Ukuhlukunyezwa esikoleni: kunikeze izihluthulelo zokuzivikela

Indlela yokubhekana nokuxhashazwa enkulisa?

Ukugconwa, ukuhlukaniswa, ukuklwejwa, ukugigiyela, ukudonsa izinwele … isimo sokuxhashazwa asisisha, kodwa siyakhula futhi sikhathaza abazali nothisha ngokwandayo. Ngisho nenkulisa ayishiywa, futhi njengoba umelaphi u-Emmanuelle Piquet egcizelela: “Ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngezingane ezihlukunyezwa ngaleso sikhathi, siyabona ukuthi ngokuvamile kuyafana abasunduzwayo, abahlaba amathoyizi abo, babekwe phansi, badonse izinwele, luma. Ngamafuphi, kukhona izingane ezisacathula ngezinye izikhathi ukukhathazeka ngobudlelwano njalo. Futhi uma bengasizwanga, kungenzeka futhi esikoleni samabanga aphansi noma ekolishi. “

Kungani ingane yami ixhashazwa?

Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, kungenzeka kunoma iyiphi ingane, ayikho iphrofayili evamile, asikho isisulu esiqokwe ngaphambili. Ubandlululo aluxhunyaniswe nemibandela yomzimba, kodwa kunalokho nokuba sengozini okuthile. Ezinye izingane zisheshe zibone ukuthi zingasebenzisa amandla azo kulokhu.

Ungakubona kanjani ukuxhashazwa esikoleni?

Ngokungafani nezingane ezindala, izingane ezisacathula zithulula isifuba kubazali bazo kalula. Uma bebuya esikoleni, balandisa ngosuku lwabo. Eyakho ikutshela ukuthi siyamhlupha ekhefu?Ungayibeki eceleni inkinga ngokumtshela ukuthi kulungile, ukuthi uzobona okuningi, ukuthi akayena ushukela, ukuthi mkhulu ngokwanele ukuba azinakekele. Ingane ecasula abanye iba buthaka. Mlalele, umbonise ukuthi unesithakazelo kuye nokuthi ukulungele ukumsiza uma ekudinga. Uma ethola ukuthi ululaza inkinga yakhe, angase angakutsheli okunye, ngisho noma isimo siba sibi kakhulu kuye. Cela imininingwane ukuze uthole umbono ocacile walokho okwenzekayo: Ubani okuphazamisile? Kwaqala kanjani? Senzeni kuwe? Nawe ? Mhlawumbe ingane yakho iqale yahlasela? Mhlawumbe yi- ingxabano yesikhashana ehlobene nesigameko esithile?

Inkulisa: inkundla yokudlala, indawo yezingxabano

Inkundla yokudlala yenkulisa iyi-a khulula umusi lapho izingane ezisacathula kufanele zifunde ukunganyathelwa. Izingxabano, ukulwa nokungqubuzana ngokomzimba akunakugwenywa futhi kuyasiza, ngoba kuvumela ingane ngayinye ukuthi ithole indawo yayo eqenjini, ifunde. ukuhlonipha abanye nokuhlonishwa ngaphandle kwekhaya. Kuncike ekutheni akubona bonke abakhulu nabanamandla ababusayo nabancane nabazwelayo abahluphekayo. Uma ingane yakho ikhononda izinsuku ezimbalwa zilandelana ngokuthi iphathwe ngesihluku, uma ikutshela ukuthi akekho ofuna ukudlala nayo, uma ishintsha isimilo sayo, uma imadolonzima ukuya esikoleni, qaphela kakhulu. 'kubekwe. Futhi uma uthisha eqinisekisa ukuthi ingcebo yakho ihlukanisiwe kancane, ukuthi ayinabo abangane abaningi futhi inenkinga yokuhlangana nokudlala nezinye izingane, awusabhekene nobunzima. , kodwa enkingeni okuzodingeka ixazululwe.

