Ngamunye wethu uke wahlangana nabo okungenani kanye ezimpilweni zethu. Abukeka enyanyeka: izingubo ezingcolile, iphunga elibi. Abanye babo bayasina, abanye bayacula, abanye bahaya izinkondlo, abanye bakhulumela phezulu. Kwesinye isikhathi baba nolaka, bathuka abadlula ngendlela, baze bakhafule. Imvamisa, ukwesaba kufihlwe ngenxa yokungathandi kwabo - kodwa yini ngempela esiyesabayo? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uLelya Chizh sikhuluma ngalokhu.
Ukuba eduze kwabo akukhululekile kithi - akukho umuzwa wokuphepha. Siyasuka, sijike, senze sengathi abekho nhlobo. Sesaba kakhulu ukuthi bazosondela kithi, basithinte. Kuthiwani uma besingcolisa? Kuthiwani uma sithola uhlobo oluthile lwesifo sesikhumba kubo? Futhi ngokuvamile, kubonakala sengathi siyabesaba ukuthi «bathelele» ukuthi bangobani, ukuze bafane njengabo.
Ukuhlangana nabo kubangela uhla lonke lwemizwa. Abantu abanegazi elibandayo nabangenandaba bazizwa benengekile. Abantu abanozwela abaningi bangase babe namahloni, benecala, nozwela.
Abantu abadala abalahliwe bayisithunzi sethu esiyiqoqo. Inkimbinkimbi yakho konke esingafuni ukukubona, siyakuphika kithi ngokwethu. Okuthile okungaphansi kokugxekwa kwangaphakathi komunye nomunye wethu kanye nomphakathi wonkana. Futhi kusobala impela ukuthi, ebhekene a ephilayo futhi asebenzayo «ukufingqa» of izakhiwo zethu ecindezelwe kanye nezimfanelo, noma ubani kithi - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyaqaphela noma cha - ubhekana nokwesaba.
Ukuhlangana nomuntu olahliwe onganele kudala ukwesaba okuhlukahlukene:
- udaka,
- ububha
- ukulamba
- isifo,
- ukuguga nokufa
- ukukhubazeka,
- uhlanya.
Ngifuna ukugxila ekugcineni, ukwesaba okubaluleke kakhulu kule nkimbinkimbi. Uma nje umuntu esakwazi ukulawula ingqondo, angakwazi ukuzivikela ngandlela-thile endlaleni, ebumpofu, ekuguleni, ekugugeni, nasekukhubazekeni. Angenza izinqumo, athathe izinyathelo ezithile ukuze avimbele izimo ezingezinhle. Ngakho-ke, uguquko olubaluleke kakhulu ekuguqulweni komuntu oguquguqukayo emphakathini abe yi-marginal enganele ukulahlekelwa isizathu. Futhi siyesaba, sesaba kakhulu.
Umuntu ocabangelayo uqala ukucabanga: lokhu kwenzeka kanjani, kungani evele walahlekelwa ingqondo yakhe
Umuntu onozwelo, onozwelo ngokungaqondile, ngokungazi uyazikhomba naleli khehla noma isalukazi esiphume ingqondo. Ikakhulukazi lapho ukubonakaliswa kobuhlakani, imfundo, ukunemba, isimo kusabonakala kuzo.
Ngokwesibonelo, ngake ngahlangana nogogo ogqoke isinxibi nomlenze ocwiyiwe, esho ngekhanda u-Eugene Onegin. Futhi ngabona abantu ababili asebekhulile abangenamakhaya abathandanayo ababehlezi phakathi kwenqwaba kadoti, bebambene ngezandla, futhi beqhudelana bodwa befunda izinkondlo zikaPasternak. Nesalukazi esihlanyayo esigqoke ijazi lemink elimnandi, elidliwa inundu, isigqoko esisobala futhi esenziwe ngokwezifiso, namatshe ayigugu omndeni.
Umuntu ocabangelayo uqala ukucabanga: lokhu kwenzeka kanjani, kungani umuntu, njengami, ngokuzumayo walahlekelwa ingqondo yakhe. Kumelwe ukuba wehlelwa inhlekelele embi kakhulu. Umcabango uyesabisa kakhulu ukuthi uma i-psyche ihluleka, khona-ke ngenxa yesenzakalo esithile esimangalisayo esingalindelekile, ungalahlekelwa ingqondo yakho. Futhi lokhu akukwazi ukubonwa kusengaphambili nganoma iyiphi indlela, futhi ayikho indlela yokuzivikela.
