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Ingabe odokotela bengqondo bacebile? Uyini umehluko phakathi kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nodokotela wengqondo? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sasemtholampilo uJohn Grohol siphendula imibuzo ethandwa kakhulu, futhi sengeza izimpendulo zakhe, ezilungiselwe amaqiniso aseRussia.
Kokubili izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo kanye ne-psychotherapists zihlala zizwa imibuzo eminingi evela kubangani ngisho nabantu abangabazi. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo uJohn Grohol sihlonze ezinhlanu ezijwayeleke kakhulu kuzo. “Kuyahlekisa ukuthi yonke le mibuzo iphakama njalo: akukho muntu osebenza ngamapayipi noma isazi sezinkanyezi ukuthi akhulume ngento efanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe,” ehleka.
Bayini “abaphulukisi bemiphefumulo” ababuzwa ngabo, futhi ngokuvamile bayiphendula kanjani le mibuzo?
1. “Uyangihlaziya njengamanje?”
Abaningi bathambekele ekukholelweni ukuthi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sihlala sifuna izisusa ezicashile endleleni abantu abenza ngayo nalokho abakushoyo. Ezimweni eziningi, akunjalo.
Ukuba isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esihle kuwumsebenzi onzima, kugcizelela uDkt. Grohol. Uchwepheshe akazami nje kuphela ukuqonda isiguli sakhe, kodwa futhi nokuqonda isikhathi sakhe esidlule, isipiliyoni sempilo kanye nendlela acabanga ngayo. Ngokuhlanganisa yonke le mininingwane, ungathola isithombe esiphelele, umelaphi agxile kuso ngesikhathi sokwelashwa ukuze asize umuntu abhekane nezinkinga.
Lokhu akulona uhlobo oluthile “lwamandla amakhulu” umelaphi angavele alusebenzise kumuntu angamazi, afunde kalula konke ngaye. “Nakuba bekungaba kuhle uma bekunjalo,” ngokuxakayo uJohn Grohol.
2. “Kumelwe yini ukuthi odokotela bengqondo bacebe kakhulu?”
Kuyavunywa ukuthi iningi lezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo nodokotela bengqondo bathola imali eningi. Ngempela, emadolobheni amakhulu ase-US, ama-psychoanalyst angathola iholo elihle kakhulu. Nokho, kuma-psychotherapists amaningi, isithombe sihluke kakhulu, kokubili eNtshonalanga naseRussia.
Ochwepheshe abakhokhelwa kakhulu odokotela bengqondo. Izazi eziningi zokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nodokotela bengqondo abazibheki “njengezicebi” nhlobo, futhi abelaphi abaqalayo bavame ukubhekana nezinkinga zezezimali nhlobo. Ukuqeqeshwa okuqhubekayo, ukwelashwa komuntu siqu kanye nokugadwa okufanele kwenziwe yilowo nalowo ochwepheshe ozihloniphayo nakho kudinga ukutshalwa kwezimali.
Ngamafuphi, iningi lama-psychotherapist awenzi nhlobo umsebenzi walo ngoba likhokha kahle kakhulu. Ziningi ezinye izindawo ezikhokha kangcono kakhulu, kugcizelela uGrohol. Ochwepheshe abaningi benza ukwelashwa kwengqondo ngoba befuna ukusiza abanye.
3. “Ingabe uyaziyisa izinkinga zekhasimende ekhaya?”
Ngokudabukisayo, ngokusho kochwepheshe, impendulo yalo mbuzo iqinisekile. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi, ngenkathi bethola imfundo futhi bethuthukisa iziqu zabo, bafunda ukuhlukanisa umsebenzi nokuphila, ekusebenzeni lokhu akusebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kungaba iphutha ukucabanga ukuthi abelaphi abalethi “umsebenzi” ekhaya.
Yiqiniso, isimo singase sihluke kumakhasimende, kodwa ngokusho kukaJohn Grahol, bambalwa kakhulu abelaphi abangashiya ngokuphepha "impilo" yamakhasimende ehhovisi. Lesi ngesinye sezizathu ezenza kube nzima kangaka ukuba yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esihle, kanye nesinye sezici ezibalulekile ekutubekeni komsebenzi. Ochwepheshe abangcono kakhulu bafunda ukuhlanganisa abakwenzayo empilweni yabo ngenkathi begcina imingcele eqinile.
4. “Uyini umehluko phakathi kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nodokotela wengqondo?”
Lo mbuzo uzwakala njalo ngabameleli bayo yomibili imisebenzi. Impendulo yochwepheshe baseMelika ilula: “Udokotela wezifo zengqondo ungudokotela wase-United States ochitha isikhathi sakhe esiningi enikeza imithi yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, kuyilapho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sichwepheshile ngezinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zokwelashwa kwengqondo futhi sigxile ekuhloleni umuntu nokuziphatha kwakhe. . Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo azinikezi imithi, nakuba ezinye izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo eziqeqeshwe ngokukhethekile kwezinye izifunda zingase.”
Ezimweni ezingokoqobo zaseRussia, udokotela wengqondo ungudokotela oqinisekisiwe owelapha ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo futhi angakwazi ukunikeza imithi. Unesikole sezokwelapha ngemuva kwakhe, unochwepheshe bezokwelapha "i-psychotherapist", futhi ukusetshenziswa kwezindlela zokwelapha kwengqondo kufakwe namakhono akhe ochwepheshe.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, ngomunye owathweswa iziqu e-Faculty of Psychology, wathola idiploma efanelekile, uhlome ngolwazi lwethiyori futhi angahlanganyela ekululekeni ngokwengqondo. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singaphinde sihlanganyele ekwelashweni kwengqondo, sithole imfundo eyengeziwe futhi sisebenzise amasu afanele.
5. “Ingabe uyakhathala ukuzwa ngezinkinga zabantu usuku lonke?”
Yebo, kusho uDkt. Grohol. Nakuba abelaphi bethola ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile, lokhu akusho ukuthi azikho izinsuku lapho umsebenzi uba ukhandlayo futhi udinise. “Nakuba ochwepheshe bethola okwengeziwe ekwelapheni kwengqondo kunalokho abakunikezayo, ngisho nabo bangahlupheka ekupheleni kosuku olubi lapho bekhathele ukulalela.”
Njengakweminye imisebenzi, ochwepheshe abahle bafunda ukubhekana nakho. Bayazi ukuthi izinsuku ezinjengalezi zingase zibe isixwayiso sokuthi basebenza ngokweqile noma bacindezelekile futhi kudingeka bazinakekele kakhudlwana. Noma mhlawumbe kuwuphawu lokuthi sekuyisikhathi seholide.
“Khumbula, abelaphi bangabantu nabo,” kuphetha uJohn Grahol. "Yize ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile nolwazi olusebenzayo lubalungiselela imisebenzi yansuku zonke yokwelashwa kwengqondo, njengabo bonke abantu, ngeke baphelele isikhathi esingu-100%.
Mayelana Nochwepheshe: UJohn Grahol uyisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sasemtholampilo kanye nomlobi wezindatshana ezikhuluma ngempilo yengqondo.