Yini eyenza abantu baye ngokuzithandela emaqenjini akhethekile lapho behlukunyezwa khona? Umnikazi wendawo yokuhlangana eyimfihlo useneminyaka eminingi ehlola izimbangela ze-sadomasochism. Nakhu akutholile.
Wake wayifunda incwadi ongakwazi ukuyibeka phansi futhi uqhubeke ugwinya ikhasi nekhasi emgwaqweni ongaphansi komhlaba, bese ulifunda ezitebhisini ezizihambelayo, bese usedeskini lakho? Noma ingabe bazihlelele “i-serial marathon” ngenye yezimpelasonto, bebuka uchungechunge ngemva kochungechunge ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka?
Kungokufanayo phakathi neseshini. Umuzwa wokuthi njengamanje usaphila, zonke izinzwa zakho zisebenza ngezinga eliphezulu futhi yonke imizwa nengqondo yakho isinikezwe ngokuphelele isipiliyoni sokulindela okunokukhathazeka.
Kwenzekani ngokulandelayo?
Ongaphansi akakwazi lokhu, unikeze ngokuphelele ukulawula kumlingani ophethe.
Akadingi ukucabanga nganoma yini futhi akadingi ukwenza izinqumo ezinzima.
Akumele enze lutho nhlobo. Nakuba kungase kuzwakale kuxakile, abantu beza ekilabhini yami ukuze bazizwe befana ne-yoga noma ukuzindla.
Bayamnakekela, bamnakekele. Unendoda angenandaba nayo...
Ukuze ube kulo mzuzu, ukukuzwa ngawo wonke amaseli omzimba wakho. Abaculi nabasubathi babhekana nalokhu ngesikhathi sokugxila okukhulu ngesikhathi sokudlala, lapho umhlaba wonke usungasekho futhi kukhona kuphela ababhekana nakho manje, isibili ngesekhondi.
Bakhetha indlela enzima kulokhu, badlula ekuqeqeshweni nasekuhlulekeni. I-masochist yakhetha indlela yakhe, okubonakala kuye kuphela engenzeka.
Yilokhu ababuya ngakho. Okufanele ukwenze ukulalela futhi “ulandele ukugeleza.”
Ezingeni elingokwengqondo, i-masochist ithembela ngokuphelele ukulawula kumlingani ovelele futhi uzizwa ekhululekile ngokuphelele lapho "ngokucophelela" eqinisa amafindo kuye.
Uyalalela lapho ethi angaphefumuli, sengathi usenganeni futhi ugwinya iphilisi lokukhwehlela.
Bayamnakekela, bamnakekele. Unomuntu omkhathalelayo. Futhi le ndoda iyazi ukuthi ifunani.
Ingabe i-masochist iyakwazi lokhu? Kubonakala sengathi impendulo icacile.
Umsebenzi we-Dominatrix ukusebenzisa izenzo zakhe ukucwilisa umuntu ongaphansi kwakhe esimweni lapho amaphupho akhe ajulile, angatshelanga muntu futhi awabambe, angaphuma.
Ukuze enze lokhu, isimiso sakhe sezinzwa esinozwela sijabule ngezenzo ezingokwesiko. Izimpama nokushaywa kwebhande, ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi (futhi, ngokufanelekile, ukuncenga isihe) kuyingxenye edingekayo yeseshini, okuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi isivele iqale ukuyibheka phambili.
Phakathi neseshini, i-masochist inomuzwa wengozi. Ezingeni le-physiological, lokhu kusho ukuthi izindlala ze-adrenal zikhiqiza i-adrenaline ngobuningi.
Khona-ke, ngokushesha nje lapho azi ukuthi ingozi isidlulile, ama-endorphin akhululwa. Lawa ama-analgesics emvelo, isidambisi sobuhlungu, okubuye kusinikeze ama-opioid, okuletha umuzwa wokuzola, ukuphumula, ukuphumula okuphelele.
“Amakhasimende amaningi angitshela,” kusho uMorgese, onguchwepheshe we-Dominatrix eneminyaka engu-55, “lapho isimiso sesiphelile, azizwa ejabule, ejabule.”
Kuwumuzwa ogqamile futhi oshubile kangangokuthi kubonakala sengathi zintanta ngaphezu komhlabathi.
Isimo sokujabula ngemva kweseshini singahlala amahora noma ngisho namasonto. Ngemva kokwanda kokuqala kwenjabulo, ithathelwa indawo inkathi lapho ongaphansi ebhekana nokuncipha kwemizwelo, izinga lokushisa lakhe lingase lehle kakhulu ngemva kokuphela kokubulawa.
Imizwa yenjabulo ithathelwa indawo ukozela nokuphumula okujulile. Ongaphansi unomuzwa wokuba ngowabanye, uthando olujulile, ukuthi uyadingeka, futhi, okuxakayo njengoba kuzwakala, uthando.
Kuvela isibopho esikhethekile phakathi kozakwethu ovelele kanye nomuntu ongaphansi kwakhe, njengoba bezwa ndawonye leyo mizwelo ecacile nenqatshelwe okungekho muntu owaziyo ngayo ngaphandle kwabo. Bayazi ngalezo zingxenye zempilo yomunye nomunye umuntu ongazi ngazo.
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