I-Psychology

“Kusasa ngiqala impilo entsha!” - siyazimemezela ngokuziqhenya, futhi ... akukho okuvela kukho. Siya kumaseshini okuqeqesha athembisa impumelelo esheshayo ngenani lokuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo. “Kukhona okushintshayo,” siyaziqinisekisa. Lokhu ukuzethemba, kanye nomphumela, kwanele isonto lonke. Akukho ngathi. Kungani ukwelapha ukushaqeka kungasebenzi, futhi izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zingazinikezi izindlela zokupheka esezenziwe kakade zenjabulo, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMaria Eril sachaza sisebenzisa isibonelo esiwusizo.

"Pho uzokwenzenjani ngami?" Ngiyazi ukuthi ngidinga ukuzigqashula, wonke la maphethini kanye nezimo zami zengqondo … Susa amaphutha. Ngikulungele!

U-Triathlete, usomabhizinisi, umqwali kanye no-superdad Gennady wayeyindoda ebukekayo ngendlela engavamile yesiqu esifushane, wayegqoke ihembe elimpintshayo, lapho imisipha yakhe yayiqhuma khona kanye nokulungela kwakhe ukufeza okuthile. Kwaba nomuzwa wokuthi okhulumisana naye uhlakaniphile, uyathakazelisa. Ngangifuna ngempela ukuncokola naye, ngidlale naye.

- Gennady, ngizoba nenkulumo ebucayi nawe manje. Indlela ophila ngayo ayilungile. Izilungiselelo zonke zinephutha futhi zinonya. Manje ngizokwenqabela kancane kancane ukwenza okuthandayo, futhi ngibeke imikhuba engiyibheka njengeyiqiniso kuphela!

Ngathi ngihleka naye, kodwa ngabona uGennady ehleka futhi ethi:

— Hhayi. Kufanele kube njalo, sengilungile. Uyalazi ibhizinisi lakho.

"Kuthiwani uma singaphumeleli?"

Ngakho-ke, ngike ngaphuma kojantshi ndawana thize. Ngizozama ukuba mncane!

Ngacabanga ngesimo lapho umelaphi eqala ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo kaGennady, amtshele uchungechunge lwezenzo, futhi phakathi nomdlalo wephula zonke izimiso zokuziphatha kochwepheshe: musa ukwenza izinqumo kuklayenti, musa ukuphoqelela eyakho. izinkambiso namagugu kuye, futhi ungabeki noma yimiphi imisebenzi kuye ngokusekelwe kulokho umelaphi acabanga ukuthi kuyiqiniso.

Indlela enjalo, yebo, ngeke ilethe noma iyiphi inzuzo. Ukuphila kukaGennady ngeke kushintshe, kuzoba nezifanekiso ezintsha eziningana kanye ne-aftertaste yomphumela we-wow ovela ku-grinder yenyama yendlela engeyona eyemvelo. Lapho athatha khona umthwalo wemfanelo, wawunikeza lapho. Ngemuva kokwehluleka, kulula kakhulu ukusola uGennady ngokuntuleka koshintsho.

Kukholakala ukuthi izimiso zokuziphatha zobuchwepheshe - «ukuvikelwa ku-idiot. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esiyisiphukuphuku esingaqondi lutho sincike ezimisweni zokuziphatha ukuze singenzi izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuthi yingakho abanye abelaphi, beqondiswa iqiniso elingephikiswe lokuthi abazona izilima, bebonisa indlela yokudala yokuziphatha.

“Ngizolala nesiguli ngisinike ukunaka nothando angakaze abe nalo. Ngizoncoma futhi ngiphakamise ukuzethemba kwami, ”omunye umelaphi weqembu eligadayo engilivakashelayo wakhuthaza isinqumo sakhe.

“Ngahlangana nendoda yamaphupho ami, ngakho-ke ngayeka ukwelashwa ngase ngihamba nayo siye e-Gagra (empeleni siya e-Cannes)” — lapho sibona omusha okhethiwe kofunda naye ekilasini, kwaba nokuthula cwaka. Indoda ngokubukeka, imikhuba kanye nezithakazelo kwakuyikhophi yomyeni wakhe, ashiye kuyo isiguli.

