Ubani okufanele alale ngokwanele: ingane noma abazali?

E. GEVORKYAN — Sawubona! Lona "Echo of Moscow" futhi uhlelo "Baby Boom" emoyeni futhi. Ingqikithi yethu: Ubani olala ngokwanele ebusuku: izingane noma abazali? Sikhuluma ngokulala ebusuku. Incwadi kaPamela Druckerman ethi French Kids Don't Spit Food isitshela ukuthi izingane zaseFrance zingalala ubusuku bonke…

Izinwele ekhanda lami zavele zanyakaza ngokwesaba futhi zama ekugcineni, ngoba kimi kubonakala kungenabuntu futhi okuphambene nemvelo kangangokuthi, empeleni, sizokucacisa. Ingxabano enkulu esizibonele yona ngaphakathi kwehhovisi lokuhlela ukuthi thina, njengabazali, kufanele silandele i-biorhythms yemvelo nokulala kwengane futhi sizivumelanise nayo, ngokuvumelana nezigqi zayo zemvelo, noma esinye isimo lapho sidala ukulala ebusuku futhi uhlelo lokudla olusilungele thina bazali.

Ngokwami, kwangilungela ukujwayelana nengane ngendlela yokuthi zonke izingane, ngenkathi ziseyizingane, zazilala nami ekamelweni elilodwa, futhi njengoba zaziseduze kakhulu ngokomzimba: Ngasusa umbhede. noma, lapho sebengamabele ngokuphelele, belele embhedeni wami ngokuphelele - futhi ngimane ngiwabeke ku-autopilot, ngiwancelise ngokuzenzakalelayo futhi angizange ngivuke. Futhi kimi, kwakuyilokhu okulandela isigqi semvelo somntwana ngenkathi ilele naye okwakulula kangangokuthi sasithola ubuthongo obanele ngenxa yalokhu. Uma, uNkulunkulu engavumi, ngiqhamuke nombono wokumbeka embhedeni ohlukile ekamelweni elihlukile futhi ngizame ukumjwayeza ngandlela-thile ukulala amahora angu-8 ngokulandelana - okokuqala, anginawo umqondo wezobuchwepheshe ukuthi kungenzeka kanjani. ukumenza lapho akamemezanga, akakhali, akamemeza, ukuze indlu yonke ingami ezindlebeni zayo.

A. GOLUBEV - Kunabantu abathi kungenzeka ukwenza lokhu, into esemqoka ukunquma futhi wenze ngokungaguquki. Futhi sesivele siqalile ukukhuluma ngencwadi yombhali omangalisayo ongumFulentshi uPamela Druckerman, ongumMelika ngokwakhe, kodwa ohlala eFrance, futhi uchaza konke lokhu ngendlela efinyeleleka kalula. Yena ngokwakhe wamangala ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka kanjani eFrance, ngoba ungowaseMelika, wafika eFrance futhi wamangala lapho ebona ukuthi izingane zaseFrance zilala ebusuku.

Emndenini wethu onengane yokuqala, akuyona yonke into enhle kakhulu, ngeshwa, ngakho-ke sazama ukubamba. Kodwa ngengane yesibili, sekuvele kulula lapha, ngoba sazama ukulandela izincomo zikaDkt Evgeny Olegovich Komarovsky, hhayi ukugijimela ingane ekukhaleni kwakhe kokuqala, ukukhala, nokunye, futhi ingane iqala ngandlela-thile ibe ngaphezulu. ezimele. Kukhona lezi zigaba zokulala komntwana, lapho ekwazi ukuvuka, ukukhononda kancane, ukumemeza - udinga ukumnika ithuba lokungena kulesi sigaba esilandelayo sokulala, futhi ingane ilala, futhi awudingi ngokushesha. mnike ukudla ukuze avale ngokushesha. Ngoba lokhu kuyisiphetho esifile: ingane ivuka ngezikhathi ezithile, iqala ukukhipha - umama ngokushesha uyinikeza isifuba, futhi ngenxa yalokho idla ngokweqile, isisu siqala ukulimaza kulokhu, iqala ukukhala - wonke umuntu uyahlanya, ubaba uya komunye. indawo yokulala, ngoba wayesekhathele yiyo yonke into, ngakusasa uya emsebenzini efile, ephukile. Khona-ke umemeza unina - futhi umndeni uyahlukana.

