Uyazi ukuthi iyini inganekwane yomndeni? Kunjani emndenini wakho? Uyiphatha kanjani impilo yakho? Cishe akunjalo. Asivamile ukucabanga ngakho, kodwa okwamanje kukhona amaphethini okuziphatha adluliselwa ezizukulwaneni ngesizukulwane emndenini ngamunye, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somndeni u-Inna Khamitova uqinisekile.
Kunzima kumuntu ongowamasiko esimanje nemibono yawo yomuntu ozenzele wona kanye nomqondo wokulawula ukudalelwa, ukuthi isikhathi sethu samanje sincike kangakanani esikhathini esidlule somndeni wethu. Kodwa izimo zempilo yokhokho bethu, ubunzima ababhekana nabo nendlela ababunqoba ngayo, kuyasithonya kakhulu namuhla.
Kukhona inganekwane yomndeni kuyo yonke imindeni, nakuba ingabonakali ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi ayivamile ukukhulunywa futhi ibonakale. Kusisiza ukuthi sizichaze thina kanye nomndeni wethu, sakhe imingcele nezwe, sinquma ukusabela kwethu kulokho okwenzeka kithi. Kungasinika amandla, ukuzethemba kanye nezinsiza, noma kungalimaza futhi kusivimbele ekuzihloleni ngendlela efanele thina namandla ethu.
Izibonelo zezinganekwane ezinjalo ziyizinganekwane mayelana nomsindisi, mayelana neqhawe, ngesoni, ngokuba umuntu ofanelekayo, ngokuphila, mayelana ne-centrism yengane. Inganekwane iqala lapho umndeni uphila izizukulwane ezimbalwa ngenxa yokuziphatha okuthile okuqondile. Esikhathini esizayo, ukuphila kuyashintsha futhi kubonakala sengathi ukuziphatha okunjalo akudingekile, kodwa izizukulwane ezilandelayo zomndeni zikhiqiza ngokuzenzakalelayo.
Isibonelo, izizukulwane eziningana zomndeni zaziphila kanzima: ukuze uphile, kwakudingeka uhlanganyele emsebenzini ohlangene, ugweme izingxabano, njalonjalo. Kwahamba isikhathi, futhi izizukulwane ezilandelayo zalo mndeni zazithola zisesimweni esithokomele, ukusinda kwazo akuxhomekile ngokuqondile ekutheni abantu basebenzisana kanjani ngokuzwana. Kodwa-ke, inganekwane iyaqhubeka nokushayela ukuziphatha kwabo, ibaphoqa ukuba "babe umngane ukuze baphile" nabantu abangafaneleki ngokuphelele.
Noma amalungu omndeni ofanayo ajwayele ukuzabalaza ngenxa yokuthi izimpilo zawo azikaze zizinze futhi zivikeleke (kwakunjalo ngamaqiniso omlando). Kodwa inzalo ephila ezweni elizinze ngokwengeziwe ingazidalela ubunzima ngamabomu, bese ibunqoba ngokuphumelelayo. Esimeni esizinzile, laba bantu bangazizwa bengakhululekile. Futhi uma umba ujule, ubuza imibuzo ethile, kuvela ukuthi bafuna ngasese ukuthi yonke into idilike. Bazizwa behle esimweni sempi kanye nesidingo sokunqoba leli zwe, bayazi ukuthi kufanele baziphathe kanjani ezimweni ezinjalo.
Ngokuvamile inganekwane yomndeni ibonakala njengokwethembeka emithethweni yomndeni, kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi nayo inethonya le-pathological.
Ake sithi uyise kagogo wakho uphuzile. Isiphuzo esidakayo sifana nempisi, ngokushintshana ngemodi eyodwa kwezimbili. Lapho engadakiwe - konke kuhamba kahle, lapho edakiwe - kubi kakhulu. Njalo kusihlwa, ugogo-ugogo wayelalela izinyathelo ezitebhisini: hlobo luni lukababa namuhla? Ngenxa yalokhu, wakhula waba umuntu ozwela kakhulu, okuthi, ngezinyathelo ezisemhubheni, ngokuvula ukhiye kukhiye, aqonde ukuthi yisiphi isimo othandekayo wakhe akuso, futhi, kuye ngokuthi, ukufihla noma ukukhahlela ngaphandle. .
Lapho owesifazane onjalo ekhula, kuvela ukuthi akanandaba nabafana abahle abanezimbali zama roses nokuqomisana. Ujwayele ukushintsha okuphakade, lapho ukwesaba kuthathelwa indawo injabulo. Yiqiniso, akakhethi ngempela umuntu othembele kuye njengomngane wakhe (nakuba amathuba aphezulu kakhulu), kodwa cishe ngokuqinisekile uxhumanisa impilo yakhe nomuntu ozomnikeza ukucindezeleka kwengqondo njalo. Kungaba umuntu okhethe umsebenzi owedlulele, noma, ake sithi, i-sociopath. Umbhangqwana onjalo unezingane, futhi iphethini idlula ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane, futhi ukuphuza utshwala kukakhokho kuthinta ukuziphatha kwenzalo.
Ngokuvamile inganekwane yomndeni ibonakala njengokwethembeka emithethweni yomndeni, ukuqhubeka, ngezinye izikhathi ifika kithi ngendlela yesiko lomndeni, kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi nayo inethonya le-pathological, bese udinga ukusebenza nayo.
Kodwa, okubaluleke kakhulu, singase singakunaki konke ukuphila kwethu - ikakhulukazi uma singacabangi ngekusasa lomndeni wethu, asibheki izizathu zezenzo zethu kuwo. Njengoba izizukulwane eziningi ezweni lakithi ziye zabhekana nezimpi, ukuvukela umbuso, ukucindezelwa, sithwala konke lokhu kithi, nakuba ngokuvamile asiqondi ukuthi iyiphi indlela. Isibonelo esilula kakhulu: abanye bakhuluphele futhi abakwazi ukushiya okuthile epuletini labo, ngisho nalapho begcwele, ngaphandle kokucabanga ukuthi isizathu siwukuthi ugogo wabo wasinda ekuvinjezelweni kweLeningrad.
Ngakho-ke inganekwane yomndeni ayiwona umqondo ongaqondakali, kodwa isenzakalo esithinta ngamunye wethu. Futhi njengoba esihola, kungaba kuhle ukumqonda kangcono. Inganekwane iqukethe umthombo wezinsiza ezinkulu - ngokushesha nje lapho sizitholela zona, amathuba amasha azovela empilweni. Isibonelo, uma inganekwane yomndeni wethu idinga ukuthi sihlale ezinzwaneni zethu ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngakho-ke akumangalisi ukuthi asikwazi ukuphumula futhi siphumule.
Yilokhu ngqo: ingxoxo yokuthi yiziphi izinganekwane ezikhona nokuthi zakhiwa kanjani ukuthi uhlelo "Imidlalo ne-Hedonism" luzonikezwa njengengxenye yephrojekthi yezemfundo "Shatology". Abahlanganyeli bazokwazi ukuxazulula izindaba zabo zomndeni futhi banqume ukuthi yini abafuna ukuyishintsha enganekwaneni yomndeni kanye nokuthi yini abafuna ukuhamba nayo onyakeni omusha.
Uma usuyibonile inganekwane yomndeni wakho, ungayisebenzisa ukuze uzenze uqine nempilo yakho ibe ngcono.