Kwesinye isikhathi awudingi nokuqagela: ukubukeka okumemayo noma ukuthinta okuthambile kuyazikhulumela. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi siyadideka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuqonda kunzima kakhulu kumadoda kunakwabesifazane.
Kuze kube yamuva, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zazinesithakazelo kuphela esimweni sosuku lokuqala. Yeka ukuthi ngokunembe kangakanani amadoda nabesifazane «funda» isifiso (noma ukuntula isifiso) of ongase abe umlingani. Iziphetho kuzo zonke izimo zaziwukuthi amadoda ngokuvamile acabangela ngokweqile ukulungela kowesifazane ukuya ocansini.
Ababhali bezifundo bahumushe lo mphumela ngokombono we-evolutionary psychology. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba indoda ingaphuthelwa ithuba lokuya ocansini nomlingani ofanelekayo futhi ishiye inzalo kunokuba ibone ukuthi iyalufuna yini ubulili. Yingakho bevame ukwenza iphutha lokweqisa isifiso somlingani wabo ngosuku lokuqala.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseCanada u-Amy Muse nozakwabo bazimisele ukuhlola ukuthi ingabe lokhu kuhlola kabusha kuyaqhubeka yini ebudlelwaneni obuqinile, besikhathi eside. Benza izifundo ezintathu ezibandakanya imibhangqwana engu-48 yobudala ehlukene (kusukela kwengu-23 ubudala kuya kwengu-61 ubudala) futhi bathola ukuthi amadoda akulesi simo nawo maningi amathuba okwenza amaphutha - kodwa manje abukela phansi isifiso somlingani wawo.
Futhi abesifazane, ngokuvamile, baqagela ngokunembe kakhudlwana isifiso samadoda, okungukuthi, babengathambekele ekubukeni phansi noma ekucabangeni ngokweqile ukukhangwa komlingani.
Lapho owesilisa esaba ukwenqatshwa, kulapho maningi amathuba okuthi athambekele ekusibukeni phansi isifiso sobulili somlingani wakhe.
Ngokuka-Amy Muse, lokhu kungachazwa yiqiniso lokuthi embhangqwana okhona, ukubukela phansi isifiso sowesifazane akuvumeli indoda ukuba iphumule futhi ijabule "iphumule phezu kwayo", kodwa kumshukumisela ukuba ahlanganise futhi alwele ukuvusa intukuthelo. isifiso sokubuyelana kumlingani. Wenza imizamo eyengeziwe yokuvutha, ukumyenga. Futhi kuhle ebudlelwaneni, kusho u-Amy Mewes.
Owesifazane uzizwa eyingqayizivele, efiseleka futhi ngenxa yalokho uzizwa enelisekile, futhi ukunamathela kwakhe kumlingani kuyaqiniswa.
Amadoda athatha kancane isifiso somlingani ngenxa yokwesaba ukwaliwa ngasohlangothini lwakhe. Lapho indoda isaba kakhulu ukwenqatshwa esifisweni sayo, ngokushesha ivame ukubukela phansi isifiso sobulili somlingani wayo.
Lena i-reinsurance engazi lutho ekuvumela ukuthi ugweme ingozi yokwenqatshwa, enomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa-ke, uphawula u-Amy Muse, ngezinye izikhathi isifiso somlingani nowesifazane siphutha ngendlela efanayo - njengomthetho, labo abane-libido ephezulu.
Kuvela ukuthi ukubukela phansi isifiso somlingani kunenzuzo kubabhangqwana abazinzile. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi lapho bobabili abalingani «bafunda» ngokunembile ukukhanga okuqinile komunye nomunye, lokhu kubuye kubalethele ukwaneliseka futhi kuqinisa ukunamathela kombhangqwana.