Sawubona, bafundi abathandekayo besayithi! Namuhla sizokhuluma ngalokho okushiwo umlingiswa we-hysterical accentuation ngokusho kukaLichko. Phela iyona egqame kunazo zonke ezinye izinhlobo. Ake sibheke izici eziyinhloko ezingabonakala ngazo.
Ukwenziwa kwezinhlamvu
Ama-Hysteroids ayakuthanda ukunakwa kangangokuthi akulungele ukukuthola nganoma iyiphi imali. Ngisho noma ngenxa yalokhu kufanele uzinyathele, wenze izenzo ezingekho emthethweni noma ucekele phansi ubudlelwano nabantu obathandayo.
Ngakho-ke, isici esiyinhloko i-egocentrism, okungukuthi, ukungakwazi ukwamukela umbono womunye umuntu, ukukhathalela kuphela izithakazelo nemizwa yomuntu siqu.
Baziphatha ngokudelela, befuna ukuqashelwa nokuhlonishwa emhlabeni wonke. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokugxekwa kuthathwa njengesigcobo somphefumulo. Kodwa ngasikhathi sinye, bayathinteka kakhulu uma othile engabakhubekisa, edelela amathuba namathalente abawagcina ngokoqobo ukuze abonwe yiwo wonke umuntu.
Amakhono okulingisa asephezulu, akulungele ukungena endimeni cishe kunoma yisiphi isimo. Ngisho nesibukeli esisodwa.
Ngokuvamile abanalo uzwelo ngabantu ababazungezile, kodwa bangamveza kahle kakhulu nangokwethembeka.
Ukuzethemba kubhekwa ngokweqile, okuyinto, ngokuyisisekelo, isibonakaliso sokuthi empeleni umuntu onjalo uhlangabezana nehlazo elinobuthi kuye, ecabanga ukuthi cishe ungelutho.
Kodwa ukuphila kanzima kangangokuthi uyakhohliswa, ekholelwa ekukhetheni kwakhe yedwa. Ngale ndlela, i-psyche ivikelekile emizweni enamandla nasekuhlukumezekeni kwengqondo, okwenza umqondo oyiphutha womuntu siqu wama-uXNUMXbuXNUMXbits.
Uthanda izinto ezinemfashini, ezingajwayelekile ezidonsa amehlo ngokwemvelo futhi zimenze ahluke esixukwini.
Ufunda kakhulu, uhambela imibukiso, yaseshashalazini, enikeza umbono womuntu ofundile, okhulisiwe nokhuliswe ngokomqondo. Okungukuthi, ngokomthetho, empeleni.
Phela, uxhumana ikakhulukazi nalabo angakwazi ukudweba ulwazi oluthakazelisayo ngempela, athole isipiliyoni, okuyinto esikhathini esizayo engaboniswa esidlangalaleni.
Unomqondo othuthukisiwe wokuhleka, okungamangazi, ngoba ikhono lokwenza abantu bahleke lisiza ukuba ube yi-interlocutor ethandwayo, edumile futhi efiselekayo.
Ungalalela ngempela i-hysteroid, inkulumo yakhe ihanjiswa kahle. Umane alawule iphimbo lakhe ngobuciko, egwema ukusebenzisa amagama ayizinambuzane nokuma kancane.
Detstvo
Ubusha abuhambi kahle kakhulu. Ama-Hysteria aletha izinkinga eziningi nezinkathazo kubazali bawo. Ngoba, ngokwesibonelo, bangenza sengathi bayagula, ukuze nje bathole ingxenye yozwelo nokunakekelwa.
Noma bazilimaza ngamabomu uma izihlobo zibona amanga nezenzo. Sika isikhumba ngokukhethekile, gxuma usuka phezulu, ushayeke entweni. Bese bejabulela ukunakwa okubazungezile ngesikhathi sokwelashwa.
Babaleka ekhaya ukuze bakhathaze ababathandayo, ikakhulukazi uma bengabasekeli ngokukhethekile muva nje. Ngezenzo ezinjalo, izingane ezinjalo zifuna ukuziphindiselela, ngoba ngezikhathi zokuphelelwa ithemba kokusesha okungaphumeleli, abantu abadala bayaqaphela ukuthi bathandeka kangakanani kubo.