Mlaleli — Sawubona! Igama lami ngingu-Anna. Ngikhuluma ngiseSaint Petersburg. Iqiniso liwukuthi izingane zami sezikhulile, kodwa ngifuna ukusho ukuthi angihlabe umxhwele kakhulu amazwi omethuli wakho - uxolo, ngikhumbule igama lakhe - wathi akakwazi ukucabanga ukuthi kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi ingane ilale. ubusuku bonke . Lapha nginezingane ezimbili, futhi ngazifundisa, zombili zazicushwe ngokucacile ohlelweni lwami. Izingane zami azikaze zilale nami, ngokuvamile angivumelani nakho. Eduze kombhede engangilala kuwo nomyeni wami kwakukhona umbhede wengane. Sasinesethi ecacile: ingane akufanele idle ebusuku. Uma efuna ukudla, kufanele aphuziswe. Ngesisu esingenalutho. Uma ufuna ukudla, phuza. Futhi ngenza lokho engikwenzile - ngenza imassage enganeni. Ngakho, lapho ngikhulula indodana yami ezingalweni zami, yavele yakhululeka futhi yajabula ngokuthi ikhululiwe. Yebo, ngangivuka ebusuku ukuze nginikeze amanzi futhi ngiphulule, kodwa lokhu kwaphela izinyanga ezimbili noma ezintathu zokuqala, ngemva kokuba lezi zinkinga nazo zihambe, ingane yavele yalala ngokuthula ubusuku bonke.

A. GOLUBEV — U-Evelina uthi kulula ukuthi umama alale lapho ulele nengane. Nginombuzo: Futhi uphi ubaba ngalesi sikhathi? Kujwayelekile kangakanani lokhu lapho iminyaka yokuqala yokuphila kwengane - futhi uma unezingane eziningana zilandelana, khona-ke iminyaka eminingana - ukhohlwe ngokulala okuhlangene kukamama nobaba ndawonye embhedeni.

E. GEVORKYAN — Awu, ngani? Ukuphila okuseduze akuyeki, ngoba akudingekile ukwenza lokhu nengane kule ndawo, kule mizuzwana. Umama ulapha nengane kanye nomyeni wakhe. Umbhede unamathiselwe embhedeni wethu omkhulu, omdala, eduze kwawo useduze kakhulu, njengokuqhubeka kombhede wethu. Lapho ingane ikhula, isivele iminyene lapho, futhi siyithutha, njengokungathi, amasentimitha angu-50 ukusuka kimi, kodwa njengokungathi isandla sami singahlala sifinyelela noma nini, ungabeka isandla sakho phezu kwengane futhi izokwenza. yehlisa umoya, ngoba unina useduze - yena ngokuphepha. Ubaba naye useduze futhi wonke umuntu ujabule.

Manje ake ngifunde ulwazi oluvela kulo mbhali uJames McCain, Ukulala Ndawonye Nomntwana isihloko sencwadi yakhe. Lapha uthi kuphela ngokoqobo iminyaka eyikhulu edlule lesi senzakalo esisha kunazo zonke emlandweni wesintu siye savela - mayelana neqiniso lokuthi ingane ayilali eduze kwabazali bayo, ngoba kwakukhona amakamelo ahlukene, imibhede ehlukene, amathuba okuphakela izingxube kanye nezingxube. njalonjalo. Futhi-ke ukhuluma ngokuthi, ngemva kokufunda le ndaba njenge-anthropologist, njengesazi sezinto eziphilayo, ufika esiphethweni sokuthi uma ingane ijwayele ukulala ngokuhlukile, ingane izalwa ngokwayo ingavuthiwe kakhulu, ingane yomuntu. kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwayo okuzolile nokuthuthukiswa okuvamile kobuchopho, ukuze kungabikho izinga eliphakeme le-cortisol egazini, ukuze kungabikho ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo, kubalulekile ukuba abe nomuzwa wokuthi unina useduze nokuthi uphephile. . Futhi indlela elula nengokwemvelo, esekhona kwamanye amazwe ...

A. GOLUBEV - Kuze kube nini, u-Evelina, kudingekile ngaphambi komshado ukumenza azizwe ephephile? Kufanele alale kangakanani nonina futhi avimbele abazali bakhe ukuba baphile impilo evamile yobuzali?

E. GEVORGYAN — Cha, kungani wazala ingane? Ungakwazi ukulinda unyaka noma emibili?

E. PRUDNIK - Embuzweni wokuthi ubani okufanele alale ngokwanele - ingane noma abazali; kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kudingekile ukusetha uhlobo oluthile lwesimiso sokulala ebusuku - ngihlala ngisohlangothini lwengane. Unezizathu zokuvuka, ezingahlobene nokuzizwa kwakhe kanye nesifiso sokulimaza abazali bakhe, kodwa ku-physiology yakhe, ngoba uyakhula, futhi unezizathu eziningi zokukhathazeka ngesikhathi sokulala.

A. GOLUBEV — Ake silalele ukuqoshwa kwengxoxo yami no-Evgeny Olegovich Komarovsky, udokotela wezingane waseKharkov, osakaza.