Lapho ifulethi esasihlala kulo seligqekeziwe, umnyango wawubhidlike kabuhlungu kanye nezinsimbi. Lapho ngibuya emsebenzini, ifulethi laligcwele abantu: ithimba labaphenyi, ofakazi. Umama wanginika ingilazi yamanzi kanye nohlobo oluthile lwephilisi elilalisayo embundwini elinamagama athi:
Ungakhathazeki, into esemqoka ukugcina impilo yakho yengqondo.
Kwenzeka ngesikhathi sokushoda ngokuphelele, futhi nakuba ngalahlekelwa yonke imali yami, izinto eziyigugu, ngisho nazo zonke izingubo zami ezinhle, futhi kwakunzima ngokwanele ukubuyisela konke lokhu, ukulahlekelwa kwakungekukhulu ngokwanele ukungihlanyisa. Nakuba kuye kwaba nezimo lapho abantu belahlekelwa izingqondo zabo ngenxa yokuswela izinto ezibonakalayo: isibonelo, ukulahlekelwa ibhizinisi, umsebenzi wokuphila noma izindlu. Nokho, kukhona izinto ezimbi kakhulu. Futhi zivame ukuhlotshaniswa nekhefu elidabukisayo ebuhlotsheni, hhayi nokulahlekelwa izinto ezibonakalayo.
Lapho ukulahlekelwa kwezindlu akuyona nje ukulahlekelwa izindlu, lapho indodana noma indodakazi ethandekayo ixosha indoda endala efulethini. Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa uphahla phezu kwekhanda lakho lapha kuyaphaphatheka ngaphambi kobuhlungu bokukhashelwa nokulahlekelwa uthando lomuntu oseduze kakhulu, lowo azinikele kuye impilo yakhe yonke.
Umngane wami walahlekelwa ingqondo isikhashana ngenxa yezimo ezibuhlungu. Wayeneminyaka engamashumi amabili ubudala, wayethandana nensizwa, wayekhuleliswe yiyo. Futhi kungazelelwe wathola ukuthi umfana wayemkhohlisa nomngane wakhe. Kubukeka sengathi leli cala alivumelekile, lenzeka kaningi. Omunye ubezomsusa empilweni yakhe, akhohlwe igama lembuka.
Kodwa umngane wami waba nengqondo ebuthakathaka kakhulu, futhi kuye kwaba inhlekelele yangempela. Walahlekelwa ingqondo, waba nemibono ezwakalayo futhi ebonwayo, wazama ukuzibulala, wagcina esesibhedlela sabagula ngengqondo, lapho ephuziswe khona izidakamizwa. Kwadingeka abize ukuzalwa kokwenziwa, futhi walahlekelwa ingane. Ngenhlanhla, walulama, nakuba kwamthatha iminyaka eyishumi.
Babonakala benganele kithi, kodwa bona ngokwabo abahlupheki nhlobo. Banethezekile futhi bajabule eqinisweni labo le-subjective
Ngokuvamile, kusukela ekulahlekelweni kwesizathu, maye, akekho ovikelekile. Kodwa ukuze ngikuqinisekise kancane, ngizosho okulandelayo: abahlali bengajabulile, laba "bayahlanya". Uma isalukazi simamatheka, sidansa futhi sicula izingoma zopopayi, cishe siphile saka. Futhi lowo ofunda ngokucacile i-Pushkin, bese uyakhothama, njengokungathi uvela esiteji, futhi. Babonakala benganele kithi, kodwa bona ngokwabo abahlupheki nhlobo. Banethezekile futhi bajabule eqinisweni labo le-subjective. Kodwa kukhona abamemeza abadlulayo, bathuke, bakhafule, baqalekise. Kubukeka sengathi basesihogweni sabo siqu.
Ngamunye wethu uphila eqinisweni lethu siqu. Imibono yethu, izinkolelo, izindinganiso, nakho kuhlukile. Uma udluliselwa emzimbeni womunye umuntu, uzozizwa sengathi uhlanya. Uzobona, uzwe, uzwe iphunga futhi unambitha ngendlela ehlukile, kuzovela imicabango ehluke ngokuphelele ekhanda lakho engabonakali ngawe. Okwamanje, nobabili kanye nalo muntu, naphezu kwakho konke ukuhluka, nivamile.
Yiqiniso, kukhona umngcele phakathi kokujwayelekile nokungajwayelekile, kodwa kubonakala kuphela kumuntu obukele ngaphandle futhi kuphela uma enobuchwepheshe obanele kulesi sihloko.
Kubonakala kimi ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuzivikela ngokuphelele ekulahlekelweni ingqondo yakho. Singanciphisa kuphela ukwesaba kwethu ngokwenza konke okusemandleni ukwenza ingqondo yethu izinze. Futhi ngicela ubaphathe ngobumnene abantu abahlanyayo basedolobheni. Kulezi zikhathi ezinzima, lokhu kungenzeka kunoma ubani.