Ucansi olungavikelekile: kungani sinquma ngakho

Ososayensi base-Indiana University baphenya isimo sengqondo mayelana nokuvimbela inzalo okuyisithiyo. Wonke owesifazane wesibili wavuma ukuthi akalujabuleli ucansi ngokugcwele uma umlingani wakhe engayisebenzisi ikhondomu. Okungukuthi, ngokuvamile, akumangazi: lapho sikhathazeka ngengozi yokukhulelwa noma ukutheleleka, ngokusobala asifiki ku-orgasm.

Iningi - u-80% walabo abahlolwa - bavuma ukuthi amakhondomu ayadingeka, kodwa uhhafu wabo wawasebenzisa ngesikhathi begcina ukuya ocansini. Asilujabuleli ucansi olungavikelekile, kodwa sisaqhubeka nalo.

U-40% walabo abangasebenzisanga ikhondomu ngesikhathi begcina ukuya ocansini abazange baxoxe ngakho nophathina babo. Futhi phakathi kwemibhangqwana esanda kwakhiwa, izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zayeka ukusebenzisa amakhondomu ngemva kwenyanga yobudlelwane, futhi engxenyeni kuphela yamacala, abalingani bakhuluma ngakho bodwa.

Kungani senqaba ukuvimbela inzalo?

1. Ukungazihloniphi

Cabanga nje: phakathi kwe-foreplay evuthayo, buza umlingani wakho ukuthi unayo yini ikhondomu, futhi uzokubuka ngokudideka. Akanayo ikhondomu, futhi ngokuvamile - kwafika kanjani emqondweni wakho? Unezinketho ezimbili: yenza okuhlukile (kube kanye nje!) noma uthi, "Hhayi namuhla, sithandwa." Impendulo incike kakhulu ezimisweni zakho.

Ake sithi umgomo wakho uwukwenza uthando ngaphandle kwejazi lomkhwenyana kuphela ngemva kokuba indoda ilethe isitifiketi sikadokotela, bese uqala ukuthatha isivimbeli. Ukuyivikela, uzodinga isibindi nokuzethemba. Mhlawumbe uzizwa ungakhululekile ukuqala ingxoxo enjalo noma wesaba ukukulahlekela uma uphikelela ngokwakho.

Kodwa nokho kufanele uchaze isimo sakho emadodeni. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, zama ukungabukeki unolaka, ucasukile noma ugomela kakhulu. Udinga ukufunda indlela yokuxhumana. Uma kungenjalo, ufuna ukujabulisa indoda, uzokwenza lokho ongakufuni ngempela. Kufanelekile ukunikeza kanye, futhi akukho lutho oluzokuvimbela ekukuphindaphindeni.

2. Ingcindezi yozakwethu

Amadoda avame ukuthi: "Imizwa ayifani", "Nginempilo ngokuphelele", "Ungesabi, ngeke ukhulelwe." Kodwa kuyenzeka ukuthi abesifazane ngokwabo baphoqe abalingani ukuthi benqabe ikhondomu. Ingcindezi iqhamuka nhlangothi zombili.

Iningi labesifazane liyaqiniseka ukuthi owesilisa akafuni ukusebenzisa ikhondomu nokuthi ngokuyikhipha, ungajabulisa umlingani wakho. Nokho, abesifazane bayakhohlwa ukuthi ukunikeza umuntu injabulo akusho ukuthandeka.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, amakhondomu aletha umzuzwana wokulindela okujabulisayo ocansini: uma omunye wenu efinyelela kuwo, lokhu kuwuphawu lokuthi usuzoya ocansini. Kufanele kukhuthaze ugqozi, hhayi ukwesaba.

3. Ukwehluka

Uma kuziwa kumakhondomu, abantu bavame ukwenza i-molehill nge-molehill: “Kungani ungafuni ukusondela “amaphesenti ayikhulu”? Awungethembi? Sesibe ndawonye isikhathi eside! Angibalulekile kuwe nakancane?" Kungenzeka ukuthi nawe uzwile okuningi ngalokhu.

Uma amakhondomu echitha ezothando, kusho ukuthi unezinkinga ezinkulu kakhulu empilweni yakho yocansi. Amakhondomu awahlanganise lutho nakho, ayisimbozo nje sobunye ubunzima.

Abantu bavame ukudida ukwethembana nokuvikeleka. Omunye akamfaki ngaphandle omunye. "Ngiyakwethemba, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi unempilo." Lokhu kudala ubunzima ebudlelwaneni obusha, lapho abantu beshesha ukunamathela komunye nomunye. Kodwa ekuxhumaneni kwesikhathi esisodwa, lokhu akuyona inkinga.

Ubani othenga amakhondomu?

Ingxenye yabaphendulile ikholelwa ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane banomthwalo ofanayo wokuvimbela inzalo. Bobabili kufanele babe namakhondomu kubo. Nokho, empeleni, abesifazane abaningi balindele ukuba amadoda athenge futhi alethe.

Ukuthenga amakhondomu kusho ukuvuma ukuthi uya ocansini ukuze ujabule. Abesifazane abaningi bazizwa bengakhululekile ngenxa yalokhu. "Bazothini abantu uma ngihamba nabo?"

Kodwa uma amakhondomu engekho, ungase uzithole usesimeni esinzima kakhulu. Yebo, amanye amadoda angaphoxeka ngokuthi uwagcine ekhaya noma uwaphethe.

Uma usenemibuzo, ungaphendula kanje: “Akufanele ngibeke izaba. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ngilala nawo wonke umuntu, lokho kuyilungelo lakho, kodwa awungazi nhlobo. Uqinisekile ukuthi kufanele sibe ndawonye?"

Okubaluleke kakhulu, sidinga ukukhuluma kabanzi ngamakhondomu, ngokwethembeka nangokuvuleleka. Ngenxa yalokhu, ubudlelwano bakho buzoba namandla, bujabule futhi buthembeke kakhulu.