Iholide. Sibheke ngabomvu. Siyaphupha, senza izinhlelo. Kodwa ngokuvamile sibuya sidumele, ngaphezu kwalokho, sikhathele! Kungani? Futhi ukhululeka kanjani ngempela?
Ukupakisha ipotimende futhi uye emazweni akude ... noma kude kakhulu, kodwa kusekusha futhi okungaziwa - ithemba elilingayo!
U-Alina oneminyaka engu-28 uthi: “Kimina, isikhathi esimangalisa kakhulu onyakeni sifika lapho ngiya eholidini futhi ngihluthulele umnyango wangaphambili,” kusho u-Alina oneminyaka engu-XNUMX, “futhi ngiyazi ukuthi ngokuzayo lapho ngiwuvula, ngeke nje ngilethe okusha. okuvelayo, kodwa mina ngokwami ngizoshintsha: kuyethusa kancane, kodwa kumnandi kakhulu, njengangaphambi kokugxumela emanzini.
Okungenani kanye ngonyaka, iningi lethu liphenduka libe ama-romantics, omkhumbi wabo wokuzulazula uvunguza.
Abagibeli
Kungani ngezinye izikhathi kudingeka sishiye amakhaya ethu? Esinye sezizathu isifiso sokudlulela ngale kokujwayelekile. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukubheka izinto ezijwayelekile kuyafiphala: siyeka ukuqaphela ukuphazamiseka futhi sizivumelanise nakho - isingathekiso "imbobo yesithombe sangemuva" ayisacasula.
Kodwa-ke, ngenkathi sihamba, siqala ukubuka ukuphila kwethu ngaphandle, futhi lapho sibuyela ekhaya, into yokuqala esiyibonayo ukuthi "imbobo ephepheni" kakhulu. Kodwa manje sesikulungele ukushintsha okuthile, kukhona insiza yokuthatha izinqumo.
Ukuhamba kuwukusesha: okuvelayo, abantu obajwayele, ngokwakho. Ihlala ingaphezu kwemvelo, ukudla, nemigwaqo ewubhuqu.
“Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, ulwazi lokuthi kunemiphakathi enendlela ehlukile yokuphila, ukholo, indlela yokuphila, ukudla,” kusho umthwebuli wezithombe zezokuvakasha u-Anton Agarkov. "Ngiyabazi labo abangakaze baphume endlini futhi babize impilo yabo ukuphela kweqiniso, kodwa phakathi kwabahambi angikaze ngihlangane nabalingiswa abanjalo."
Ukushiya indlu, sikhululiwe ekuphileni okujwayelekile kanye nenqubo yansuku zonke. Konke kusha - ukudla, umbhede, izimo kanye nesimo sezulu. “Sihamba ukuze siqonde ukuthi kukhona okunye ukuphila nokuthi ukubuka ngefasitela kungase kuthakazelise kunodonga lwesakhiwo esingumakhelwane esiyizitezi eziyisishiyagalolunye,” kusho u-Anton Agarkov.
Ezimweni ezingajwayelekile, sivula ama-receptors abekade elele, ngakho-ke sinomuzwa wokuthi siphila impilo ephelele.
Ngifunani
Uhambo lufaniswa nokuya ku-opera: ukusakazwa kungabuye kubukwe ku-TV, kodwa uma sigqoka kahle futhi siya endlini ye-opera ngomoya ophakeme, sithola injabulo yohlobo oluhluke ngokuphelele, sibe abahlanganyeli emcimbini ovela ngaphandle. izibukeli.
Yiqiniso, kungase kube nzima ukunquma ngesiqondiso: kunezilingo eziningi kakhulu! Ukubona esinye isithombe sokungcebeleka kokuphakelayo komngane noma ukugqugquzelwa izindaba zokuhamba, simagange ukuya eholidini, njengokungathi siye empini. Kodwa ingabe lesi script esifanelekayo singasisebenzela uma sibhalwe omunye umuntu?
“Zama ukuqonda ukuthi iyini insiza yakho, ngaphandle kokubheka i-Instagram (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) kanye nemibono yabangane,” kusikisela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uVictoria Arlauskaite. "Futhi uma usanquma ukulandela isibonelo somunye umuntu futhi, uthi, uya ezintabeni, hamba uhambo oluvamile ngaphambi kwalokho: hlola indawo."
Ukuchitha ubusuku endaweni evulekile akusho nje izinkanyezi ezingaphezu kwekhanda lakho, kodwa futhi nomhlabathi oqinile ngaphansi komhlane wakho. Futhi kungcono ukuhlola kusenesikhathi ukuthi yiziphi izinsiza esingazenza ngaphandle kwazo, futhi yiziphi ezibalulekile kithi.
Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, akufanele upheqa "ifilimu" mayelana neholide ekhanda lakho: iqiniso lisazohluka ephusheni.
Akukho ukuphikisana
Lapho uhlela iholidi, vumela isikhathi sokuphuma kancane kancane kusigqi sokusebenza. Ngaphandle kwalokho, kunengozi yokuwela esimweni esichazwa ngu-Olga oneminyaka engu-40:
“Ngobusuku bangaphambi kokuhamba, ngiqeda wonke umsebenzi ngokuxhamazela, ngishayela ucingo izihlobo, ngibhalela abangani,” ekhononda, “futhi ngilungela ukwethuka ngehora lokugcina! Izinsuku zokuqala zokuphumula zivele zinyamalale: Ngiyabuya nje engqondweni yami.
