Singase siwakhohlwe amagama othisha bethu nabangane basesikoleni, kodwa amagama alabo abasikhubazayo ebuntwaneni ahlala njalo enkumbulweni yethu. Udokotela wezengqondo uBarbara Greenberg wabelana ngezizathu eziyishumi zokuthi kungani sikhumbula abahlukumezi bethu kaningi.
Buza abangani bakho ngezikhalo zabo zasebuntwaneni, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi akuwona kuphela ohlushwa "izipoki zesikhathi esidlule." Wonke umuntu unokuthile okumele akukhumbule.
Uhlu lwezizathu eziyishumi zokuthi kungani singakukhohlwa ukucasuka luwusizo ukubona kwabaningi. Abantu abadala abahlukunyezwa beseyizingane ukuze babone okwenzeka kubo futhi ngaleyo ndlela baxazulule izinkinga zabo zamanje. Izingane kanye nentsha ehlukunyezwa esikoleni ukuze baqonde ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka futhi bazame ukumelana neziqhwaga. Okokugcina, kubaqalisi nabahlanganyeli bokuhlukumeza, ukucabangela ukuhlukumezeka okujulile okuthola labo abahlukunyezwayo futhi bashintshe ukuziphatha kwabo.
Kubaphuli bethu: kungani singakukhohlwa?
1. Wenze impilo yethu ingabekezeleleki. Ubungathandi ukuthi othile agqoke izingubo «ezingalungile», emude kakhulu noma emfushane, ekhuluphele noma ezacile, ehlakaniphe kakhulu noma eyisiwula. Besivele singakhululekile ukwazi ngezici zethu, kodwa futhi waqala ukuhlekisa ngathi phambi kwabanye.
Nikujabulele ukusilulaza esidlangalaleni, nezwa isidingo salokhu kuhlaziswa, anizange nisivumele ukuba siphile ngokuthula nangenjabulo. Lezi zinkumbulo azikwazi ukusulwa, njengoba nje kungenakwenzeka ukuyeka ukuzwa imizwa ehambisana nazo.
2. Sazizwa singenamandla phambi kwakho. Lapho usidlisa ushevu nabangane bakho, lokhu kungabi namandla kwanda ngokuphindaphindiwe. Okubi nakakhulu, sazizwa sinecala ngalokhu kuswela usizo.
3. Usenze saba nesizungu esibi. Abaningi bebengakwazi ukusho ekhaya ukuthi wenzeni kithi. Uma umuntu engaba nesibindi sokuxoxa nabazali bakhe, wayethola izeluleko ezingasizi ngalutho ukuthi angazinaki. Kodwa umuntu angawuboni kanjani umthombo wokuhlushwa nokwesaba?
4. Ungase ungakhumbuli nokuthi yini sasivame ukweqa amakilasi. Ekuseni, isisu sasibuhlungu ngoba kufanele siye esikoleni futhi sibekezelele ukuhlushwa. Usizwise ubuhlungu enyameni.
5. Cishe awuzange uqaphele nokuthi unamandla onke kangakanani. Ubangele ukukhathazeka, ukudangala nokugula ngokomzimba. Futhi lezi zinkinga azikapheli ngemva kokuphothula esikoleni esiphakeme. Yeka ukuthi singaba nempilo enhle kangakanani futhi sizolile kangakanani ukube awukaze ube khona.
6. Usususile indawo yethu yokunethezeka. Kwabaningi bethu, ikhaya bekungeyona indawo engcono kakhulu, futhi besikuthanda ukuya esikoleni ... waze waqala ukusihlukumeza. Awukwazi ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi yini isihogo owaguqula ubungane bethu waba!
7. Ngenxa yakho, asikwazi ukuthemba abantu. Abanye bethu babekuthatha njengabangane. Kodwa umngane angaziphatha kanjani kanje, asakaze amahlebezi futhi atshele abantu izinto ezimbi ngawe? Futhi kanjani-ke ukwethemba abanye?
8. Awusinikanga ithuba lokuhluka. Abaningi bethu basancamela ukuhlala «bancane», bengabonakali, benamahloni, esikhundleni sokwenza okuthile okuvelele nokuheha ukunaka kithi. Usifundise ukuthi singahluka esixukwini, futhi vele sesikhulile safunda kanzima ukwamukela izici zethu.
9. Ngenxa yakho, saba nezinkinga ekhaya. Intukuthelo nokucasuka okwakuhloselwe wena kwachitheka ekhaya kubafowabo nodadewabo abancane.
10. Nakithina esiye saphumelela futhi safunda ukuzizwa kahle ngathi, lezi zinkumbulo zobuntwana zibuhlungu kakhulu. Lapho izingane zethu zifinyelela iminyaka yokuba iziqhwaga, sikhathazeka nangokuxhashazwa, futhi lokho kukhathazeka kudlulela ezinganeni zethu.