Ukufinyelela ukuvumelana ngaphakathi kwakho kuyisimo esihle, lapho wonke umuntu osemhlabeni alwela khona, ngokuqaphela noma ngokungazi. Kodwa indlela yokuthola ukuthula kwangaphakathi, ngezinye izikhathi, inikezwa ngokukhathazeka okukhulu futhi iyakwazi ukusiqhubela ekugcineni.
Yiziphi izinyathelo eziyisisekelo zokufinyelela ukuthula ngaphakathi kwakho kanye nabanye?
I-1. Lula
1) Ungalayishi kakhulu uhlu lwezinto okufanele uzenze: gqamisa okungu-2-3 kokubalulekile okuphezulu. 2) Beka imingcele. Isibonelo, umkhawulo wokuhlola ama-imeyili angenayo. Ngezimpelasonto ngikwenza kanye. Setha isikhathi sokwenza izinqumo ezijwayelekile, ezingezona ezomhlaba phakathi neminithi ngemva kokucabanga ngazo. Ngale ndlela, ugwema ukuhlehlisa kanye nokuhlehlisa ngokweqile umcabango ofanayo. Beka eceleni imizuzu engu-15 ngosuku ukuze usebenzise izinkundla zokuxhumana. 3) Bhala ebhodini elimhlophe elisebenzisanayo noma eshidini elingu-A4, ulibeke ngokugqama ekamelweni lakho. Isikhumbuzo esilula esikusizayo lapho uqala ukuduka.” 2. Yamukela
Uma wamukela okwenzekayo, uyeka ukuchitha amandla ngokumelana. Awusakhuphuli amandla enkinga engqondweni yakho ngokuyenza ibe nzima futhi ibe bucayi kakhulu. Ukwamukela isimo akusho ukuyeka. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uzibeka ethubeni elingcono lokuthatha isinyathelo uma kudingeka. Manje njengoba usunombono ocacile wesimo, ungakwazi ukugxila amandla akho kulokho okufunayo futhi uthathe isinyathelo esihlakaniphile sokushintsha isimo.
3. Ukuvalelisa
UGerald Yampolsky
Kunzima ukweqisa ukubaluleka kokukwazi ukuthethelela. Uma nje singakamthetheleli umuntu, sisuke sixhumene nalowo muntu. Emicabangweni yethu, sizobuyela kumoni wethu kaninginingi. Ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo phakathi kwenu nobabili kuleli cala kunamandla kakhulu futhi kubangela ukuhlupheka hhayi kuphela kuwe, kodwa ngokuvamile kubantu abaseduze nawe. Ngokuthethelela, siyazikhulula kulo muntu, kanye nokuhlushwa okuhlobene naye. Kubalulekile ukuphawula lapha ukuthi njengoba kudingekile ukuthethelela abanye, kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokudedela yonke into ongazange uzixolele isonto lonke, unyaka, iminyaka eyi-10, uvumela umkhuba omusha wokudala empilweni yakho. Futhi ukuthethelela abanye kancane kancane kuba lula kuwe.
4. Yenza okuthandayo
Roger Karas
Uma wenza lokho okujabulelayo, ukuthula nokuzwana kuvele kuvele. Uvumelana nezwe langaphandle. Futhi lapha abantu abaningi babuza umbuzo othi "Ungathola kanjani lokho okuthanda ngempela?". Impendulo ilula futhi iyinkimbinkimbi ngesikhathi esifanayo:. Yiba nelukuluku, ungesabi ukuzama izinto ezintsha, thola ulwazi.
5. Amandla othando
Intando eqinile nengqikithi idlala indima ebalulekile ekusunguleni ukuthula nokuthula kwangaphakathi. Kumongo walesi sihloko, amandla abonakala njengokulawula imicabango, ukukhetha ukucabanga okunjalo okukhuthaza ukuzwana, hhayi ukuzehlisa.
- Naka imicabango yakho usuku lonke ngokuzijwayeza ukucabangela.
- Lapho uzithola unomcabango olimazayo, yeka.
- Shintshela emicabangweni ekunikeza umuzwa wokuthula
Khumbula: ungenza ukukhetha ngokuvumelana nemicabango evumelanayo.