Okuqukethwe
Sawubona, bafundi abathandekayo besayithi! Namuhla sizocubungula ukuthi yini eyakha uhlobo lomuntu oluphakeme ngokusho kukaLeonhard. Siphinde sifunda amandla nobuthakathaka bayo ukuze siqonde ukuthi yini okufanele inakwe ekuthuthukisweni, futhi, ngokuphambene nalokho, okungathenjelwa kukho.
Isici esiyinhloko
Lolu hlobo lwesimo somoya lubizwa nangokuthi i-affective, ngoba umuntu ubonakala elinganisela onqenqemeni lwenjabulo nokukhathazeka okudla konke. Isimo sakhe sengqondo sishintshashintsha njalo, ngisho nezenzakalo ezincane zingamfaka kokubili ekuphelelweni yithemba nasekudabukeni okujulile, nasenjabulweni engalawuleki.
Unamathele kakhulu kubathandekayo bakhe, uzinikele kubo futhi uhlanganyela ngobuqotho usizi lwabo nezikhathi ezijabulisayo.
Ngokuvamile uthanda ubuciko, ezemidlalo, umculo. Ngokuvamile, konke okungajabulisa, kuthumbe umoya. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kuvamile ukuba abantu abaphakeme bawele emahlelweni, babe inkolo ngokweqile, okungukuthi, abashiseka ngokweqile.
Ubunzima buvela ekuhlulekeni. Uma esendleleni ehlangana nabantu noma izilwane ezidinga usizo, uzokhathazeka isikhathi eside aze aqiniseke ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle ngabo. Angase aphelelwe ithemba, ephila ngokudumala ngendlela izwe elingenabulungisa nelinonya ngayo.
Ngokwemvelo, ukusabela okunjalo kunoma yikuphi okucasulayo kunomphumela omubi kakhulu enhlalakahleni yonke. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, abantu abanezimpawu eziphakeme zokuziphatha ngokuvamile baba nempilo ebuthaka.
Isimiso sabo sezinzwa siphelile, ngoba cishe yonke iminithi kufanele babhekane nokucindezeleka. Umzimba awunaso isikhathi sokubuyisela izinsiza ezisetshenziselwa imizwelo, ukucindezeleka, bese zonke ezinye izitho nezinhlelo zihluleka.
Abakwazi ngempela ukubhekana nemisebenzi yokuphila, badinga labo okuthiwa abaqaphi, abantu abazobasiza, futhi bahlanganyele umthwalo wemfanelo kokuthile.
Izinsiza kanye nemikhawulo
Izinzuzo ukuthi abantu abanjalo kulula ukubajabulisa futhi bajabule, ngisho noma umzuzu nje odlule bebehlezi kumnyama kunamafu.
Lokhu kwenza ukuphila kube lula, ngoba uma kungenjalo "babezowela" ekucindezelekeni, bangene ekudabukeni, njengokungathi bangena exhaphozini, okungenakwenzeka ukuphuma kulo.
Ngokuvamile bakhuluma kakhulu futhi bakhulumele phezulu, bedonsela ukunaka kubo. Bathanda izilwane futhi bathintwa yizo zonke izidalwa eziphilayo emhlabeni abahlangana nazo endleleni yabo.
Banobungane, abazimisele, kodwa kukhona labo ababazonda ngobuqotho ngezinhliziyo zabo zonke. Ngokuvamile abakwazi ukucasula omunye, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo bangabonisa unya oludlulele esitheni.
Ngokwesibonelo, bayomane badlule bengenandaba, ngisho noma ecela usizo. Nakuba umfokazi ozithola esezimweni ezinzima zempilo anganikeza okokugcina.
Umsebenzi wobungcweti
Ubuntu obuphakeme bunobuciko impela, ngakho-ke bathola impumelelo emisebenzini yokudala. Isibonelo, benza abadlali abahle kakhulu, abaculi, abaculi, abaklami, izimbongi, njalonjalo.
Baheha abantu ngokusabela kwabo, ubuqotho nokungaguquki, ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso, ngohlelo oluhle lwengqondo. Phela kuthakazelisa kakhulu ukuchitha isikhathi nomuntu okulula ukumjabulisa kunokuchitha isikhathi nomuntu ongakuqondi nhlobo ukuthi kufanele uziphathe kanjani. Akuyona?
Futhi banokunambitha okuhle, ngokusobala, uthando lwakho konke okuhle luthinta. Kuphela manje sebekwazi ukuyeka izinto ngaphandle kokuziqeda, kuphela ngenxa yokuthi kukhona okunye okwabathakazelisa kakhulu, noma badumala futhi manje abasiboni isizathu sokuqhubeka.
Ithimba lizama ukugwema izingxabano, okungenani azibachukumisi. Abakwazi ukubekezelela ukudelela, ngakho-ke abahlali isikhathi eside lapho kukhona abaholi abanobushiqela nabaqinile.
