Iholidi lobulili ngoMashi 8, kanye nalo ngoFebhuwari 14, seliphenduke isikhathi sokuphumula futhi lijabule laba izaba zokuxabana nokudangala. Uthando alwanele kuwo wonke umuntu futhi njalo, kodwa kulezi zinsuku ukushoda kubhebhetheka, abesifazane balindele ukubonakaliswa kwayo ikakhulukazi ngokushuba. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Elena Mkrtychan usitshela ukuthi ungashintsha kanjani isimo sakho sengqondo ngamaholide.
Kungase kubonakale sengathi abesifazane bazi kahle ukuthi lezi ziyimihlangano: mayelana noSt. Valentine, futhi mayelana noClara Zetkin noRosa Luxembourg, kodwa noma kunjalo abakwazi ukusiza kodwa balinde ukuqinisekiswa ukuthi bayadingeka, bayathandwa, ngokufunwa, abakhohliwe. Futhi uma bengakwenzi, ke sawubona, ukudangala nokucindezeleka. Ukuntuleka kothando akugcwaliswa, umuzwa, ongaqapheli ngaso sonke isikhathi, ufana nalokhu: “ngisho nanamuhla akakwazi ukwenza into ejabulisayo”, “nanamuhla angizizwa ngithandwa.”
Ezungeze injabulo evamile kanye nomoya ophezulu, emsebenzini, ama-tulips aluhlaza angavuliwe anikezwa phakathi, kodwa lokhu kwenza kube buhlungu nakakhulu. Njengoba wazi, isizungu esibi kakhulu isizungu esixukwini. Uma, isibonelo, umakhelwane, umdayisi ojwayelekile esitolo, futhi ngokuvamile noma yimuphi umuntu odlulayo angahalalisela ngoNyaka Omusha, khona-ke maphakathi no-February nasekuqaleni kuka-March, abesifazane balindele ukuhalalisela amadoda, kanye nalabo bathathe indawo ebalulekile ekuphileni kwabo.
Kodwa isimo sobulili besilisa ngegama elithi «kufanele» ebudlelwaneni sihlala sihluleka. Kuvusa inkani, ukwenqaba, ukwesaba ukungaphili ngokuvumelana nalokho okulindelekile, ukuphikiswa kanye nombuzo othi: “Kungani ngikweleta okuthile?”
Kuvela, futhi akazange ukuhalalisela - ibhoboze, futhi sahalalisela - kusekubi
Abaningi babo bangase banikeze amakhosikazi abo noma intombi yabo izimbali kanjalo nje, bathenge isipho ngokuzenzakalelayo noma baphendule iseluleko mayelana nendandatho abayithandayo ... ukuhlolwa, bawela ebuthongweni.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo singase sithuthuke ngezindlela ezahlukene. Isibonelo, indoda yahalalisela, kodwa yephuzile ngokuhalalisela (ulele, kunzima kuye) - owesifazane akajabule. Indoda yenza isipho, kodwa ayizange iqagele kahle ngokukhetha (abangane abahlakaniphile benza uhlu lwezifiso kusengaphambili), - iholide lakhe lonakalisiwe. Le ndoda ayizange ihalalisele nakancane - iveze konke ekucabangayo ngakho, ikhumbula amaholide adlule anenhlekelele nezikhalo zakudala.
Futhi, ekugcineni, le ndoda yenza konke okulungile: ngesikhathi, ngezimbali, ngesipho nokuqabula, kodwa uphendula into enjengale: "Yebo, namuhla ngoMashi 8, wayenesibopho, wayengenandawo yokuya. , wayengafuni ukungena engxabanweni esobala”, “izimbali zomsebenzi”, “imimoya yomsebenzi” nokunye okunjalo. Kuvele, futhi akazange ukuhalalisela - wabhoboza, futhi sahalalisela - kusekubi.
Iqiniso liwukuthi lawa maholide, esikhundleni sokuthulula impilo yansuku zonke, abangela ukucasuka, ukudangala nokucindezeleka.
Lezi ziqephu aziveli ekhanda, kodwa zivela ekusebenzeni. Ngoba kusemazini zokusebenza kwengqondo ukubhekana nemiphumela yokugubha uSuku lweValentine kanye noSuku Lwabesifazane Lwamazwe Ngamazwe, futhi le miphumela ivela kumakhasimende abo bobabili ubulili. Kwabanye, ukucindezeleka kuqala kusengaphambili, kwabanye ngemva kweholide.
Akucaci ukuthi ubani onzima kakhulu: labo abasebudlelwaneni, noma abangashadile, labo abaqala ukwazi umlingani, noma labo abahlukana naye, futhi kamuva nje. Kubi kuwo wonke umuntu. Iqiniso liwukuthi lawa maholide, esikhundleni sokuthulula impilo yansuku zonke, abangela ukucasuka, ukudangala nokucindezeleka.