E. KOMAROVSKY - Okokuqala, kufanele siqonde ngokucacile ukuthi ukulala kuyisidingo somzimba, okungukuthi, njengokuphefumula, ukukhipha indle, ukudla, ukuphuza, okungukuthi, ingane ayikwazi ukusiza kodwa ukulala - lokhu kusobala. . Into eyinhloko ukuthi kungani ingane ingalala kahle, kungani ingane kufanele ivuke njalo ngemizuzu eyishumi? Ngoba, cishe, kukhona okumkhathazayo. Yini engase imkhathaze? Angase aphazanyiswe ukulamba, angase aphazanyiswe ukoma, ukulunywa, i-diaper rash, ubuhlungu ngamafuphi. Futhi abazali kufanele bacabange ngakho.

Umsebenzi oyinhloko wabazali ukuthi ingane ilale ngaphambi kobusuku ikhathele, ilele, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo kufanele igcwale, akufanele ibe nokoma, akufanele ibe ne-diaper rash, njalonjalo. Ngakho liyini iphuzu? Ukuze ungafuni ukulala emini, hlela indlela yokuphila yengane ngendlela efanele. Kodwa ngokuvamile ingane ilala igqoke ngokufudumele ekamelweni elishisayo, elomile. Ebusuku, uvuka ngokunembile ekomeni, ngoba umlomo wakhe womile futhi ikhala lakhe livalekile. Udliswa ukudla, ngoba abazali abakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi umlomo wengane ungoma. Ngenxa yalokho, umntwana uyadla, isisu sakhe sibuhlungu, uyamemeza.

Futhi lapho ingane iklabalasa, iziphi iziphetho umama nobaba abazenzayo? Kuphakathi kokuthi uyagodola noma ulambile. Bamgoqa kakhulu, bamfunze kakhulu - umemeza kakhulu. Yilokho kuphela, eqinisweni.

Ngakho-ke, into eyinhloko ukuqonda ukuthi yini okufanele ibe yisiqalo, lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, futhi ngaphandle kwalokhu akukho zinkinga ezingaxazululwa: umqondo onjalo njengekamelo lokulala lezingane noma igumbi lapho ingane ilala khona, noma kunalokho izimo. lapho ekhona, kumele isetshenziswe. Izimo ezifanele zekamelo lokulala lezingane: izinga lokushisa lomoya alikho ngaphezu kwama-degree angu-20, ngokufanelekile 18-19 kanye nomswakama womoya kusuka ku-40 kuya ku-70%. Lona umsebenzi kababa. Uma ethole amandla kuye ukwenza ingane, khona-ke kufanele athole amandla kuye ukuze anikeze umoya okhululekile ekamelweni. Yilapho okufanele uqale khona.

A. GOLUBEV - Hhayi-ke, omama bathi "ingane yami ayilali, kodwa ngokusobala inengqondo enjalo, umlingiswa onjalo - kahle, ingane engaphumuli."

E. KOMAROVSKY — Lona umqondo kanye nomlingiswa kamama, ngoba unephutha ... Ngiyaphinda futhi ngigxilise ukunaka kwami ​​​​: indlela elula ukuhumusha imicibisholo, ukuthi lena ingane engajabule. Ngakho-ke, uma ingane ilambile, yondliwe ngokusuka enhliziyweni, ithengiwe, bese igqoke ngokufudumele futhi ifakwe ekamelweni elihlanzekile, elipholile, uzolala ngaphandle kokuvuka amahora angu-6-8. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukwenza lokhu ngaso sonke isikhathi, ayikho imizwa eyanele yalokhu, akukho ukuzimisela okwanele kulokhu. Indlela elula ukuthi: "Imayini ikhethekile kakhulu, inesimiso sezinzwa esiyingqayizivele", hamba odokotela, ucele amaconsi ukuze ulale, faka lawa maconsi futhi ungalali iminyaka.

A. GOLUBEV - Evgeny Olegovich, kodwa siyazi ukuthi kuze kube yiminyaka ethile, omama, noma yini umuntu angasho, kufanele avuke ebusuku ukuze ondle ingane.

E. KOMAROVSKY - Impela.

A. GOLUBEV — Uneminyaka emingaki angasakwazi ukwenza lokhu, ngoba lokhu sekunesikhathi eside kwenzeka?

E. KOMAROVSKY - Okungenani ngiyazi ukuthi labo bazali abalandela izincomo zami, njengomthetho, abavuki ngemva kwezinyanga ezingu-6 ubudala. Okusho ukuthi, emva kwezinyanga ezingu-6 kungenzeka ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi ingane izolala kusukela ku-24-00 kuya ku-6-00 ngaphandle kokuvuka. Abanye abantu banenhlanhla eyengeziwe. Ngokwesibonelo, izingane zami zalala kwaze kwaba ngu-8 ekuseni, ngemva kokugeza nokudla okunomsoco kukanina ngo-24-00. Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, kuzolile ngokuphelele, njengomthetho, kanye noma kabili phakathi kobusuku, umama uvuka phakathi nobusuku futhi uchitha imizuzu engu-15 esondla umntwana, emva kwalokho balala ngokushesha, kodwa kanye. ngiphinde ngigxilise ukunaka: ngokuvamile abesifazane badla ebusuku, cishe njalo, ngoba izingane zivuka ngomlomo owomile futhi zinomuzwa wokoma, kodwa esikhundleni sokukhipha umoya ekamelweni futhi ziqede lokhu, abazali bazo bazondla ubusuku bonke, futhi lokhu kuyiphutha elibi kakhulu.