Badinga indawo yokuziveza, hhayi imingcele ecacile okungafanele yeqiwe. Kuphela ngokuzizwa bekhululekile futhi bamukelekile, bayakwazi ukwenza izinto ezinkulu. Ngempela, phakathi kwabantu abaphakeme, izihlakaniphi kanye nabantu abanesiphiwo bavame ukutholakala.
Lapho isimo sezulu sisihle, usebenza njengenyosi, ngokungakhathali. Kodwa uma ucasuka, umuntu onjalo ngeke akwazi ukugxila emisebenzini ayenzayo. Konke kuzowela ezandleni zakhe, futhi ngokuvamile, kuhlulekile.
Ngenxa yalokhu, ibhizinisi liyahlupheka uma kungumholi walo, umnikazi walo. Ukwenza amadili nokuxoxisana ngokusekelwe kusimo senhliziyo akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yokuzuza impumelelo.
Kwesinye isikhathi ubuhlakani kanye nendlela engenamzwelo ebhizinisini ibalulekile. Okungukuthi, ngeshwa, kuwuphawu lomlingiswa ongafinyeleleki kuye.
ubuhlobo
Njengoba sekushiwo, lokhu kugcizelela kuzwela kakhulu, yingakho abalingani ngokuvamile bengenaso isikhathi sokubhoreka ebuhlotsheni.
Abantu abanjalo banothando, banothando futhi banothando. Nethezeka futhi ube nokuthula, ukwaneliseka ekuxhumaneni nabo kuvinjwa ukushintshashintsha kwemizwelo okuvamile. Okungenakwenzeka ukubikezela, futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, ngandlela-thile ukugcina noma ukulawula.
Kodwa imizwa eqotho ekhanyayo eqondiswe kothandekayo, yenza kube nokwenzeka ukuvala amehlo kuwo wonke amaphutha angenhla.
Labo abangenakho ukunakwa nokunakekelwa, izimemezelo ezizwakalayo zothando. Olwela ubudlelwano obumangalisayo, izingxabano ezinodlame nokubuyisana, uhlobo oluphakeme lwe-affective luphelele.
Uma umlingani enquma ukuqeda ubuhlobo, angase acasule. Ukukholelwa ukuthi ungabuyisela yonke into endaweni yayo futhi uzithande futhi. Kudingeka umzamo omkhulu ukwenza kanjalo.
Ngokuvamile, akuwona wonke umuntu okwazi ukumelana nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo okuvamile, ngakho-ke abantu abaphakeme banesizungu, ikakhulukazi lapho sebekhulile.
Isikhathi sobusha sinzima, njengoba amantombazane nabafana kule minyaka behlushwa uthando olungafanelekile.
Bangase benqabe ngisho nokudla, balahlekelwe isifiso sabo sokudla phakathi kokuhlangenwe nakho. Bakhala emcamelweni ebusuku futhi abafuni ukuxhumana namuntu, besabela kakhulu kunoma yimiphi imizamo yokubasekela.
Izincomo
- Zijwayeze ukuzindla ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungakuthola kanjani ukuthula nokuthula. Isimiso sakho sezinzwa sidinga okungenani ngezinye izikhathi sibe sesimweni esizolile. Uma kungenjalo, kunobungozi obukhulu bokuthola noma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Imvamisa, kuvela ama-phobias aletha ubunzima obuningi nezinkinga empilweni yansuku zonke. Yebo, futhi ukuqwasha ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho okunamandla nakho kuyingozi kakhulu empilweni.
- Zama ukugwema ukuzihlanganisa nabantu abanobushiqela, abanobushiqela. Uma kubhekwa ukuzwela kwakho nokuba sengozini, oxhumana nabo abanjalo ngeke bazuze nhlobo.
- Funda ukuzimisa ezimeni lapho uzizwa sengathi ulahlekelwa ukuzilawula. Noma kunalokho, phezu kwemizwa yabo. Sebenzisa amasu okuphefumula akulesi sihloko ukuze wehlise umoya. Futhi lapho ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka, noma ngisho nenjabulo eyeqisayo kuphakama, phefumula futhi ubala. Futhi lapho uzinzisa umbuso, bese wenza izinqumo ukuze ungenzi amaphutha ngenxa yokungacabangi.
Ukugcwaliswa
Futhi yilokho kuphela okwanamuhla, bafundi abathandekayo! Bhalisela izibuyekezo zesayithi ukuze ufunde mayelana nohlobo ngalunye olukhona lokugcizelela uhlamvu, kokubili ngokusho kuka-Leonhard kanye no-Lichko. Ungakwazi ukuqala, isibonelo, ngohlobo olujabulisayo.
Zinakekele futhi ujabule!
Indaba ilungiswe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, i-Gestalt Therapist, uZhuravina Alina