Ingane yami inamahloni

 

Ingane yami inamahloni: kungani indodana yami noma indodakazi yami inamahloni?

Ayikho incazelo elula noma eyingqayizivele yamahloni. i isifiso sokwenza kahle ehlotshaniswa ne- ukuntula ukuzethembangokuvamile ziwumthombo wamahloni: ingane kokubili izimisele ukujabulisa futhi yesaba kakhulu ukudumaza, ifuna "ukuqinisekisa" ngenkathi iqiniseka ukuthi ayikho emsebenzini. Ngokungazelelwe, isabela ngokuhoxa futhi igweme. Yiqiniso, uma wena ngokwakho ungakhululekile kakhulu emphakathini, maningi amathuba okuthi ingane yakho iphinde ikhiqize ukungabathembi kwakho abanye. Kodwa amahloni awatholakali ngofuzo, futhi lesi sici singanqotshwa kancane kancane uma usiza ingane yakho ukuba ibhekane nesimo.ukukhathazeka komphakathi.

Ingane enamahloni iyesaba ukubhekana nokwahlulelwa abanye futhi lokhu kukhathazeka kuvame ukuhambisana nomuzwa wokuqondwa kabi. Mbuze njalo ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, lalela ukuthi uthini noma uyavumelana naye noma cha. Ukumnaka kuyokhulisa ukuzethemba kwakhe, futhi lapho ekhuluma nawe ngokwengeziwe, kuyoba ngokwemvelo ngokwengeziwe ukukhuluma nabanye.

Lingisa amahloni emantombazaneni nasebafana

Amahloni njengendlela yokuzivikela akudingekile ukuba abe negative. Kuyisici esijulile somuntu lapho ngokwesiko sihlobanisa izimfanelo ezithile ezinjengozwela, inhlonipho kanye nesizotha. Ngaphandle kokucabanga ngakho, chazela ingane yakho lokho amahloni akulona iphutha elibi kakhulu nokuthi kubalulekile ukuzamukela njengoba unjalo.

Mtshele ngesipiliyoni sakho nawe. Ukwazi ukuthi nawe uke wabhekana novivinyo olufanayo kuzomenza azizwe enesizungu.

Ingane egodliwe kakhulu: Ikhipha amalebula aphikisayo emahloni

Imisho yohlobo ” Mxolele unamahloni kancane Kubonakala sengathi azinangozi, kodwa zenza ingane yakho ikholelwe ukuthi iyisici esingenakulungiseka esiyingxenye yemvelo yayo nokuthi akunakwenzeka ukuba yenze okuhlukile.

Le lebula ingasetshenziswa futhi njengezaba zokuyeka ukufuna ukushintsha nokugwema zonke izimo zomphakathi ezibuhlungu kuye.

Yenza: gwema ukukhuluma ngamahloni engane yakho phambi kwabantu

Izingane ezinamahloni ziwazwela ngokweqile amagama azikhathazayo. Ukukhuluma ngamahloni akhe nabanye omama ngemva kokuphuma kwesikole kuyomane kumenze abe namahloni futhi kwenze inkinga ibe nzima nakakhulu.

Futhi ukumgcona ngakho kungawaqinisa amahloni akhe.

Ngisho noma ngezinye izikhathi ukuziphatha kwakhe kukucasula, yazi ukuthi amazwi alimazayo ashiwo ekuthukutheleni agxilile kakhulu ekhanda lengane yakho nokuthi uzodinga zonke izahlulelo ezinhle ukuze aziqede. .

Ungajahi ingane yakho ebuhlotsheni bayo nabanye

Ukuhlale emkhuthaza ukuba aye kwabanye kungase kumnezele ekuphathekeni kabi futhi kukhulise ukwesaba kwakhe. Ingane izoba nomuzwa wokuthi abazali bayo abayiqondi futhi izophinde ibuyele emuva nakakhulu kuye. Kungcono hamba lapho ngezinyathelo ezincane futhi uhlale uhlakaniphile. Ukunqoba amahloni akho kungenziwa kuphela kancane kancane futhi ngobumnene.

