Okuqukethwe
Emazwaneni anoma yimuphi umbhalo olinganiselayo mayelana nobufazi, ukulingana kanye nodaba lwabesifazane, umuntu angathola imisho efana nalena: “Angiziboni ngingowesifazane, kodwa ngivumelana ngokuphelele…”. Futhi lokhu kuyamangaza: uma uvuma, ungumuntu wesifazane - pho kungani ungafuni ukuzibiza kanjalo?
I-Feminism iyinhlangano ebandakanya wonke umuntu futhi ebanzi, kungani kubaluleke kangaka ukuthi abesifazane abaningi bagcizelele ukungeyona eyabo, naphezu kokufana kwangempela kwemibono nezindinganiso? Ngacabanga ngakho ngase ngiveza izizathu ezine eziyinhloko.
Ukuntula ukuqwashisa kanye nobudlelwane obungalungile
Ngeshwa, inhlangano yabesifazane isazungezwe inqwaba yezinganekwane abesifazane abaningi abangafuni ukuzihlanganisa nazo. Ubufazi buhlotshaniswa nokuzonda amadoda, ukungakhangi kwangaphandle, ulaka kanye nobudoda. Ama-feminists asolwa ngokuzabalaza okungenangqondo nama-windmills kanye nezinkinga ezikude ("ezinsukwini zakudala kwakukhona ubufazi, balwela ilungelo lokuvota, kodwa manje yini, kukhona umbhedo wodwa").
Vele ubanike okuthile okuzokwenqabela, ukuqeda noma ukuwagcoba ngegazi lokuya esikhathini. Ngaphandle kosizo lwemithombo yezindaba, isithombe sabesifazane besifazane njengababi, ububi obugcwele izinkinga emkhakheni wezocansi, abaphupha ngokuvinjelwa kwamadoda kanye nokubusa umhlaba ngezandla zodwa, uye wagxila engqondweni yomphakathi. Futhi akukho lutho olumangalisayo ukuthi abesifazane abangajwayelene nokunyakaza kwangempela kwabesifazane kanye nabameleli bayo abafuni ukuhlanganiswa nale "inhlamba".
Abesifazane besaba ukuthi ubufazi buzobalethela imithwalo yemfanelo eyengeziwe futhi "bathuntuthe" amadoda nakakhulu
Esinye isici esincane kodwa esibalulekile singafakwa eshalofini lezinganekwane. Abesifazane abaningi banesiqiniseko sokuthi abesifazane besifazane balwela abesifazane ngokuzithandela futhi ngokuphoqelela ukuba bazimele futhi baqine, uhlobo "lwamadoda agqoke iziketi", behla ebusweni, bathathe olele futhi baphathe. “Kodwa kuphi lapho esimdinga khona umuntu olalayo uma sesinomsebenzi neshifu yesibili endlini futhi sinezingane? Sifuna izimbali, ingubo, kanye nethuba lokuphupha ukuthi inkosana enhle izofika futhi siphumule kancane ehlombe layo eliqinile, "baphikisa ngokunengqondo.
Abesifazane besaba ukuthi ubufazi buzobalethela imithwalo yemfanelo eyengeziwe futhi “bathuntuthe” amadoda nakakhulu, bacekele phansi umsuka wabo bonke abahola ngempela nabavikeli, okubekwe ithemba labo lokuba khona kwabo. Futhi lomcabango usiholela ephuzwini elilandelayo.
Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa amalungelo akhona, noma amancane
Ukuba ngowesifazane kuhlale kunzima. Kodwa emcabangweni wezinzalamizi, kunendlela ethile yokuphumelela yesipoki ethembisa owesifazane izulu emhlabeni (indlu iyisitsha esigcwele, indoda ingondlayo futhi iphila kahle) uma igxuma phezulu futhi ingahlangana ende. uhlu lokulindelwe komphakathi.
Ngisho nasebuntwaneni, sifunda: uma udlala ngemithetho, thula, umnandi futhi ukhululekile, ubukeke umuhle, ungabonisi ulaka, ukunakekela, ubekezele, ungagqoki izingubo ezivusa inkanuko kakhulu, umomotheka, hleka amahlaya futhi ubeke konke. amandla akho ezindabeni “zabesifazane” — ungadweba ithikithi lenhlanhla. Wena, uma unenhlanhla, uzodlula zonke izinto ezesabekayo zesiphetho sabesifazane, futhi njengomklomelo uzothola isikhuthazo esivela emphakathini futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuvunyelwa kwabesilisa.
Isikhundla sobufazi sivula amathuba angakaze abonwe, kodwa futhi sivala iminyango eminingi - isibonelo, sinciphisa ukukhetha kwabalingani.
Ngakho-ke, ukuzibiza nge-feminist kuwukuyeka indawo yokuqala emncintiswaneni wesihloko esithi «intombazane enhle». Phela ukuba nguye kuwukungakhululeki. Isikhundla sowesifazane, ngakolunye uhlangothi, sivula amathuba okukhula komuntu siqu kudade osekelayo, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, sivala iminyango eminingi, isibonelo, sinciphisa kakhulu ukukhethwa kwabalingani abangaba khona (kanye, isibonelo, , imikhiqizo yamasiko ongayidla ngaphandle kokucanuzela kancane), ngokuvamile kubangela ukulahlwa komphakathi kanye nobunye ubunzima.
