimile eduze kwabo, futhi ngazi kahle ukuthi kuzokwenzekani lapho ukushisa kufinyelela umkhawulo wakho.
Kungaba ngcono uma ukuqhuma kuphumele ekuhlaseleni okuvulekile okulawulwayo, uma ukushuba kungadanjiswa ezikilasini zekarate noma ze-sambo, ukudansa noma ukuqina. Noma ngisho ukuxabana nowakwakho. Kodwa ukuqhuma kwenzeka ngaphakathi futhi kucekele phansi umzimba.
Ngibuza amaklayenti anjalo umbuzo: "Iyini impilo yakho manje?" Njengomthetho, baqala ukukhuluma ngalokho okubaphatha kabi ngempela.
Futhi nasi isikhathi sokubuza umbuzo olandelayo: "Kwenzekani empilweni yakho ezinyangeni ezingu-6-8 ezedlule?" Nansi umsuka wezinkinga ezingavumeli iklayenti ukuthi liphile ngokuthula nangekhwalithi. Ukuxhumana okunjalo kuvelaphi?
Uma nje i-psyche isebenza njengesivimbeli phakathi kwezwe elingaphakathi nelingaphandle, umuntu ubonakala ebhekana nokucindezeleka. I-psyche ihlanganiswe, inhloso yayo "ukusinda" ezimweni ezihlongozwayo, ukunciphisa ukulahlekelwa.
Kodwa lapho isikhathi sokucindezeleka kanye / noma amandla awo engabekezeleleki ku-psyche, umzimba uyayeka futhi "uphuka" endaweni encane kakhulu, ebuthakathaka kakhulu emzimbeni ngamunye. Lokhu kuyi-psychosomatics - izifo zomzimba ezenzeka ngaphansi kwethonya lezinto ezingezinhle ze-psycho-emotional zesikhathi eside.
Isixhumanisi esibuthakathaka
Ngokuvamile, "ukushaywa komzimba" kwenzeka ezinyangeni ezingu-6-8 ngemva kwesigameko esibuhlungu. Kubonakala sengathi konke kungemuva, kodwa kuqala "ukuphuka". Ingcindezi enqwabelene ibangela ukuthi umzimba uyeke.
Sikholelwa ukuthi umzimba uyohlala uyisivikelo sethu, uzohlala kuze kube umzuzu wokufa ngokomzimba. Kodwa isengozini, ijwayele izifo, ezingapheli futhi ezinzima, okuvame ukuba nzima ukuyelapha. Futhi izinkinga ezingokwengqondo zingaba imbangela yazo.
Abaningi basacabanga ukuthi ababuthakathaka kuphela abaya kochwepheshe bezengqondo, ukuthi zonke izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zingama-charlatans. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi bayawunakekela umzimba wabo, baya kudokotela wamazinyo, baya ekuzivocavoca umzimba, balandele imithetho yokuphila okunempilo. Ngakho-ke kungani singayinakekeli impilo ye-psyche yethu, singenzi ukuvimbela ukuphazamiseka kwezinzwa, izingxabano, ukuxhumana okulimazayo?
Nasi isibonelo sokwenza. Owesifazane osemusha futhi okhuthele uthathwe emsebenzini nge-ambulensi ene-ovary ephukile. Ngaphambi kwalokho, ngahlangana naye kanye kuphela, futhi amandla akhe angaphakathi ayenamandla amakhulu, "aminyene", acishe alenga emoyeni. Akukho monakalo owenziwa yimishini noma abalimele. Kodwa ngemva kokuba lo wesifazane eseluleme saqala ukusebenza, kwavela ukuthi ezinyangeni eziyisishagalolunye umshado wakhe wamiswa wahlukana kabi nowayeyisoka lakhe.
Enye intombazane yalimala umlenze emthambekeni wentaba. Wabe esehamba ngezinduku izinyanga eziyisithupha. Lapho ebuzwa ukuthi kwenzekeni ngonyaka odlule, uphendule ngokuthi wayexabene nomyeni wakhe wacishe wadivosa. Womabili amaklayenti awazange axhumanise ukuhlukumezeka kwawo ngokuqondile nolwazi. Ngaleso sikhathi, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ngeke sihluleke ukubona ubudlelwano phakathi kokucindezeleka okuhlangenwe nakho nokulimala emzimbeni.
Ungazisiza kanjani
Kunezindlela eziningana zokuzisiza udalule izimbangela zezifo futhi ugweme ezintsha:
1. Qaphela. Lapho usheshe uvuma kuwena ukuthi ucindezelekile, kungcono. Lona kanye iqiniso lokuqonda isimo lizokwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuba nomthelela kulokho okwenzekayo futhi ulawule isimo sakho.
2. Buyisa ukulawula. Ngokuvamile, ezimweni ezinzima, sithatha indawo yokusabela, siwela ngaphansi "kokushaywa kwesiphetho", siphoqeleka ukuba sisabele. Ezikhathini ezinjengalezi, kubalulekile ukuhlehlisa ukulawula. Ungase uzitshele: “Yebo, isimo sinzima manje, kodwa ngiyaphila, okusho ukuthi ngingakwazi ukwenza okuthile futhi ngithonye isimo.” Zibuze:
- Yini ebaluleke kakhulu manje?
- Yini engifuna ukuyithola ngenxa yalokho?
- Yini engingayenza ukuze ngilawule ukuphila kwami?
- Yiziphi izinsiza enginazo?
- Kungaba yini isinyathelo sokuqala?
- Ubani ongangisekela?
3. Ukusekela. Akufanele ube wedwa ezikhathini zezilingo zokuphila. Ukwesekwa okuqotho kothandekayo, intshisekelo yakhe ngesiphetho sakho kanye nesifiso sokukusiza ukukuthole kungaba insiza yokuthola indlela ephumelela kakhulu yokuphuma:
- ngaphandle kokulungiswa ekufuneni abenzi bobubi - njalo kuholela ekuxazululeni isimo;
- ngaphandle kwesihawu - kubeka indima yesisulu;
- ngaphandle kotshwala - kuncisha amandla anempilo, kudala inkohliso yenduduzo.
4. Ukubonisana. Kungase kudingeke uthintane nochwepheshe abahlukahlukene ukuze uqoqe futhi uqhathanise amaqiniso ongathembela kuwo lapho wakha isu lokuziphatha kwakho. Kungaba abameli, ongoti bengqondo yezingane, odokotela, osonhlalakahle, izisekelo.
Ezikhathini zovivinyo olunzima lomuntu siqu, ovame ukungalulungiseleli kusengaphambili, umuzwa “wokulahlekelwa ikusasa” ulimaza kakhulu. Senza izinhlelo, sicabange ukuthi kuzokwenzekani ngonyaka, iminyaka eyishumi, engamashumi amabili. Sibheke phambili ezinsukwini nezenzakalo ezakha umuzwa wokugeleza kokuphila.
Isimo esinzima sibonakala sikhansela ikusasa. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, zikhumbuze ukuthi lokhu kuwumdlalo nje wengqondo, osusiwe ekulawuleni. Kubonakala sengathi alikho ikusasa, futhi inkathi yamanje ilahlekelwe imibala nokukhanya kwayo.
Ukumelana nezinselele zokudalelwa, ukukhanyisa ikusasa lethu, ukwenza lesi sikhathi samanje sikhanye futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, sinempilo - konke lokhu kusemandleni ethu.