A. GOLUBEV — Omunye umbuzo onjalo onjalo: Ubani, empeleni, ukuzivumelanisa naye: abazali ohlelweni lomntwana, lapho efuna ukulala, noma ukulungisa ingane ngokwayo?

E. KOMAROVSKY - Yebo, lokhu, ngokujwayelekile, umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu. Lona, ngokuvamile, umbuzo wokuthi ubani ovumelana nobani - lo ngumbuzo wefilosofi yobuzali. Ngihlale ngikhuluma ngalokhu futhi ngiyaphinda: Akukho ndawo ezilwaneni zasendle lapho umhlambi onjalo ulandela amawundlu. Amantshontsho aya lapho eholwa khona abantu abadala abaqinile nabanolwazi — lona umthetho wemvelo. Uma iphakethe lilandela izinyane, impilo yewundlu isengozini futhi impilo yephakethe isengozini. Ngakho-ke, ingane kufanele ivumelane nemodeli yomndeni. Ubaba kumele avuke ekuseni eselele ngokwanele futhi ayosebenzela le ngane nomama wayo, ngakho-ke umndeni kufanele uhlele ukulala ukuze wonke umuntu alale ndawonye, ​​​​ngakho-ke kuyacaca: ingane kufanele ijwayele umndeni.

Uma ingane ilele emini bese ihlala iphapheme ebusuku - lokho okubizwa ngokuthi imodi ehlanekezelwe: wadideka imini nobusuku - akufanele unikeze usuku olulodwa noma ezimbili, ukuphazamisa ngamabomu ukulala kwengane: ukujabulisa, ukudlala, ukuhamba, kodwa mlalise uma sekunethezekile kubantu abadala. Yebo, abantu abadala kaningi abakwazi ukunquma ngalokhu, ikakhulukazi abesifazane. Owesifazane ubona umama wakhe, ngaso sonke isikhathi, njenge-feat - ulungele ukwenza okuthile ngaleso sikhathi lapho ezwa khona ukuthi uzoba ngumama. Ngakho-ke umsebenzi wethu, mhlawumbe amadoda, ukusiza abesifazane futhi uguqule ukuba ngumama kungabi yi-feat, kodwa injabulo - lokhu kuwumsebenzi oyinhloko wendoda. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu, kufanele azithathele isinqumo okungenani mayelana nokuthi yini okufanele agqoke ingane, futhi yimuphi umoya okufanele umntwana awuphefumule ebusuku.

A. GOLUBEV – Futhi omunye umbuzo ongaphikisana ngawo. Ngokuvamile, namuhla kuthandwa kakhulu ngabazali ukulala nezingane zabo. Lapha, omama bachaza lokhu ngokuthi ingane idinga ukufudumala kukamama, ukuzwa ukusondelana kwayo. Futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi izingane aziphumi embhedeni wabazali bazo. Lokhu kuhle.

E. KOMAROVSKY - Uma ubaba, umama nengane beyithanda - ngendlela othanda ngayo. Kodwa ngifuna ukukutshela ukuthi ingane ngeke ihambe noma kuphi kuwe, kodwa umyeni wakho udinga ukufudumala, futhi udinga ukuyifaka ngezikhathi ezithile esifubeni sakho. Ngiyazi, futhi, ngemuva kokuthi imfashini yokulala nezingane isihambile, ngibona inqwaba yemindeni ephukile ngenxa yalokhu, lapho umama elala nengane, futhi ubaba elala kusofa noma kumatagi eduze kombhede. . Ngiyaphinda futhi ngigxilisa ukunaka: Anginalutho olumelene nokulala ndawonye, ​​uma kufanele wonke amalungu omndeni. Isimo esikahle: umama nobaba basembhedeni omkhulu, ingane inombhede wayo, oseduze nombhede wabantu abadala. Ngemva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha ubudala, lo mbhede ungakwazi ukuhamba, futhi ngemva konyaka owodwa ukuya ekamelweni elihlukile, kodwa ingane kufanele ibe nendawo yayo elangeni.

Nalapha, ngiqiniseka ngokujulile ukuthi ukuze umkhaya uqine, uthando lukababa nomama kufanele luze kuqala. Ukuqaphela uthando lukamama nobaba kulula kakhulu uma kungekho omunye embhedeni. Ungakhathazeki, konke okuhle kuwe! Ngethemba ukuthi uma ungafinyeleli esiphethweni esifanele, abalaleli bethu okungenani bazothola ulwazi ukuze bazindle.

