“Ukuze uxazulule izinkinga zokugxilisa ingqondo kwengane yakho, kubalulekile ukwazi imvelaphi yayo,” kuchaza uJeanne Siaud-Facchin. Abanye bazitshela ukuthi ingane ikwenza ngamabomu kodwa wonke umuntu ufuna ukuphumelela. Ingane exabene nenkosikazi yayo noma ozakwabo ayijabule. Abazali bona bayacasuka baphatheke kabi uma ingane ingasafuni ukwenza umsebenzi wayo. Basengozini yokuwela ekujikeni okubuhlungu kokwehluleka okungase kube nezilinganiso ezimbi kakhulu. Kungakho kubalulekile ukubonana nodokotela wezengqondo ukuze uthole izimbangela zalokhu kuziphatha. “
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“Uhlelo lokuklomelisa lusebenza kanye noma kabili kodwa ukuphazamiseka kungaphinde kuvele ngemva kwalokho,” kusho uchwepheshe. Ngokuphambene, abazali kufanele bakhethe ukuqiniswa okuhle kunokujezisa. Ungangabazi ukuvuza ingane ngokushesha nje lapho yenza okuthile okuhle. Lokhu kuletha umthamo we-endorphin (ihomoni yenjabulo) ebuchosheni. Ingane izoyikhumbula futhi iziqhenye ngayo. Kunalokho, ukumjezisa ngawo wonke amaphutha kuyombangela ukucindezeleka. Ingane ifunda kangcono ngokukhuthazwa kunokujezisa ngokuphindaphindiwe. Emfundweni yakudala, ngokushesha nje lapho ingane yenza okuthile okuhle, abazali bacabanga ukuthi kuyinto evamile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lapho nje enza into ewubuwula, uyaxabana. Kodwa-ke, kufanele sinciphise isihlamba futhi sikwazise ukwaneliseka, ”kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Amanye amathiphu: yenza inzalo yakho ijwayele ukusebenza endaweni eyodwa futhi endaweni ezolile. Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi afunde ukwenza into eyodwa ngesikhathi.