Baphinde bathambekele ekubeni umlutha wotshwala. Ngokuvamile bazama ukuzibulala, ngokwemvelo, ngokudelela, ngaphandle kokwehluleka ukushiya ithuba lokuzisindisa.
Amantombazane ekuthombeni angase abe nokuziphatha okuxekethile, ecabanga ukuthi umfanekiso wesifebe uzowahlukanisa nobuningi bontanga yawo. Baze babe abaqalisi bokusabalalisa amahlebezi anemininingwane emnandi ngomuntu wabo.
Umsebenzi wobungcweti
Abantu abanokugcizelela uhlamvu lwe-hysterical banenkani futhi banenhloso, okunomthelela omuhle kuphela emsebenzini wabo. Phela bazozama ngazo zonke izindlela ukufeza izinhlelo zabo.
Ngokuvamile baziswa abaphathi, ikakhulukazi emkhakheni lapho kunokuncintisana okuphezulu. Ngoba umuntu onjalo ungenza noma yini ukuze ayinqobe.
Uhlakaniphile, uyakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezinomthwalo wemfanelo, ukhuthele futhi unamakhono amahle okuhlela. Ngenxa yokuhlalisana kwakhe nabantu abaningi, unendilinga ebanzi yabajwayele, evame ukumsiza.
Ubunzima kuphela ukuthi, naphezu kwamandla akhe, usheshe aphume, ikakhulukazi uma isikhathi esithile engatholi ukudunyiswa nokuqashelwa.
Okungukuthi, umsebenzi ongahileli ukukhulumisana ungaletha umuntu onjalo ekukhathaleni ngisho nasekucindezelekeni.
Uthambekele ekubeni ne-demagogy nezingxabano, angenza amaphutha, ngezinye izikhathi abulale ngenxa yokuzimisela kwakhe ukuthatha izingozi ezingenasizathu.
Uma kubhekwa ubugovu bakhe, ngenkathi ephethe izikhundla zobuholi, akacabangi ngemibono yabangaphansi kwakhe, enza ngesisekelo sezifiso zakhe.
Izincomo
- Uma ingane yakho ingummeleli walolu hlobo lokugcizelela umlingiswa, zama ukumbonisa ukuqashelwa kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Bonisa ukuthi unesithakazelo embonweni wakhe, ubuntu bakhe futhi ukulungele ukumamukela ngalokho ayikho. Lokhu kuzosindisa izinzwa zakho, njengoba kulokhu, isidingo sakhe sokunakwa sizokwaneliswa. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi ngeke enze izenzo zokuxhamazela neziyingozi, ngoba ngeke kube nesidingo kubo.
- Lapho ukhuluma ne-hysteroid, gwema izimo lapho ukuthopha kubonakala kakhulu, akufanele umnike ukuqashelwa okungenangqondo. Amanga angamcasula, ngakho-ke zama ukugxila ezimfanelweni ezinhle namakhono akhona ngempela.
- Hlala uzolile ngesikhathi sokuxhumana, ikakhulukazi nentsha. Uma kungenjalo, uzomchukuluza ezenzweni zokuxhamazela neziyingozi azozithatha ukuze afeze ukuzisola kwakho ngokungabi nabulungisa nokuphathwa kanzima okubonisiwe.
Ukugcwaliswa
Futhi yilokho kuphela okwanamuhla, bafundi abathandekayo besayithi!
Okokugcina, sithanda ukuncoma ukuthi ufunde isihloko mayelana nobuntu obuphakeme. Ukuqonda izici zohlobo ngalunye lokugcizelela umlingiswa, kokubili ngokusho kukaLichko noLeonhard, ungasungula ubudlelwano nanoma yimuphi umuntu. Okuzoba nomthelela omuhle emsebenzini wakho kanye nempilo yomuntu siqu.
Zinakekele futhi ujabule!
Indaba ilungiswe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, i-Gestalt Therapist, uZhuravina Alina