Ukuphepha othandweni: 7 amathiphu amadodakazi

Abazali abalungile bazifunela okungcono kakhulu izingane zabo. Futhi lapho intombazane ikhula emndenini, umsebenzi wabo uwukulungiselela ubuhlobo bokuqala, uthando lokuqala. Futhi futhi - ezifundweni zayo ezilandelayo, okumele ngamunye wethu adlule kuzo.

Ikusasa lethu elifanayo lincike ekutheni singakwazi yini ukukhulisa abesifazane abasebasha abaqinile, abazethembayo, abajabulayo nabazihloniphayo abakwazi ukuba nobudlelwano obunempilo, kusho umqeqeshi wezempilo kanye nochwepheshe ekusebenzeni nabesifazane nemindeni uSamin Razzaghi.

Ngeshwa, emhlabeni wanamuhla, ukuhlukunyezwa kwamantombazane nabesifazane kuyaqhubeka, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Amantombazane ayizisulu ezisengozini kakhulu, futhi kukwabadala ukubasiza bagweme ubudlelwano obungenampilo futhi bafunde ukwenza izinqumo ezifanele ngempilo yabo. Yebo, amadoda nawo angahlushwa ubudlova nokuhlukunyezwa, kodwa kulokhu sikhuluma ngabantu besifazane.

Ngokusho kwe-RBC, kusukela ngoJanuwari kuya kuSepthemba 2019, amacala angaphezu kwezinkulungwane eziyi-15 emkhakheni wobudlelwano bomndeni nowasekhaya enziwa kwabesifazane eRussia, kwathi ngo-2018, kwaqoshwa amacala ayizinkulungwane ezingama-21 odlame lwasekhaya. E-United States, isilinganiso sabesifazane abathathu siyafa nsuku zonke ezandleni zomngane wangaphambili noma wamanje. Izibalo zakwamanye amazwe azikho ngaphansi, uma zingasabisa kakhulu.

“Ngokuphambene nezinganekwane ezidumile, udlame lwasekhaya lwenzeka emindenini enamaholo ahlukene kanye nezizwe ezahlukene,” kuchaza uSamin Razzagi.

Eminyakeni ethile, amantombazane asemasha adlula esigabeni lapho ubudlelwano nontanga kanye nalabo abangase babe abathandana nabo buba yinto ehamba phambili. Futhi abantu abadala bangabasiza bafunde ukwakha ubuhlobo obunempilo phakathi nalesi sikhathi esibalulekile.

USamin Razzaghi unikeza "amathiphu othandweni" ayisikhombisa azoba usizo kuyo yonke intombazane.

1. Themba intuition yakho

Kowesifazane, intuition iyithuluzi elinamandla lokuthatha izinqumo, ngakho-ke intombazane kufanele ifunde ukuzethemba. Futhi kuyindlela ebalulekile yokwazi, kodwa esikweni lethu «lowesilisa», lapho ingqondo namaqiniso aziswa khona, thina ngokwethu siphula ukuxhumana kwamadodakazi ethu ngalesi sipho. Amantombazane avame ukutshelwa ukuthi lokho acabanga ukuthi kuyisinqumo esifanele akunangqondo noma akunangqondo.

Ekupholeni, intuition ingasiza amantombazane agweme ukucindezelwa ocansini kontanga, aphakamise ukukhetha okulungile komlingani, futhi ezwe imikhawulo yawo. Abazali bangafundisa indodakazi yabo ukuncika ekhampasini yayo engaphakathi ngokubuza, “Ithini ingqondo yakho?” noma “Wawuyini umbono wakho wokuqala kuleso simo?”

2. Cabanga ngokujulile

Amantombazane kufanele aqonde ukuthi umbono wawo wobudlelwano obunempilo uthonywa isizinda sawo solwazi — umculo, izincwadi, izinkundla zokuxhumana, ukukhangisa. Ukulingisa noma imibuzo efana nokuthi “Kusho ukuthini ukuba intombazane ngokwesiko lethu?”, “Kufanele kube njani ukuqomisana?”, “Ukwazi kanjani lokhu?” njll.

Ukuba nokucabanga okujulile, ngokusho kukaSamin Razzaghi, kuwukuzibuza: “Yini engiyibheka njengeyiqiniso? Kungani ngikukholelwa? Ingabe kuliqiniso? Kwenzakalani lapha?"