A. GOLUBEV – Ake siphendukele kusivakashi sethu: U-Elena Prudnik unguchwepheshe eSikhungweni Sokuthuthukiswa Kwemvelo kanye Nezempilo Yezingane. Uma ngibona lokhu: "uchwepheshe weSikhungo Sokuthuthukiswa Kwemvelo", ngivele ngicabange ukuthi izingane zikhula kanjani ngendlela engavamile, lokho kusho. Ngokushesha ngiyacabanga: uchwepheshe wesikhungo esinjalo kufanele akhulume ngokuthi abazali kufanele bazitike kanjani ingane kukho konke, ukuthi kufanele bazitike kanjani ngayinye ... Ukuthuthukiswa kwemvelo - kunjani? Ingabe abazali bazivumelanisa nesimiso sengane yabo noma ingabe balungisa ingane yabo ukuba ihambisane neyabo?

E. PRUDNIK — Lapha kunqunywa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kuzwakale kanjani i-diplomatic, noma kunjalo, ingumuntu ngamunye, ngoba abazali abahlukene, izingane ezihlukene. Izingane zihlukile ngokuziphatha ngendlela yazo. Abantu be-choleric bahlala belala kabi kakhulu, ngoba izinga labo lokuphendula kwengqondo liphakeme kakhulu futhi liyashesha, ngakho-ke zonke izinqubo emzimbeni wabo ziyabaphazamisa, zibavuse, zibaphazamise, bakhale ngakho, bafune, ngokulandelana, zonke izingane ezivela ezintweni ezibonakalayo. yekhasimende, okusho ukuthi umama noma uBaba naye une-choleric.

A. POZDNYAKOV - Okusho ukuthi, ngempela, uKomarovsky wathi ngokumangalisayo: "Kunezingane ezikhethekile: ingane yami ikhethekile," ngakho ayilali ebusuku. Ingabe lokhu kuvunyelwe?

E. PRUDNIK — Sonke sikhetheke kakhulu, sonke singabantu ngabanye, futhi zonke izingane zethu nazo zingabantu ngabanye kakhulu.

A. GOLUBEV - Kimina kubonakala sengathi uma noma iyiphi ingane ilayishwa ngendlela yokuthi kusihlwa izowa - i-choleric, sanguine, omunye umuntu ...

E. PRUDNIK - Izingane zisazoziphatha ngendlela ehlukile ebusuku, ngoba zonke zikhula amazinyo - kanye, amathambo akhula - kabili. Bonke bafuna ukudla, bonke bafuna ukubhala, futhi zonke lezi zinqubo zibonwa yilowo nalowo walezi zingane ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ngakho, "ingane ehlukunyezwe kahle" ilala kangcono - lesi yisiqubulo. Kusobala ukuthi uma unikeza ingane umthwalo omuhle, ojwayelekile, ukuze imamatheke futhi ihleke usuku lonke, yebo izolala kangcono, kodwa uma inamazinyo ayisithupha anqunywe ngesikhathi esisodwa - uyahamba, uphathe amazinyo ayisithupha ngesikhathi esifanayo kudokotela wamazinyo - ngizobona ukuthi uzolala kanjani ebusuku. Okungukuthi, lapha unelungelo eliphelele, ngisho nokukhathala ebusuku, ukukhala, ukufuna uthando olwengeziwe, ukufuna ukunakwa okwengeziwe, njalonjalo. Kuyacaca ukuthi ngeke kube isikhathi eside: amazinyo aqhuma izinsuku eziyi-10-14 ...

A. GOLUBEV - Futhi ingane isivele ijwayele unina, ukuthi unina usevele, lapho eqala ukufuna unina - unina uyeza. Usetshenziswa ngokushesha okukhulu: "Ngifuna umama wami - umama wami uyeza." Kulungile, kuhle! Umama uza egijima ngokwesicelo sakhe esincane.

E. PRUDNIK - Angivumelani kakhulu nawe, ngoba ingane idinga ukulala ebusuku, futhi uma kungekho lutho olumkhathazayo, uzolala futhi ngeke enze noma yini enye. Phela, lapho eneminyaka engu-16, cishe uzoya e-disco.

E. GEVORKYAN — Ngizovele ngicacise. Lapha, ngempela, kunesihloko kokuthi - kuyini lokhu ... umbhali ongumFulentshi - uyaphakamisa - futhi angiqondi ukuthi yiziphi izindleko - ukuthi ulala amahora angu-6-8 ngokulandelana futhi akafuni ukudla, okungukuthi, ukumlumula ekudleni ebusuku, nokuthi alale ubuthongo obukhulu. Omunye umbhali, lo James McCain - ubhala ukuthi lokhu kungokwemvelo, futhi nje ubuchopho bomuntu bukhula kangcono ebuntwaneni, uma engangeni kulobu buthongo obukhulu - khona-ke mancane amathuba okuthi lesi sifo sokufa kungazelelwe sizokwenzeka. Kuvamile uma umama esabela ngokuzwela kakhulu kukho, ngoba nje kungokwemvelo ngokwemvelo. Izingane — zizalwa zingaphelele futhi akudingekile ukuba zilale amahora angu-8 njengabantu abadala.