Ubuxhwanguxhwangu esikoleni: gwema ukubuvikela ngokweqile

Ngokusobala, umzwelo wokuqala wabazali abafuna ukwenza kahle uwukusiza ingane yabo ebunzimeni. Bayahamba bhebhana nalomfana ogangayo ophonsa ibhola ekhanda lekherubi labo, balindele intombazane emnene edonsa izinwele ezinhle zenkosazana yabo ekuphumeni kwesikole ukuze imfundise. Lokhu angeke kuvimbe izigilamkhuba ukuthi ziqale ngosuku olulandelayo. Kulokhu, baphinde bahlasele abazali bomhlaseli abamthatha kabi futhi banqabe ukuvuma ukuthi ingelosi yabo encane inobudlova. Ngamafuphi, ngokungenelela ukuxazulula inkinga yengane, esikhundleni sokulungisa izinto, bathatha ingozi abenze babe babi kakhulu kanye nokuqhubeza lesi simo. Ngokuka-Emmanuelle Piquet: “Ngokuqoka umhlukumezi, benza eyabo ingane isisulu. Kunjengokungathi bathi emntwaneni onobudlova: “Hamba-ke, ungaqhubeka nokuntshontsha amathoyizi akhe singekho, awazi ukuzivikela! "Ingane ehlukunyeziwe iqala kabusha isimo sayo njengesisulu ngokwayo." Qhubeka, qhubeka ungiphushe, angeke ngikwazi ukuzivikela ngedwa! “

Bika kunkosikazi? Akuwona umqondo omuhle kakhulu!

I-reflex yesibili evamile yabazali abavikelayo iwukweluleka ingane ukuba ikhononde ngokushesha kumuntu omdala: "Ngokushesha lapho ingane ikuhlupha, ugijima utshele uthisha!" “Nalapha futhi, lesi simo sengqondo sinomthelela omubi, sicacisa ukuncipha: Inikeza ingane ebuthaka ubunikazi bentatheli, futhi wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi le lebula imbi kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bomphakathi! Labo ababikela uthisha bayababheka, noma ubani ophambuka kulo mthetho ulahlekelwa kakhulu “ukuduma” kwakhe futhi lokhu, ngaphambi kwe-CM1. “

Ukuhlukumeza: ungajahi ngqo kuthisha

Indlela yesithathu evamile yokusabela kwabazali, begqugquzelwa ukuba benze izinto ezizuzisa ingane yabo ehlukunyeziwe, iwukubika le nkinga kuthisha: “Ezinye izingane zinobudlova futhi aziphathi kahle enganeni yami ekilasini kanye/noma ngesikhathi sokuphumula. . Unamahloni futhi akalokothi asabele. Buka ukuthi kwenzakalani. "Yebo uthisha uzongenelela, kodwa ngokuzumayo, uzophinde aqinisekise ilebula" yento encane ebuthakathaka engakwazi ukuzivikela yedwa futhi ekhononda ngaso sonke isikhathi "emehlweni abanye abafundi. Kuyenzeka nokuthi ukukhononda okuphindaphindiwe nokucela kumcasule kakhulu futhi agcine ethi: “Yeka ukukhononda njalo, zinakekele!” Futhi ngisho noma isimo sidamba isikhashana ngenxa yokuthi izingane ezinolaka ziye zajeziswa futhi zesaba esinye isijeziso, ukuhlasela kuvame ukuqala kabusha ngokushesha nje lapho ukunaka kukathisha kuncipha.

Ungayisiza kanjani ingane eyisisulu sokuxhashazwa esikoleni?

Ngenhlanhla, kwabancane abacasula abanye, isimo sengqondo esifanele sokuxazulula inkinga unomphela sikhona. Njengoba u-Emmanuelle Piquet echaza: “ Ngokuphambene nalokho abazali abaningi abakucabangayo, uma ugwema ukucindezela amatshwele akho, uwenza abe sengozini nakakhulu. Lapho sibavikela kakhulu, siba mbalwa kakhulu! Kufanele sizibeke eceleni kwabo, kodwa hhayi phakathi kwabo nomhlaba, sibasize bazivikele, basuse isimo sabo sezisulu unomphela! Amakhodi endawo yokudlala acacile, izinkinga ziqale zixazululwe phakathi kwezingane nalezo ezingasafuni ukuhlushwa kumele zizithwese zona zithi ziyeke. Ngalokho, udinga ithuluzi lokuthethelela umhlaseli. U-Emmanuelle Piquet weluleka abazali ukuba bakhe “umcibisholo womlomo” nengane yabo, umusho, isenzo, isimo sengqondo, esizomsiza ukuthi aphinde alawule isimo futhi aphume esikhundleni sokuthi "curled up / plaintive". Umthetho uwukusebenzisa lokho omunye akwenzayo, ukushintsha ukuma kwakho ukuze ummangaze. Yingakho le nqubo ibizwa ngokuthi "i-verbal judo".

