Ngokuqinisekile, abaningi ezingqondweni banomfanekiso wendoda endala eyingozi engavumeli isizukulwane esisha ukuba siphile ngokuthula. Ukungalawuleki kwabanye abantu kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokufika kokuguga. Sisebenzelana nodokotela wezengqondo ukuthi kungani kunzima kakhulu ukuzwana nabantu abadala nokuthi isizathu siwubudala kuphela.
U-Alexandra, umfundi wefilosofi oneminyaka engu-21 ubudala, wavakashela ugogo wakhe ehlobo ukuze axoxe naye futhi “amhlekisa ngamahlaya namahlaya emzabalazweni wakhe ongapheli wokugula kwakhe.” Kodwa kwavela ukuthi akubanga lula kangako...
“Ugogo unobuntu obunamagqubu futhi unenhliziyo encane. Njengoba ngikuqonda, wayefana naye ebusheni bakhe, ehlulela ngezindaba zikababa. Kodwa eminyakeni yakhe ewohlokayo, ubonakala ewohloka ngokuphelele! uyaphawula.
“Ugogo angavele akhulume into ebuhlungu, angavele acasuke ngaphandle kwesizathu, aqale axabane nomkhulu kanjalo nje, ngoba kuyena vele sekuyingxenye yempilo yenhlalo engahlukaniseki! USasha uyahleka, nakuba mhlawumbe engenakho ukuzijabulisa okuningi.
“Ukuthuka inhlamba nomkhulu wakhe sekuyingxenye engenakuhlukaniswa yokuphila kwakhe”
“Ngokwesibonelo, namuhla ugogo wami, njengoba besho, uvuke ngonyawo olungafanele, ngakho phakathi nengxoxo yethu wanginqamula ngamazwi athi, “Kunento engikutshela yona, kodwa uyangiphazamisa!” kwesokunxele. Ngaphakamisa amahlombe ami, futhi ngemva kwesigamu sehora ukulwa kwakhohlwa, njengoba kuvame ukuba njalo kukho konke ukungqubuzana okunjalo.
USasha ubona izizathu ezimbili zalokhu kuziphatha. Esokuqala ukuguga ngokomzimba: “Uhlala enokuthile okubuhlungu. Uyahlupheka, futhi lesi simo esibi somzimba, ngokusobala, sithinta isimo sengqondo.
Okwesibili ukuqaphela ubuthakathaka nokungabi namandla komuntu: «Lokhu ukucasuka nokucasuka lapho esekhulile, okumenza ancike kwabanye.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Olga Krasnova, omunye wababhali bencwadi ethi Personality Psychology of the Elderly and Persons with Disabilities, siqinisekisa imibono kaSasha: “Kunezici eziningi zenhlalo nezenhlalo ezithonya lokho esikushoyo ngokuthi “umlingiswa owonakele” — nakuba II ngicabanga ukuthi abantu bayawohloka. ngeminyaka.
Izici zomphakathi zihlanganisa, ikakhulukazi, ukuthatha umhlalaphansi, uma kuhlanganisa ukulahlekelwa isimo, umholo, kanye nokuzethemba. Somatic - izinguquko empilweni. Umuntu uthola izifo ezingapheli ngokukhula, uthatha imithi ethinta inkumbulo neminye imisebenzi yokuqonda.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uDokotela we-Psychology Marina Ermolaeva uyaqiniseka ukuthi uhlamvu lwabantu asebekhulile aluhlali luwohloka futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, kwezinye izimo lungathuthuka. Futhi ukuzithuthukisa kudlala indima ebalulekile lapha.
“Uma umuntu ethuthuka, okungukuthi, lapho ezinqoba, ezifunela yena, uthola izici ezihlukahlukene zokuphila, nendawo ahlala kuyo, umhlaba wakhe uyakhula. Amanani amasha atholakala kuye: isipiliyoni sokuhlangana nomsebenzi wobuciko, isibonelo, noma uthando lwemvelo, noma umuzwa wenkolo.