Ukuziphatha okunamahloni: Gwema ukuvikela ingane yakho ngokweqile

Ukuyeka ukubhalisa ingane yakho ekilabhini yezemidlalo ukuze ingaphathwa amahloni kuyoba nomphumela ophambene nalokho okufunayo. Lesi simo sengqondo simenza acabange ukuthi lokhu kwesaba kunesisekelo esiqinile nokuthi abantu bayamahlulela ngempela futhi banenzondo. Ukugwema kukhulisa ukwesaba kunokukunciphisa. Kufanele umvumele afunde ukubhekana nezinkinga zobudlelwane bakhe ukuze athathe indawo yakhe phakathi kwabanye.

Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, hlala ungenakunyakaziswa uma kuziwa endabeni yenhlonipho. Amahloni akhe akufanele asetshenziswe njengezaba zokuthi “sawubona”, “ngiyacela” noma “ngiyabonga”.

Phakamisa izimo enganeni yakho

Ungakwazi ukuphrakthiza izigcawu zokuphila kwansuku zonke noma impilo yesikole ezimethusayo ekhaya. Izimo zakhe zizobonakala zijwayelekile kuye, futhi ngenxa yalokho ziyancipha ukucindezeleka.

Mbekele izinselele ezincane, njengokubingelela ofunda naye ngosuku noma uku-oda isinkwa kumbhaki bese uyakhokha. Le nqubo izomvumela ukuthi athole ukuzethemba futhi aqhubekisele phambili isibindi sakhe ngomnyakazo ngamunye omuhle.

Ukwazisa ingane yakho enamahloni

Mhalalisele ngokushesha lapho ezuza okuthile okuncane kwansuku zonke. Izingane ezinamahloni zivame ukukholelwa ukuthi ngeke ziphumelele noma zizokwahlulelwa kabi. Ngakho ngayo yonke imizamo yakhe, sebenzisa futhi uhlukumeze izincomo ezigcizelela isenzo esihle asanda kusenza. “Ngiyaziqhenya ngawe. Uyabona, ukwazile ukunqoba ukwesaba kwakho"," Indlela onesibindi ngayo “, Njll. Kuzoqinisa ukuzethemba kwakhe.

Nqoba amahloni engane yakho ngenxa yemisebenzi yangemva kwesikole (ithiyetha, ikarati, njll.)

Xhumana nemidlalo efana ne-judo noma i-karate izomvumela ukuba ukulwa nokuzizwa ephansi, kuyilapho indalo yobuciko izomsiza ukuba akhiphe imizwelo nokuhlupheka kwakhe. Kodwa mngenise kulezi zinhlobo zemisebenzi kuphela uma ethanda, ukuze angamncisha umoya noma abeke engcupheni yokwaliwa ngokuphelele okungaholela ekuhoxisweni. Ithiyetha nayo ingaba yindlela enhle yokuthi athuthukise ukuzethemba kwakhe. Izifundo zokuthuthukisa izingane zikhona ikakhulukazi ukuzivumela ukuthi zingagodli futhi zikhululeke ekuphileni kwansuku zonke.

Ingane enamahloni: ungakugwema kanjani ukuhlukaniswa nengane yakho

Izinsuku zokuzalwa zingathatha ukubonakala kobunzima bangempela kwabancane abanamahloni. Ungamphoqi ukuthi ahambe uma engezwa. Ngokolunye uhlangothi, ungangabazi ukumema ezinye izingane zizodlala naye ekhaya. Ekhaya, endaweni ejwayelekile, uzonqoba ukukhathazeka kwakhe kalula. Futhi kuyoba njalo ukhululeke kakhudlwana nomngane oyedwa kuphela ngesikhathi, kunokuba neqembu lonke labangane. Ngokufanayo, ukudlala nengane encane kancane ngezikhathi ezithile kuyibeka endaweni ephakeme futhi kungase kuyenze ibe nokuzethemba okwengeziwe kwezinye izingane ezingontanga yazo.