Ukuzibiza ngowesifazane, ulahlekelwa yilelo thuba elikhohlisayo kakhulu lokuba "intombazane enhle", ithuba elincane, kodwa umvuzo.
Engafuni ukuzizwa eyisisulu
Kunoma iyiphi ingxoxo mayelana nokucindezelwa kwabesifazane, imishwana ethi "Angikaze ngihlangabezane nalokhu", "akekho ongicindezelayo", "le nkinga ekude" ivame ukuvela. Abesifazane bafakazela ukuthi abakaze bahlangabezane nezakhiwo zezinzalamizi, ukuthi lokhu akukaze kwenzeke ezimpilweni zabo, futhi ngeke kwenzeke.
Futhi akukho lutho olumangalisayo kulokhu. Ngokuqaphela ukuba khona kokucindezelwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo siqaphela isikhundla sethu esicindezelwe, isikhundla sababuthakathaka, isisulu. Futhi ubani ofuna ukuba yisisulu? Ukuqaphela ingcindezelo kusho nokwamukela ukuthi asikwazi ukuba nomthelela kukho konke okusezimpilweni zethu, akusiyo yonke into esemandleni ethu.
Abantu esisondelene nabo kakhulu, ozakwethu, obaba, abafowethu, abangani besilisa, basezikhundleni ezihluke ngokuphelele kulo mbhoshongo we-hierarchical.
Isikhundla esithi “akekho ongicindezelayo” sibuyisela ukulawula okukhohlisayo ezandleni zowesifazane: Angibuthakathaka, angisona isisulu, ngenza konke ngendlela efanele, futhi labo ababhekene nobunzima, cishe, bavele benze okuthile okungalungile. Lokhu kulula kakhulu ukukuqonda, ngoba ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukulawula kanye nokuvuma ukuba sengozini komuntu kungenye yokwesaba okujulile komuntu.
Ukwengeza, ukuzibona njengesixhumanisi esibuthakathaka esakhiweni esithile kanye nabaphathi, siphoqeleka ukuthi sibhekane nelinye iqiniso elingemnandi. Okungukuthi, ngeqiniso lokuthi abantu bethu abasondelene kakhulu, ozakwethu, obaba, abafowethu, abangani besilisa, bakwezinye izikhundla kulo mbhoshongo we-hierarchical. Ukuthi bavame ukukuhlukumeza, baphile ngezinsiza zethu, bathole okwengeziwe ngomzamo omncane. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo sihlale abathandekayo bethu nabathandekayo. Lona umcabango osindayo odinga ukuzindla okude futhi awuvamile ukubangela isiphepho semizwa eyakhayo.
Ukungabaza ukuzilebula kanye nokwesaba ukwaliwa
Okokugcina, isizathu sokugcina esenza abesifazane bangafuni ukuzibiza ngabesifazane ukungafuni noma ukungakwazi ukuhlanganisa yonke inkimbinkimbi yemibono yabo engqamuzaneni eyodwa encane. Abesifazane abaningi abacabangisisayo ababoni umbono wabo womhlaba hhayi njengesethi yemibono emisiwe, kodwa njengenqubo, futhi bayasola noma yimaphi amalebula nezigaba zemibono yokwenziwa. Ukuzibhala, ngisho nangokuziqhenya njengokuthi «abesifazane», kusho kubo ukunciphisa inkolo yabo eyinkimbinkimbi kanye "noketshezi" embonweni ethile futhi ngaleyo ndlela banciphise ukukhula kwabo.
Kulula ukulahleka kuleli hlathi elimnyama futhi libhalwe ngokuthi «owesifazane othile ongalungile owenza ubufazi obungalungile»
Lesi sigaba ngokuvamile sihlanganisa abesifazane abangathanda ukuzibiza ngabesifazane, kodwa baduka emikhawulweni engapheli yokunyakaza kwethu okubanzi futhi besaba ukuthatha isinyathelo esengeziwe funa babhekane nokuduma nombani nokumangalelwa ngokungafanele kwabesifazane.
Kunamagatsha amaningi okholo lwabesifazane, ngokuvamile alwa wodwa, futhi kuleli hlathi elimnyama kulula ukuduka futhi kudlule “kumuntu wesifazane ongalungile owenza ubufazi obungalungile.” Impela kungenxa yokwesaba ukwenqatshwa, ukwesaba ukungangeni eqenjini lezenhlalo noma ukuletha ulaka lwabantu ababecabanga njengayizolo, okwenza kube nzima ngabaningi ukuba bafake igama elithi “feminist” futhi balithwale ngokuziqhenya.
Ngasinye salezi zizathu, yiqiniso, sivumelekile, futhi wonke umuntu wesifazane unelungelo lokunquma nokuqamba uhlelo lwakhe lokubuka, ukukhetha uhlangothi noma ukwenqaba lokhu kukhetha. Kodwa uyazi ukuthi yini into ehlekisayo ngakho? Ukuthi leli lungelo lokuzikhethela salinikwa akekho omunye ngaphandle kwabesifazane.