Okuqukethwe
Intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ukudabuka… Siyazi ukuthi le mizwa ingasinqoba kanjani. Futhi lokhu kuyiqiniso nakakhulu enganeni. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi umzali afundise ingane yakhe ukuthi ilawule imizwa yayo, ingagajwa. Leli khono lizoba kuye, ebuntwaneni bakhe njengasesikhathini sakhe somuntu omdala esizayo, igugu elikhulu lokuqinisekisa ubuntu bakhe.
Uyini umzwelo?
Imizwelo iwukusabela kwebhayoloji okuzibonakalisa njengokuzwakala komzimba futhi kukhiqize ukuziphatha: kuyisisekelo sobuntu bethu. Ngamanye amazwi, imizwa ezwiwa ingane encane ukunquma. Bafaka impilo yakhe yesikhathi esizayo ngombala okhethekile.
Ingane uhlala esondelene nomama wakhe futhi ehlise imizwa yakhe. “Ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwayo, uma unina esaba, umntwana uyokwesaba kakhulu,” kuchaza uCatherine Gueguen. Kodwa uma ephelezelwa kahle, ezolile, naye uzoba njalo. Kukhona izingane ezimamathekayo lapho zizalwa! “
Izinyanga zokuqala, osanda kuzalwa uqala ukuhlukanisa. Lowo ozizwa ekhona kuphela ngemizwa yakhe yomzimba, usondelene nemizwa yakhe. Uveza eyakhe imizwa. Ngokulalelisisa, singafinyelela ekuqondeni.
Ungawuchaza kanjani umzwelo?
Ukuchaza imizwa, i-etymology isibeka emzileni. Igama livela kwelesiLatini elithi "movere", eliqala ukunyakaza. “Kuze kube sekhulwini lamashumi amabili, sasibheka imizwelo njengehlazo, kuchaza uDkt. Catherine Gueguen, udokotela wezingane. Kodwa kusukela ekukhuleni kwama-neuroscience athintayo kanye nenhlalo, siye saqonda ukuthi abalulekile ekuthuthukisweni kwethu: anquma indlela esicabanga ngayo, esenza ngayo nesisenza ngayo. “
Kude nokuvaleleka ku imizwelo emihlanu evame ukucashunwa (ukwesaba, ukunengeka, injabulo, ukudabuka, intukuthelo), imizwa yomuntu ibanzi kakhulu: yonke imizwa ihambisana nomzwelo. Ngakho, emntwaneni, ukungakhululeki, ukukhathala, ngisho nendlala, imizwa kanye nokwesaba noma umuzwa wesizungu. Ezinganeni, inzwa ngayinye inombala womzwelo obonakala ngezinyembezi, ukukhala, ukumomotheka, ukunyakaza, ukuma, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke ngokubonakala kobuso bakhe. Amehlo akhe awumfanekiso wempilo yakhe yangaphakathi.
“Ezinganeni ezineminyaka engu-0-3 ubudala, imizwa iwukuphela kwendlela yokuveza imizwa yomzimba, izidingo nemicabango, yingakho iqiniso lokuthi zikhona futhi ziyahlasela kulesi sikhathi sokuphila. Amagama apholileyo, ukunyakazisa izingalo, ukubhucungwa kwesisu, kuyikhulula kalula le mizwa… ”
U-Anne-Laure Benattar
Kuvidiyo: Imishwana eyi-12 yomlingo ukusiza ingane yakho ithulise intukuthelo yayo
Konke ingane ekuzwayo yimizwa
Ngokushesha lapho umzali ecabanga ukuthi ukutholile lokho umntanakhe akuzwayo, kumelwe akhulume ngakho ngendlela yombuzo futhi abone ukusabela kwengane: “Ingabe uzizwa uwedwa? "," Uyafuna ukuthi sikushintshe inabukeni? “. Qaphela ukuthi "unganamatheli" ukuhumusha kwakho enganeni, futhi ukubheke kahle ukuze uthuthukise umbono wayo. Ingabe ubuso bakhe buvuleka, khululeka? Kuwuphawu oluhle. Lapho umzali esekwazile ukuthi yini esebenzayo, lapho ekwazi ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa yengane esacathula, usabela ngokufanele: umntwana ube esezizwa ezwiwa, ulondekile. Kuthatha isikhathi, kodwa kubalulekile ekuthuthukisweni kwayo.
Ngempela, ucwaningo ngomthelela wemizwa olwenziwa kumongo we-affective ne-social neuroscience lubonise ukuthi ubuchopho obungaphansi kwengcindezi - isibonelo enganeni encane imizwa yayo engaziwa noma ecatshangelwe, kodwa esithi kuye "yeka lezi zifiso. !" - ikhiqiza i-cortisol, i-hormone evimbela ukuthuthukiswa kwezindawo eziningana zobuchopho, kuhlanganise ne-prefrontal cortex, isihlalo sokuthatha izinqumo nesenzo, kanye ne-amygdala, isikhungo sokucubungula imizwelo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isimo sengqondo sozwela sikhuthaza ukukhula kwazo zonke izinto ezimpunga., ikhulisa umthamo we-hippocampus, indawo ebalulekile yokufunda, futhi ikhiqizela izingane ezisacathula ukukhiqizwa kwe-oxytocin, ihomoni ezobasiza ukuba balawule imizwelo yabo futhi bathuthukise amakhono abo okuxhumana nabantu ngokuxhunyaniswa nemizwa yalabo abamzungezile. Uzwela enganeni luthuthukisa ukukhula kobuchopho bakhe futhi lumvumela ukuba athole izinto eziyisisekelo zokuzazi okuzomenza abe umuntu omdala olinganiselayo.
Uthola ukuzazi
Njengoba izingane zikhula, zizokwazi ukuhlobanisa imicabango nolimi nemizwa yazo. Uma okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ngokomzwelo kucatshangelwe kusukela ezinsukwini zakhe zokuqala, uma ezwile umuntu omdala ebeka amazwi kulokho azizwayo, uzokwazi ukuthi akwenze kanjani ngesikhathi sakhe. Ngakho, kusukela eminyakeni emi-2 ubudala, ingane ecathulayo iyakwazi ukubona uma iphatheke kabi, ikhathazekile noma ithukuthele… Iwusizo olukhulu ekwenzeni ukuthi iqondwe!
Sivame ukucabangela kuphela imizwa “engajabulisi”. Ake sijwayelane nokukhuluma ngamagama amnandi! Ngakho, lapho ingane iyobe izwa abazali bayo ngokwengeziwe bethi: “Ngikuthola ujabule / ujabulile / wanelisekile / ufuna ukwazi / ujabulile / nomdlandla / unonya / onamandla / onentshisekelo / njll. uzokwazi ukukhiqiza kamuva le mibala ehlukahlukene kuphalethi yakhe yemizwa.
Lapho ucabangela indlela ezizwa ngayo ngaphandle kokwahlulela noma ukucasuka, umntwana uzizwa eqiniseka. Uma simsiza ukuba aveze imizwa yakhe ngamazwi, uzokwazi ukuthi akwenze kanjani kusenesikhathi, okuyomsiza ukuba achume. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akukhona ngaphambi kweminyaka engu-6-7 - leyo minyaka edumile yokucabanga! - ukuthi uzofunda ukuphatha imizwelo yakhe (ukuzola noma ukuziqinisekisa, isibonelo). Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, udinga usizo lwakho ukuze abhekane nokukhungatheka nentukuthelo ...