Ukuze ungene esimweni sokuphumula esikhululekile futhi ugweme ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, hlela kabusha isimiso sakho somsebenzi kusenesikhathi, kweluleka uVictoria Arlauskaite.
Ungahloli i-smartphone yakho njalo ngomzuzu, khulula ukunaka kwakho futhi uyiqondise kuwe
Kancane kancane phuma ebhizinisini futhi uqale ukupakisha izinsuku ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuhamba. Uma uzwa sengathi ucindezeleke kakhulu, thintana nomhlinzeki noma wenze umsebenzi omncane womzimba.
Kepha silapha: ezweni, ogwini lolwandle, ebhasini labavakashi noma edolobheni elisha. Ngokuvamile sifuna ukwenza isinqumo ngokushesha: kuhle noma kubi, siyayithanda le ndawo noma cha. Kodwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo siyaxwayisa:
“Ungahloli noma uhlaziye, zindla. Dala i-vacuum yengqondo, izokuvumela ukuthi ugxile emizweni emisha, vumela imisindo emisha, imibala kanye nephunga. Ungahloli i-smartphone yakho njalo ngomzuzu, khulula ukunaka kwakho futhi uyiqondise kuwe.
kuhle kancane
“Iholide lami libukeka kanje: Ngibuka inqwaba yamafilimu athokozisayo, ngifunda izincwadi ezinhlanu ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngiya kuwo wonke umnyuziyamu nendawo yokudlela engihlangana nayo endleleni, futhi ngenxa yalokho ngizizwa ngicindezelwe njengolamula, ngidinga elinye iholidi, nokunye okwengeziwe,” kuvuma uKarina oneminyaka engu-36.
Ngokuvamile sizama ukuvala yonke into esiphuthelwe ngayo phakathi nonyaka siseholidini, sidela ngisho nokulala. Kodwa yonke iminithi yeholide akudingeki ibe namandla ngangokunokwenzeka.
UVictoria Arlauskaite uyachaza: “Uma sidla zonke izitsha etafuleni ngesikhathi esisodwa, sizizwa kabi, ngendlela efanayo, uma sifuna ukubona zonke izinto esizibonayo, kuzoba nophuthu emakhanda ethu,” kuchaza uVictoria Arlauskaite, “isithombe. lifiphaziwe ngenxa yobuningi bemibono, futhi ngenxa yalokho asiphumuli, futhi sigcwele kakhulu.» Gxila entweni esemqoka — imizwa yakho.
Kungcono ukuhlela iholide ngokusekelwe kokuthandayo. Phela, uma abazali bethola injabulo kwabanye, izingane nazo zizokhululeka.
Phakathi kwabavakashile, abakhathazeke kakhulu ngezinzuzo, ingxenye enkulu ngabazali abazama ukukhanyisela izingane zabo. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi bayisa ingane eminyuziyamu kanye nohambo oluphambene nesifiso namathuba akhe. Ingane igangile, igxambukela kwabanye, abazali bayakhathala futhi bacasuke, futhi akekho ojabulayo.
“Ziqondise ngokwakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi izingane, nakuba ziyizimbali zokuphila, azigxili,” kunxusa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. — Ubuphila ukuphila okuhlukahlukene nokucebile ngaphambi kokuba bavele, uyophila ngendlela efanayo ngemva kokuba sebekhulile futhi bephuma endlini.
Yiqiniso, ekuqaleni sigxila embusweni wabo, kodwa kungcono ukuhlela iholide ngokusekelwe kokuthandayo. Phela uma abazali bethola injabulo kwabanye, izingane nazo zizokhululeka.”
hlala ukuze uthole
Kuthiwani uma uchitha iholide lakho ekhaya? Kwabanye, lokhu kuzwakala njengohlelo oluhle kakhulu: ukubeka ikhwalithi kuqala kunobuningi, naka labo abaseduze kwakho, jabulela ukuhambahamba, ukulala okumnandi kwantambama, ukugibela amabhayisikili, ukuhlangana nabangane.
Konke lokhu kuxhumana - nathi, izihlobo, imvelo, ubuhle, isikhathi - ngezinye izikhathi silahlekelwa ekuphikiseni kwansuku zonke. Ake sizibuze lo mbuzo: "Ingabe ngilungile ekhaya?" Futhi sizoyiphendula ngobuqotho, silahle imibono mayelana nokuphumula "okulungile" futhi sinikeze indawo imizwelo nemicabango.
Kumuntu, into ebaluleke kakhulu induduzo yasekhaya kanye nengaphakathi elijwayelekile, okuthi, uma lifisa, lingahlotshiswa ngemininingwane emisha, imbali noma isibani. Vumela iholide libe yindawo yamahhala yokudala lapho sivunyelwe ukwenza noma yini esiyifunayo.
Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuzokwandisa lesi simo sengqondo kwezinye izindawo zokuphila. Futhi masingazisoli ngokungenzi lutho olukhethekile noma oluvelele. Phela, lesi yisikhathi esisinikela kumlingiswa oyinhloko we-biography yethu - ngokwethu.