"Uyi yami!" Okufanele ukwenze uma ungumnikazi

Ubuhlobo nabathandekayo buvame ukusibekela imizwa engathandeki njengokungazethembi nokwesaba. Zihlotshaniswa nokuzethemba okuphansi kanye nesipiliyoni esibi esidlule. Ngokwesibonelo, abazali bomfana bahlukana, futhi njengoba esekhulile uyesaba ukuphinda le ndaba emndenini wakubo. Alandele umkakhe amhlukumeze ngomona.

Ebuntwaneni, ngamunye wethu wakha isu elithile lokuziphatha uma kunezimo ezingemnandi. Ngokungazi, sisebenzisa lezi zindlela zokuziphatha empilweni yabantu abadala.

Abazali bentombazane encane bayaxoxa bodwa, kodwa abayinaki. Aqale agxobe izinyawo, ahayize awele phansi. Intombazane ikhula, futhi uma kubonakala kuye ukuthi umlingani ukhuluma kancane naye futhi ecabanga okuthile okungokwakhe, uzama ukulawula isimo, ezama ukuheha ukunaka kwakhe ngazo zonke izindlela.

Amaphethini okuziphatha nezimpendulo ezivikelayo ezakhiwe ebuntwaneni zilimaza ubudlelwano babantu abadala. Nazi izinyathelo eziyisikhombisa ezizosiza ukwephula inkolelo-mbono yezingane futhi wakhe ukwethembana nomlingani wakho.

1. QINISA UMUZWA WAKHO WEQINISO

Uma ukungabaza kusenhliziyweni yokuziphatha okunamandla, udinga ukulwa nezwi elingaphakathi elizama ukuqinisa ukuntula ukuzethemba. Qaphela ukuthi uyigugu kuwena, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abanye bakuphatha kanjani. Unamandla futhi ukwazi okuningi. Noma ngabe ukucabangela kwakho kufezeka futhi kuvele ukuthi umlingani wakho uyakukhohlisa, impilo ngeke iphele.

2.MELANA AMAFLESHI OKUNOMHAWU KANYE NOKUZIPHATHA OKUPHATHELENE

Uma kungenjalo, uzifaka engozini yokuphusha umlingani wakho kude. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhathazeke kangakanani, zama ukungamcindezeli. Ungalinaki izwi elingaphakathi elikufundisa ukujezisa umlingani wakho ngenxa yokukhathazeka kwakho: “Ufike ekhaya sekwedlule isikhathi evela emsebenzini ukuze ujabule naye. Ungakhulumi naye - mtshele ukuthi angahlala kanjani."

3. YAZI LEMIZWA ESEKADLULE

Ukukhathazeka kwakho ngeke kuhambe ngokwakho. Kudingeka siqonde ukuthi ivelaphi. Okwenzeka manje yimbangela yobuhlungu obudala. Uma ufuna ukulawula umlingani wakho futhi ufuna ukuba naye ngokuphelele, phenya esikhathini esedlule. Ngale ndlela uthola ukwazi wena wangempela. Kwesinye isikhathi kunzima ukuthola ukuthi yini echaza ukuziphatha okulimazayo. Kulokhu, ukwelashwa kwengqondo kuyadingeka, okuzosiza ukuqaphela umthombo wokungaqiniseki.

4. THOLA IZINDLELA ZOKULAWULA UKUKHATHAZA KWAKHO

Umphumela omuhle unikezwa ukuzindla okuhlukahlukene kanye nemikhuba yokuphefumula ekufundisa ukubhekana nemicabango nemizwa enobuthi futhi ungabavumeli ukuba balawule ukuziphatha kwakho.

5. YEKA UKULALELA UMHLAZIYI WAKHO WANGANGAPHAKATHI

Umgxeki ohlala ngaphakathi usidlisa imicabango enobuthi: “Mhlawumbe uyakukopela”, “Ubani ozokudinga?”, “Kubukeka sengathi ufuna ukukushiya.” Ngenxa yalokho, sibhekana nokukhathazeka futhi sibonise ukuziphatha okunamandla.

6. TSHA EMPILWENI YAKHO

Lesi isinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu. Gxila empilweni yakho, hhayi eyomlingani wakho. Zibuze: “Yini ngempela engingathanda ukuyenza? Yini engijabulisa futhi engikhuthaza kakhulu? Ngokuqala ukwenza okudingekayo futhi okuthakazelisayo kuwe, ungamukela iqiniso lokuthi wena nomlingani wakho akuwona, kodwa abantu abadala, abantu abazimele abathandanayo.

7. XOXA NOTHANDA WAKHO NJENGOMUNTU OMKHULU

Khuluma ngokwesaba kwakho, ukungazethembi, nesifiso sokulawula. Lesi kube yisinyathelo sokuqala ekusunguleni ukwethembana phakathi kwenu.