Icala lokuqala libonisa ukuntula ukuqonda ngumelaphi wezimpawu zokudluliselwa kanye nokuphikisana nokwelapha ekwelapheni. Eqinisweni, waziphatha njengobaba oyenga indodakazi yakhe siqu.

Esimweni sesibili, umelaphi waphuthelwa okuthile emsebenzini wokwelapha lapho yena ngokwakhe esekwelapheni komuntu siqu. Uma kungenjalo, ubungeke kanjani uqaphele ukuthi ukhetha umuntu ofanayo nomngane wakho womshado, naye konke okungahambi kahle?

Ngokuvamile umelaphi ubheka isiguli njengomuntu omdala onekhono futhi onesibopho sokuvikela imingcele yabo futhi athi «cha» uma kwenzeka okuthile okungalungile.

Uma isiguli singasebenzi, ukwelashwa kungase kungasebenzi. Kodwa kungcono kunokuphazamisa okusebenzayo engcupheni yokulimala

Futhi lapha phambi kwami ​​nguGennady, okuphila kwakhe kusekelwe esimisweni esithi: "Konke kungafezwa kuphela ngamandla ensimbi. Futhi uma ungakwenzanga, intando yakho ibingenamandla ngokwanele!” Angicabangi ukuthi lo muntu ethi “cha” kimina, akha imingcele. Futhi kulula kakhulu ukungena esimeni sowazi konke kanye naye - usevele wangihlalisa kulesi sihlalo sobukhosi.

Ake sibuyele ezizatho zokuthi kungani sisagcina izimiso zokuziphatha. Isekelwe esimisweni esihle se-Hippocratic sakudala esithi "ungalimazi." Ngibheka umguquki wami futhi ngiqonde: Ngincamela ukungasebenzi futhi i-ego yami izohlupheka ngempela kunokulimaza umuntu.

Into enjalo - isiguli siyasebenza, hhayi umelaphi. Futhi uma eyokuqala ingasebenzi, ukwelashwa kungase kungasebenzi. Kodwa kungcono kunokuphazamisa okusebenzayo engcupheni yokulimala.

Sekungamakhulu eminyaka amaJapane esebenzisa i-Kaizen, isimiso sokuthuthukisa okuqhubekayo ukuletha inqubo ekupheleleni. Abantu baseMelika, abakhathalela yonke into, benza ucwaningo - futhi yebo, isimiso sokuthuthukiswa okuncane saqashelwa ngokusemthethweni njengesisebenza kangcono kunendlela yoguquko nokuketula umbuso.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungase kubonakale kuyisicefe kangakanani, izinyathelo ezincane zansuku zonke zisebenza kakhulu kunesenzo sobuqhawe sesikhathi esisodwa. Ukwelashwa okuhambisanayo kwesikhathi eside kuholela kumphumela ozinzile kunokuqeqeshwa okuphezulu okuphula zonke izilungiselelo zangaphakathi.

Impilo ayisabonakali njengenkundla ye-duel eyodwa enomhlaseli ongalawuleki

Ngakho-ke, Gennady, ngizokulalela futhi ngikubuze imibuzo. Ngeke uthole ama-somersault amangalisayo, amakhefu, amakhefu nami. Ngokugcina ukulungiselelwa kokwelapha, kufiphele futhi kufiphele, lapho umelaphi onothando engazitholi nesithukuthezi isikhathi eside, sithola imiphumela yangempela.

Ephendula imibuzo nezincazelo, uGennady ufika ekuqondeni ukuthi iyini isisekelo sezinkinga zakhe. Ekhululiwe ezimweni ezingqubuzanayo, usengakwazi ukuphefumula ngokukhululeka - futhi impilo ayisabonakali njengenkundla ye-duel eyodwa enomhlaseli ongalawuleki.

Siphinde sihlangane ngemva kwesonto.

— Angikuqondi konke, ngitshele ukuthi wenzeni? Ngesonto eledlule, ukuhlaselwa ukwesaba okukodwa kuphela, futhi lowo kwakungu-C. Angenzanga lutho nhlobo! Akunakwenzeka ukuthi engxoxweni eyodwa nasekuzivivinyeni kokuphefumula okuhlekisayo kukhona okushintshile, kwenzeka kanjani lokhu? Ngifuna ukwazi ukuthi liyini iqhinga!

Futhi mayelana nesidingo esiphuthumayo sokulawula yonke into, Gennady, sizokhuluma ngokuzayo.

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