Kwenziwani ngakho konke lokhu? Ngiphakamisa ukudlala amaholidi abathandi nosuku lwabesifazane, futhi ngingawathatheli phezulu. Njengoba nazi, uSuku Lwezithandani lugujwa ngentshiseko ethile eMelika, lapho isanta saseYurophu esithobekile siphendulwe omunye ummeleli wenqwaba, isiko le-pop lamakhadi.
E-US, leli iholide langempela labantu abadala. Futhi lapha kuyathandwa ikakhulukazi phakathi kwezingane kanye nentsha. Kubo lolu wusuku lwamanothi, ngisho nezintombi nothisha babhalelana amanothi. Futhi yonke le mikhuba ibonakala ifana nokuqeqesha ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa yangempela. Futhi abantu abasha benza okulungile, ukuthi bayaziqeqesha, bakha noma yimiphi imizwa yabo, kuhlanganise nozwela nobungane.
Kodwa hhayi ezinganeni, ngisho nangabantu abadala, ukusekela umuzwa wabo wobugovu ezicini ezingathi shu zeholidi elingenangqondo njengokuthi «valentines», vele, akulungile futhi kuyingozi. Omunye umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwengqondo yaseRussia kanye nendlela yaseNtshonalanga yokucabanga ukuthi e-United States kunesilinganiso esicacile kakhulu, esihloswe kuzo zonke izifiso zokuphila - lokhu kuyimpumelelo, impumelelo, inhlalakahle yangaphandle.
Emindenini yaseMelika, izikhathi eziningana ngosuku, bayaqinisekisana: "Ngiyakuthanda." Ngakho wamukele. Kodwa lokho akubenzi bangabi nankinga.
Kunezibonakaliso eziningana zokufezeka kwephupho laseMelika: umsebenzi, imali, umndeni omalungu awo izikhathi eziningana ngosuku aqinisekisana: "Ngiyakuthanda." Ngakho wamukele. Ngingasho nje ukuthi abanazo izinkinga zomndeni ngenxa yalokhu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu abaningi baphoqeleka ukuba bayeke ukuzifunela bona, belandela isimo esivunyelwe, ukuze, uNkulunkulu angakwenzi, bangakutholi ukucwaswa "komuntu olahlekile" emphakathini.
Ngakho-ke, esinye sezibonakaliso ezivame ukwamukelwa yinombolo yokuhalalisela etholwe ngoFebhuwari 14. Uma kungenjalo, izinto zimbi kakhulu: awukwazanga ukuzuza uzwela, awukwazi ukwethula kahle futhi uzithengise! Indlela engamanga engabizwa ngokuthi inhlekisa uma isizwe sonke singahlukunyezwa yikho.
Umhla ziyisi-8 kuNdasa yindaba ehlukile. Leli iholide lombuso waseSoviet elikhulu, elibekwe "kusuka phezulu", cishe okuyimpoqo. Iholide lapho abaphathi behalaliselwa khona ngesipho esikhulu, nonobhala abanesincane, nakuba isimo sabo senhlalo singabenzi abesifazane abancane noma abaningi.
Sekuyisikhathi sokunqoba konke lokhu kuhlanekezelwa komlando, okungenani engqondweni yakho, futhi ungafaki ubudlelwano bakho nezwe lakho elingokomoya esivivinyweni seholide, ungabenzi bancike ekufikeni kwesikhathi kanye nezindleko zezipho, yiba nesihawu kancane. amadoda, ambozwe amabala abomvu, azama okuthile akuthola kubaluleki esitolo sezingubo zangaphansi.
Masikhumbule ukuthi uthando lweqiniso alulindi izehlakalo eziyisipesheli ukuthi zivezwe noma ziqinisekiswe. Usuku luka-Valentine alulona iholide lothando ngokwalo, inhliziyo ebomvu ayilona uphawu lwayo, ngoba empilweni uthando aluyona into yokudlala. I-aesthetics yoSuku Luka-Valentine akuwona ubuhle bothando, kodwa izibikezelo zayo. Futhi i-8 March akuyona iholidi labesifazane, kodwa lomzabalazo wabesifazane wamalungelo alinganayo namadoda ekukhiqizeni nasezikhulwini zomphakathi.
Ngikweluleka ngokuqinile ukuthi uthathe isinyathelo ezandleni zakho futhi ujabulele lezi zinsuku ngokugcwele. Ungahlali endaweni yokulinda, kodwa dlala ngothando futhi ugxile enjabulweni yokuveza imizwa yakho siqu, futhi ungabali izivumo zabanye abantu.