E. PRUDNIK - Ngivumelana ngokuphelele, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ezinganeni zezinyanga ezintathu zokuqala, ngoba umntwana uzalwa engakavuthwa ngokuphelele, engenakuzisiza ngokuphelele, ngokuphelele. Ngosuku lokuqala, akakwazi ngisho nokulungisa amehlo akhe, ingasaphathwa ukwenza okuthile ngezandla zakhe noma ngekhanda lakhe, ngakho-ke, ngokwemvelo, ingane encane, iseduze nomama okufanele ibe yiyo, futhi yena, ngokujwayelekile, ebizwa ngesifuba ngoba incela ebeleni, kodwa ngoba kumele ibe sebeleni lomuntu omdala: akusho lutho ukuthi umama noma ubaba. Ngokuvumelana nalokho, isigaba sokulala kwe-REM kanye nesigaba sokulala okungeyona i-REM, okungukuthi, ukulala okujulile, kuhlukile. Ingane inobuthongo obungajulile kakhulu ngenxa yokungavuthwa, ake sithi, ingqondo. Asikwazi ukuba nomthelela kulezi zinqubo. Kuyindlela okwenzeka ngayo. Lokhu akukuhle futhi akukubi. Kunesilinganiso esithile sokulala okulula nokulala okujulile. Kumuntu omdala - silala endaweni ethile cishe ngamaphesenti angama-20, namaphesenti angu-80 - singena ekujuleni. Ingane iphambene kakhulu, okungukuthi, ilala ijule kakhulu ngamaphesenti angu-20 futhi ilala kancane kakhulu ngamaphesenti angu-80.

Ngibona abazali abambalwa kakhulu abanezingane ezimangalisayo ezilala amahora angu-8-10. Kuyacaca ukuthi wonke umuntu ufuna, ukuba nomntwana, ukuba nomntwana olalelayo nomangalisayo ozodla yedwa, alale yedwa, azifundele esikoleni, azitholele amahlanu eyedwa — kulula kakhulu. Futhi izingane azinjalo, ziyilokhu eziyikho. Zinezici eziningi zomzimba. Lapha, uma i-physiology ingadluleli ngalé kwe-pathology, khona-ke lapha, khona-ke, umzali ufuna okungaphezu kwengane yakhe. Futhi, uma idlula ububanzi be-physiology futhi lokhu sekuvele kuyi-pathology, ngakho-ke sidinga ukukuthola, senze okuthile ngakho.

Kuyacaca ukuthi uma ingane enamazinyo aqhumayo iphambanisa imini nobusuku, futhi ebusuku ithi “Ai, nane-nane” — iyakhanyisa futhi ingawuvumeli wonke umnyango wokulala, futhi ilala ngokwanele emini, khona-ke, Yebo, uDkt. ngeke simvumele ukuba alale ngazo zonke izindlela, futhi ebusuku, ngokuvamile, nakanjani sizomthulisa. Okusho ukuthi, kuvamile isimo sokuphulwa ngokuqondile kwesigqi se-circadian - lapho usuku ludidekile nobusuku. Kodwa futhi, akukho ngane ephile saka, evamile ezokwenza kube umgomo wayo ukufuna unina uma ifuna nje ukulala. Kodwa uma efuna enye into, khona-ke, ngokuqinisekile, uzodinga usizo, futhi umuntu oseduze ongamnikeza lolu sizo ngunina.

A. POZDNYAKOV - Elena, unikeze izimo ezimbili ezimbi kakhulu. Ukhuluma ngohlobo oluthile lokuhleleka kwemvelo, ukhuluma ngezinkinga ezinjalo lapho ingane idida imini nobusuku, kodwa kunezimo lapho, ngaphandle kwezimo zamazinyo, ezinye izimo, ingane, isibonelo, iqala ukuvuka ngokuzumayo. phezulu kahlanu ngobusuku. izikhathi, futhi ulala ngokukhathazeka kakhulu - ingabe zikhona izizathu zalokhu? Kungenzeka ngandlela-thile - njengoDkt Komarovsky, owathi mhlawumbe ukudala igumbi elipholile, ungasiza ngandlela-thile ngezindlela ezithile ezingaqondile ukuthonya isikhathi sokulala. Kunini lapho, ngaphansi kwaziphi izimo lapho kucaca khona ukuthi okuthile okumelwe kwenziwe, futhi ngempela, umuntu angayelula kanjani ubuthongo?