Ukuhlukunyezwa: isibonelo sikaGabriel

Icala likaGabriel oyichubby kakhulu (iminyaka engu-3 nengxenye ubudala) uyisibonelo esiphelele. USalome, umngane wakhe wasenkulisa, akakwazanga ukuzibamba wancinza izihlathi zakhe ezinhle eziyindilinga kanzima. Abagcini bengane bamchazele ukuthi akulungile, ukuthi uyamhlukumeza, bamjezisa. Ekhaya, abazali bakaSalomé nabo bamthethisa ngokuziphatha kwakhe okunonya kuGabriel. Akukho okwasiza ithimba laze lacabanga ukushintsha inkulisa yakhe. Ikhambi lalingenakuvela kuSalomé, kodwa kuGabriel ngokwakhe, nguye okwadingeka ashintshe isimo sakhe sengqondo! Engakammpintshi nakancane, wayesesaba, wabe esekhala. Sibeka imakethe ezandleni zakhe: “Gabriel, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala uyi-marshmallow empintshwayo, noma uphenduke ingwe bese ubhonga kakhulu!” Wakhetha ingwe, wabhonga esikhundleni sokukhala lapho uSalome ezilahla kuye, wamangala waze wafa. Wayeqonda ukuthi akanawo wonke amandla futhi akaphindanga wampintsha uGabriel iTiger.

Ezimweni zokuhlukunyezwa, ingane ehlukunyeziwe kufanele isizwe ekuguquleni izindima ngokudala ingozi. Uma nje ingane ehlukunyezwayo ingayesabi ingane ehlukunyeziwe, isimo asishintshi.

Ubufakazi bukaDiane, unina kaMelvil (oneminyaka engu-4 nengxenye ubudala)

“Ekuqaleni, uMelvil wayejabule ngokubuyela kwakhe esikoleni. Usendaweni ephindwe kabili, ubeyingxenye yezindlela futhi ubeziqhenya ngokuba nabantu abadala. Ngokuhamba kwezinsuku, isasasa lakhe liye lehla ngokuphawulekayo. Ngamthola engasekho, engasajabule neze. Wagcina esengitshela ukuthi abanye abafana ekilasini lakhe abafuni ukudlala naye ngesikhathi sokuphumula. Ngabuza unkosikazi wakhe owangiqinisekisa ukuthi wayeyedwa kancane futhi wayevame ukuzokhosela kuye, ngoba abanye babemcasula! Igazi lami liphendukile kuphela. Ngakhuluma noThomas, uyise, owangitshela ukuthi naye wayehlukunyezwa lapho efunda ibanga lesine, ukuthi usephenduke idlanzana lezingane eziqinile ezazimbiza ngoTomato ngokumhleka nokuthi unina. washintsha isikole sakhe! Wayengakaze angitshele ngakho futhi lokho kwangicasula ngoba ngangithembele kuyise ukuthi uzofundisa uMelvil indlela yokuzivikela. Ngakho-ke, ngaphakamisa ukuthi uMelvil athathe izifundo zemidlalo yokulwa. Wavuma ngaso leso sikhathi ngoba wayesekhathele ukuphushwa ebiza ama-minus. Wahlola i-judo futhi wayithanda. Kwakungumngane owanginikeza lesi seluleko esihle. UMelvil washeshe wathola ukuzethemba futhi nakuba enokwakheka kwezimfanzi, i-judo imnike ukuzethemba emandleni akhe okuzivikela. Uthisha wamfundisa ukubhekana nomuntu okungenzeka amhlasele, ebambelele kahle emilenzeni yakhe, ukuze ambheke ngqo emehlweni. Wamfundisa ukuthi akudingekile ukuba ushaye isibhakela ukuze uphumelele, kwanele ukuba abanye bazizwe bengesabi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uthole abangani abasha abahle kakhulu abamema ukuthi beze bazodlala ekhaya ngemva kwekilasi. Kwamkhipha kweyakhe ukuzihlukanisa. Namuhla, uMelvil ubuyela esikoleni ngenjabulo, uzizwa ejabule ngaye, akasakhungatheki futhi udlala nabanye ngesikhathi sokuphumula. Futhi lapho ebona ukuthi abantu abadala bawisa kancane noma bamdonsa izinwele, uyangenelela ngoba akakwazi ukumelana nobudlova. Ngiyaziqhenya kakhulu ngomfana wami omkhulu! ”