“Dumisani, kepha inengeka enhliziyweni”: kungani lokhu kwenzeka?

Ngezinye izikhathi “amazwi amnandi” abhalwa ngendlela engathandeki, bese “ukuncoma” kuvusa imizwa nezimo ezingezinhle enkumbulweni. Futhi, akuzona zonke izincomo ezijabulisayo. Kwesinye isikhathi kuba nendaba ukuthi zivezwe esidlangalaleni noma ubuso nobuso, ukuthi uthola kuye, ukuthi umphatha kanjani lo muntu: isibonelo, ukunconywa okuvela kwabesilisa kuthathwa ngendlela ehlukile kunakwabesifazane. Amagama "amnandi" ahlukene azwakala kubantu abangabazi nakubantu abaziwayo, ababalulekile noma abaphakeme. Siyanaka ukuthi ukudumisa kufanele yini, okomuntu siqu noma okusemthethweni.

Nazi izibonelo zokuncoma okungamanga okungekho ofuna ukukuzwa:

• “Yebo, yebo, wenza kahle” — ukuphulula okusemthethweni, lapho kufundwa phakathi kwemigqa: “Suka kimi”, “Yeka indlela engikhathele ngayo yikho konke lokhu.”
• “Yebo, akuphumelelanga … Kodwa uyintombazane enhle” — kubonakala sengathi ngenxa yesihawu bakutshela okuthile okungahlangene nesihloko sengxoxo.
• "Bheka - yeka umfo okahle, intombazane elungile (eshiwo ngokubhuqa)" - Intandokazi yokwenziwa kwe-passive-aggressive formulations evela kubantu abadala ithathwa njengokululazeka.
• “Uzilethe ubuhle yena, kodwa akazange awenze umsebenzi wakhe wesikole” — njengomthetho, la mazwi alandelwa ezinye izinsolo.
• "Le mpumelelo ikubeke kwelinye izinga" - kuyaqondakala ukuthi manje ibha isiphezulu futhi izidingo ziqinile, kufanele uhambisane, ngaphandle kwalokho uzodumaza.
• "Wenza kahle kuphela uma udinga okuthile" - okulandelwa yicala lokukhohlisa, ukusebenzisa, ubugovu kanye nokuthi "wake wacabanga ngami?".
• “Wenza kahle, manje ngenzela khona” — khona-ke uzocelwa ukuba wenze into ongeke uyifune, kodwa ongeke wenqabe.

Uma uzwa "izincomo" ezinjalo, unqotshwa imizwa engathandeki. Kubonakala kukubuyisela esikhathini esedlule - lapho ube nesipiliyoni esibi.

Isibonelo, uhlangabezana:

• ukuphoxeka. Ingabe ufuna "ukuwela emhlabathini" noma "ukuncibilika", inqobo nje uma kungekho obonayo;
• ukudideka. Iyiphi indlela efanele yokusabela kulokhu kudumisa?
• amahloni nge-aftertaste embi nomuzwa, «njengokungathi ungagqokile»;
• ukulahlwa eqinisweni lokuthi isicelo sizolandela ongeke ukwazi ukusigcwalisa;
• intukuthelo nokucasuka ngenxa yokuthi ubuhle babuphikisana namakhono engqondo anesizotha;
• ukukhathazeka ngokuthi ukunconywa akufanelekile futhi ngeke ukwazi ukufanisa leli zinga esikhathini esizayo;
• umuzwa wokuthi uyadatshukelwa futhi unconywa ukuze ududuze futhi ujabule;
• besaba ukuthi impumelelo ingabanga umona futhi ilimaze ubudlelwano nabanye abaphumelele kancane.

Ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni, ukuhlangana okubuhlungu kwenza kube nzima ukukholelwa ekubongeni nasekubongeni. Nokho bakhona abakuthanda ngobuqotho, abakuhloniphile futhi bakwazisa ngokweqiniso. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukucabanga kabusha okwedlule ngokwakho noma nochwepheshe ukuze ukholelwe kuwe, ukuthi ufanelwe ukuzwa amazwi amnandi abhekiswe kuwe.