3. Qonda umehluko phakathi kokuthatheka nothando

Ezweni lezinkundla zokuxhumana kanye nama-smartphones, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuxoxa ngezithunywa nokubuka okuthunyelwe kwabanye abantu kudala umbono ongamanga wokuthi sazi othile ngempela. Nokho, isithombe sabantu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana asihambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi nokuthi bangobani ngempela.

Amantombazane kufanele afundiswe ukujwayela kancane kancane umuntu. Kudingeka bazi ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi nomzamo ukwakha ubuhlobo. Kwesinye isikhathi okuvelayo kokuqala kunembile ngokunembile. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngezinsuku, abantu bazama ukukhombisa uhlangothi lwabo oluhle kakhulu, ngakho-ke asikho isidingo sokujaha ukusondela.

“Abantu bafana no-anyanisi,” kubhala umlobi, “ukuze ufunde amanani ayisisekelo nomlingiswa, kufanele uwacwecwe ngokwengqimba.” Futhi kungaba ngcono ukwenza ngaphandle kwezinyembezi ...

4. Qaphela ukuthi umona awulona uphawu lothando.

Umona uwukulawula, hhayi uthando. Lokhu kuyimbangela enkulu yodlame ebudlelwaneni bentsha. Ezinyunyaneni ezinempilo, abalingani abadingi ukulawulana.

Umona uhambisana nomona. Lo muzwa usekelwe ekwesabeni noma ekusweleni okuthile. Amantombazane kufanele azi ukuthi akufanele aqhudelane nanoma ubani kodwa wona ngokwawo.

5. Ungaqhudelani nabanye abantu besifazane

Awudingi ukuzonda abanye wena ngokwakho, kokubili abantu ngabanye kanye nezigaba zonke, futhi kufanele ufunde ukungazinaki abalingiswa abanjalo. Umsebenzi ohlangene wabesifazane ukufundisa amadoda ukuthi aphathwe kanjani ngendlela efanele.

Ukuthi umfana uyakopela akusho ukuthi enye intombazane ingcono. Lokhu kusho ukuthi unezinkinga ngokwethembeka nokwethembeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, cishe uzophatha intombi yakhe entsha ngendlela efanayo neyangaphambili, ngoba entsha "ayiyona "ekhethekile" kuneyokuqala.

6. Lalela izidingo zakho

Esinye isipho abesifazane abanaso ikhono lokuzwelana nokubonisa ububele, ikhono lokusiza abanye. Le mfanelo iyadingeka, kodwa uma intombazane ihlale idela izidingo zayo, khona-ke ngokushesha noma kamuva intukuthelo ingase inqwabelene kuyo, noma ingase igule ngokomzimba.

Abazali kudingeka bafundise indodakazi yabo ukuthi okuwukuphela kwendlela yokunikeza abanye okuthile isekelwe ekuqondeni izidingo zabo kanye nekhono lokukhuluma ngazo nomngane womshado, ukwamukela ukwenqaba kwakhe kwezinye izimo.

7. Beka ukuzithanda kuqala

Ngenxa yokukhuliswa kwawo, amantombazane amaningi agcizelela ubuhlobo ngaphezu kwabafana. Lokhu kungaba isipho esiyigugu, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kuholela ekuzibhubhiseni. Amantombazane avame ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngalokho akucabangayo. Lapho bekhula, bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi indoda yayibathanda yini ngaphambi kokuba babone ukuthi bayithanda kangakanani. Basiza abanye ngezindleko zabo.

Abazali abalungile bafundisa indodakazi yabo ukuzithanda okunempilo. Kusho ukubeka izidingo nenhlalakahle yakho kuqala, ukwakha ubuhlobo obunempilo nawe—ukushintsha, ukukhula, ukuvuthwa. Lesi yisifundo esibaluleke kakhulu sentombazane ukuthola ubudlelwano obuqinile nobuthembekile esikhathini esizayo, lapho kukhona indawo yothando nenhlonipho.

Ukuba umzali wentombazane eyeve eshumini nambili ngezinye izikhathi kuwumsebenzi onzima. Kodwa mhlawumbe into engcono kakhulu engenziwa omama nobaba ukufundisa amadodakazi abo ukuthi angakha kanjani ubudlelwano obujwayelekile ukuze uthando lwawo lokuqala lube okuhlangenwe nakho okuphephile nokunempilo.

Mayelana nochwepheshe: USamin Razzagi ungumqeqeshi wezempilo, uchwepheshe ekusebenzeni nabesifazane nemindeni.