E. PRUDNIK - Yebo, kunjalo, umbuzo oqondakalayo futhi omuhle kakhulu. Bheka, izimo zokulala zemvelo zengane zibaluleke kakhulu. Kuyacaca ukuthi emoyeni oseduze balala kabi, ukuthi emoyeni omusha kungcono. Yiqiniso, sidala lonke leli bhizinisi kubo, sicabanga ngakho, futhi into yokuqala esiqala ngayo lapho ingane iqala ukulala kabi, sicabanga ngalezi zizathu: mayelana nenhlangano nemibandela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma zingasizi, khona-ke siqala ukubuka ingane eduze futhi sibheke ezinye zezinqubo zayo: ingabe isesimweni se-prodromal ...

E. GEVORGYAN — Kukuphi?

E. PRUDNIK - Yebo, okungukuthi, ngaphambi kokugula. Okusho ukuthi, akukho kushisa okwamanje, futhi umuntu, ngokujwayelekile, ngandlela-thile, okungekuhle lapho ngemizwa. Ingabe unenkinga yokugaya ukudla, ingabe kukhona ukungcola, umbala oshintshiwe esitokisini, ngoba lokhu kungase kuthinte. Okungukuthi, kusukela ohlangothini lwezempilo, zikhona izizathu. Uma singatholi noma yiziphi izizathu, ngokuvamile - kahle, okungukuthi, umama uhlakaniphile, ukhathazekile, wazi konke ngomntwana, uyambheka yonke indawo futhi yonke indawo: akukho ukuqubuka, akukho ukuphazamiseka kwesitulo, isifiso esivamile, kodwa kukhona okungalungile. naye.

E. GEVORGYAN — Umshiye ememeza ekamelweni elilandelayo ukuze ajwayele ukulala amahora angu-8?

E. PRUDNIK — Kungani? Sisabheke yena. Lokhu kusho ukuthi unohlobo oluthile lwenqubo, ithi, i-physiological one, engaqondakali kithi, ngoba lapho umgogodla ukhula, lapho isibindi sanda ngama-fractions ama-millimeters - lezi ziyizinzwa ezijulile - ingane ingaba yi-capricious.

Kukhona isigaba esinjalo sezingane ezingalali kahle ngempela, ngokombono wokuqonda komzali. Izingane ezinjalo zingafundiswa, kodwa awukwazi ukufundisa. Futhi uma ungafundisi, khona-ke ngokushesha noma kamuva, uzoqala ukulala kahle, ngoba ingane ifuna ukulala - lokhu futhi kuyisidingo sakhe, njengethu. Kukhona izingane okuthi, uma siqala ukufundisa, khona-ke singakwazi ukukhipha inqwaba yezinkinga ezingokwengqondo eziholela ku-psychosomatics, okungukuthi, ziyimvelo evevezelayo, ezwelayo, okuthi, ngezikhathi zokuswela okunzima, okungukuthi, lapho ngingena hawu azingiphathi kahle, ngilele ngedwa ebumnyameni angikwazi nokukhasa, angikwazi ukusukuma ngihambe ngedwa, angimtholi umama endlini. ama-neuroses aqala kuye, futhi lapho esemdala…

A. GOLUBEV - U-Pamela Druckerman ubhala ukuthi azikho izinkinga ezinjalo ezirekhodiwe eFrance. Futhi uchaza okuhlangenwe nakho komama baseFrance ngalendlela: “Umsebenzi wabazali uwukwakha kabusha isigqi somntwana ukuze sivumelane nesabo, ukuze abazali bazizwe bekhululekile. Ungagijimeli kumntwana ebusuku njalo ngomzuzu, mnike ithuba lokuzola yedwa, ungaphenduli ngokuzenzakalelayo ngisho nangezinsuku zokuqala. Izingane zivuka phakathi kwezigaba zokulala ezihlala cishe amahora angu-2, futhi ngaphambi kokuba zifunde ukuxhuma lezi zigaba ndawonye, ​​zizokhala, futhi lokhu kuvamile. Ngokuhumusha noma iyiphi ingane ekhala ngokuthi ilambile noma ukuthi ayizizwa kahle futhi igijimela ukumduduza, abazali benza iphutha enganeni: kuyoba nzima kuye ukuxhuma izigaba zokulala yedwa, okungukuthi, yena. uzodinga usizo lomuntu omdala ukuze alale futhi ekupheleni komjikelezo ngamunye.

Imilindelo yasebusuku nengane enezinyanga ezingu-8 ayibonwa njengophawu lothando lwabazali. Kubo, lokhu kuwuphawu lokuthi ingane inezinkinga zokulala, futhi kukhona ukungezwani emndenini ”(For the French). Ngaphezu kwalokho, umlobi ngokwakhe uphetha ngokuthi: “Ukube ngangazi ngakho konke lokhu, lapho indodakazi yami izalwa, enezinyanga ezine ubudala, lapho kwakungenzeka ukuyifundisa ukulala okungaphazamiseki ebusuku kalula, sesivele seqe. Unezinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ubudala futhi usavuka ngehora lesibili ebusuku njalo. Sigedla amazinyo, sinquma ukumvumela ukuba amemeze. Ngobusuku bokuqala ekhala imizuzu engu-12, nami ngiyakhala nginamathele kuSimon, umyeni wami, bese indodakazi yami ilala. Ngobusuku obulandelayo, ukuklabalasa kuqhubeka imizuzu emi-5. Ngobusuku besithathu ngehora lesibili sivuka noSimon esethule. Kusukela lapho, uBhontshisi ulala kuze kube sekuseni.