Kuvela ukuthi ekugugeni kunezizathu eziningi zokujabula kunasebusheni. Ukuthola ulwazi, ucabanga kabusha ngomqondo womuntu weqiniso. Ngakho-ke, akumangazi ukuthi abazukulu bajabulisa kakhulu kunezingane ezisebusheni bazo.
Umuntu uneminyaka engama-20 phakathi kokuthatha umhlalaphansi kanye nokwehla okuphelele
Kodwa uma yonke into inhle kangaka, kungani sisekhona lesi sithombe sekhehla elinomunyu? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo siyachaza: “Ubuntu bakheka emphakathini. Umuntu ovuthiwe uthatha izikhundla ezibalulekile emphakathini lapho ebamba iqhaza ngenkuthalo empilweni yawo ekhiqizayo - ngenxa yomsebenzi, ukukhulisa izingane, kanye nokuvelela uhlangothi lwempilo yezenhlalo.
Futhi uma umuntu ethatha umhlalaphansi, akanandawo emphakathini. Ubuntu bakhe bulahlekile, umhlaba wempilo yakhe uyancipha, nokho akakufuni lokhu! Manje ake ucabange ukuthi kukhona abantu abenza imisebenzi emibi impilo yabo yonke futhi abaphupha ngokuthatha umhlalaphansi kusukela besebancane.
Pho kumele benzeni laba bantu? Ezweni lanamuhla, umuntu unenkathi yeminyaka engu-20 phakathi kokuthatha umhlalaphansi kanye nokwehla okuphelele.
Ngempela: umuntu osekhulile, ngemva kokulahlekelwa ubuhlobo bakhe obuvamile kanye nendawo yakhe emhlabeni, angabhekana kanjani nomuzwa wokungabi nalusizo kwakhe? UMarina Ermolaeva unikeza impendulo eqondile kulo mbuzo:
“Kuzomele uthole uhlobo lomsebenzi olungadingwa omunye umuntu okungeyena wena, kodwa cabanga kabusha lokhu kuphumula njengomsebenzi. Nasi isibonelo sakho ezingeni lansuku zonke: umsebenzi, isibonelo, ukuhlala nabazukulu bakho.
Okubi kakhulu uma kuwumsebenzi wokuzilibazisa: “Ngingakwenza, angikwazi (ngenxa yomfutho wegazi ophakeme, amalunga abuhlungu) angikwenzi.” Futhi umsebenzi yilapho “ngingakwazi—ngiyakwenza, angikwazi—ngikwenza noma kunjalo, ngoba akekho oyokwenza ngaphandle kwami! Ngizobadumaza abantu abaseduze!” Umsebenzi uwukuphela kwendlela yokuba khona komuntu.”
Kufanele sihlale siyinqoba imvelo yethu
Esinye isici esibalulekile esithonya umlingiswa, yiqiniso, ubudlelwano emndenini. “Inkinga yabantu abadala iba sekutheni abakakhi futhi abakhi ubudlelwano nezingane zabo.
Iphuzu elibalulekile kule ndaba ukuziphatha kwethu nabakhethiwe babo. Uma singamthanda umphefumulo wengane yethu njengoba simthanda, sizoba nezingane ezimbili. Uma singakwazi, ngeke abe khona. Futhi abantu abanesizungu abajabule neze.”
"Ukuzethemba komuntu kuyisihluthulelo sobukhulu bakhe," kukhumbula inkulumo kaPushkin Ermolaev. Isimilo somuntu sincike kuye kunoma yisiphi isikhathi.
“Kumelwe sihlale siyinqoba imvelo yethu: silondoloze isimo esihle somzimba futhi sikuphathe njengomsebenzi; njalo ukuthuthukisa, nakuba lokhu kufanele uzinqobe. Khona-ke konke kuzolunga, ”uchwepheshe uqinisekile.