Usizo lwengqondo luyadingeka uma ukuvimbela kwakhe kuholela esimweni sengqondo sokuhlehla kanye nokulibaziseka kwentuthuko. Kulokhu, funa umbono walabo abaseduze kwakho futhi ikakhulukazi uthisha wakhe wesikole.

Usizo lwengqondo luyadingeka uma ukuvimbela kwakhe kuholela esimweni sengqondo sokuhlehla kanye nokulibaziseka kwentuthuko. Kulokhu, funa umbono walabo abaseduze kwakho futhi ikakhulukazi uthisha wakhe wesikole.

Umbono kaDkt Dominique Servant, udokotela wengqondo esibhedlela saseLille University

Incwadi yakhe yakamuva, ethi, The Anxious Child and Adolescent (ed. Odile Jacob), inikeza iseluleko esilula nesisebenzayo sokusiza ingane yethu ukuthi ingasahlushwa ukukhathazeka kwayo futhi ikhule iqinisekisiwe.

Amathiphu angu-6 okusiza ingane ukuba inqobe amahloni ayo

Ukuze umsize athole ukuzethemba, mnike "amathegi", phakamisa izimo ezincane ngokumbonisa indlela yokuziphatha futhi acele ukudlala isiteji, njengoba ubungenza ngaphambi kwenhlolokhono yomsebenzi! Lokhu kuzokhulula kancane kancane ukungezwani kwakhe okukhathazayo. Le ndlela yokulingisa iphumelela ikakhulukazi uma zingekho izethameli ngaphandle kwakho naye. Umgomo awukona ukuletha ingane yakho esifundweni sikaFlorent kodwa ukuyinikeza ukuzethemba ngokwanele ukuze ibe nesibindi sokukhuluma ekilasini noma eqenjini elincane.

Uma esaba ukufona, lungiselela naye imisho emithathu kuya kwemine emifushane ekuvumela ukuba uzethule futhi uqale ingxoxo. Bese-ke, mcele (ngokwesibonelo) ukuthi ashayele isitolo samabhuku abuze ukuthi banawo yini amahlaya akamuva awafunayo futhi abuze mayelana namahora okuvulwa kwesitolo. Mvumele akwenze futhi ikakhulukazi ungamnqamuli engxoxweni yakhe futhi kungemuva kokuvala ucingo lapho uzomkhombisa ukuthi ubungenze kanjani (ngaphandle uma ucingo lwakhe ludinga ukuhalaliselwa!)

Uma enamahloni ngokushesha lapho kudingekile ukukhuluma phambi "komuntu angamazi", mnikeze, ngesikhathi sokuphuma ukuya endaweni yokudlela, khuluma noweta ukuze a-ode umndeni wonke ukudla. Uzofunda ukuzethemba futhi uzolokotha “ukucindezela imingcele” ngokuqhubekayo ngokuzayo.

Uma enenkinga yokuhlanganisa iqembu (eklabhu yezemidlalo, esikhungweni sasemini, ekilasini, njll.), dlala naye indawo lapho kuzomele azethule khona, emnikeza amathiphu: ” ufika eqenjini lezingane lapho obone khona umuntu omaziyo bese ubabuza okuthize. Uma ephendula wena hlala ubambe indawo yakho eqenjini noma ungasho lutho. »Ngakho uzobe umsize ukuthi athathe isinyathelo sokuqala.

Bachaye kancane kancane ezimweni ezintsha, ngokwesibonelo ngokusikisela ukuthi babuyekeze ezinye zezifundo zabo eqenjini elincane ekhaya.

Umbhalise (uma ethanda) ku a iklabhu yaseshashalazini : akuyena ozokhuluma kodwa umlingisi okuzomele alidlale. Futhi kancane kancane, uzofunda ukukhuluma phambi kwabantu. Uma engazizwa ekhululekile, ungambhalisa futhi emdlalweni othintana naye (i-judo, i-karate), ezomvumela ukuba alwe nomuzwa wakhe wokuzizwa ephansi.

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