E. GEVORKYAN - Konke. Sengivele nginama-goosebumps.

A. GOLUBEV - Konke! I-psyche yengane ibhujiswa, iphelile, i-monster yokuziphatha enomphefumulo ophukile izokhula, akunjalo?

E. PRUDNIK - Yiqiniso, ingane izolimala. Umbuzo wokuthi uzophila kanjani nalokhu kuhlukumezeka futhi ungumuntu ngamunye, ngoba kunezingane ezihlukumezeka kalula, futhi kuzoholela ngokushesha endaweni ethile phakathi kweminyaka engama-30-40 ubudala, lapho umuntu ezoba nokuntula okuphelele kokuthembela emhlabeni, ngeke abe nomndeni wakhe ojwayelekile futhi kuzoba nzima kakhulu kuye ukuthi asinde kulokhu kuhlukumezeka lapho esemdala.

Uyazi, nginokungabaza okukhulu ngemfundo yombhali wale ncwadi, ngoba inikeza izibalo ezinganembile. Umjikelezo wokulala wengane awuwona amahora amabili, amahora amabili kumuntu omdala. Umjikelezo wokulala wengane imizuzu engama-40. Futhi kancane kancane iyanda, ngonyaka ingakhula ibe yihora nesigamu, kodwa hhayi amabili. Eyesibili isukela eminyakeni emibili kuphela. Ngakho-ke, nginokungabaza okukhulu ukuthi umuntu, ngokuvamile, ufundile ezindabeni ze-physiology kanye ne-anatomy yobuntwana. Futhi lezo zibonelo ezifundiwe ziyisibonelo ngasinye sentombazane eyodwa, kanye nedatha ethile yabazali. Abazali nabo bacacile be-choleric temperament, okungukuthi, ngokucacile akuyona i-phlegmatic. Ngakho-ke, ingane yabo iyafana, futhi manje bonke "basoseji" ndawonye ngekhorasi. Bakhetha indlela enjalo, enzima ngokwanele enganeni. Kuzokwenzekani ngale ngane akwaziwa.

A. GOLUBEV - Yebo, sonke sadlula kulokhu ... sonke siyahlanya ...

E. PRUDNIK — Isintu siye sadlula kokuhlangenwe nakho kokukhuliswa kanzima kangaka kwengane onyakeni wokuqala wokuphila. KwakungabaseMelika, kwakunguBenjamin Spock, owaboleka incwadi yakhe edumile, okwakunzima kakhulu ukuyithola eSoviet Union, futhi abazali bethu basikhulisa ngokwale ncwadi. Ngemuva kweminyaka engama-30, wacela intethelelo esidlangalaleni kuso sonke isizukulwane ...

A. GOLUBEV - Hhayi-ke, uSpock uyaphikiswana ngakho, yonke into ixaka kakhulu lapho ...

A. POZDNYAKOV - Ngivumele, ngaphambi kwalo mcabango, ngithanda ukufingqa eminye yemiphumela yevoti, ngoba iyathakazelisa kakhulu. Kuthe sisaxoxa lapha, savota. Sibuze ukuthi usebenza kanjani ngokulala ebusuku: Ingabe uyasijwayela isigqi sokulala kwengane ebusuku, noma ufundisa ingane ukulala ngokohlelo? Nansi iningi - lokhu kungaphezu kuka-77%, izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu ziyavuma ukuthi zifundisa ingane ukulala ngokuvumelana nesimiso - lapha zihlanganyela nje, uxolo, ukuqeqeshwa.

E. GEVORKYAN - Ngoba sivela kulesi siko lamaSoviet. Izingane zethu zanikezwa i-nursery - kwakuyisidingo esiphoqelelwe, kodwa lokhu akuyona into engokwemvelo, lokhu akuyona into evamile.

A. GOLUBEV — Akuvamile yini ukuthumela ingane enkulisa?

E. GEVORGYAN — Yiqiniso, akuvamile ukuthumela ingane enkulisa uma unekhono ngokomzimba nangokwezimali lokuba nengane ngesikhathi ikudinga. Yebo, umqondo oyinhloko ukuthi ngisafuna ukuba nesikhathi sokusho ... - lapho ingane izalwa kithi, ngeke ihlale ibele, ngeke ilale phakade ngezigaba zemizuzu engu-40 - ihlala unyaka kuphela, eyodwa nengxenye, ezimbili ...

A. GOLUBEV - Ngempela, yeka udoti! Khohlwa ngempilo evamile, bazali, iminyaka emibili yokuqala!