Okuqukethwe
Njengoba sikhula, siyaqaphela ukuthi eziningi zezinkolelo zethu zangaphambili azilona iqiniso. Umuntu omubi ebesifuna ukumlungisa akasoze ashintsha. Owake waba umngane omkhulu, abafunga naye ubungane baphakade, usephenduke isihambi. Ukuphila akufani nhlobo nalokhu ebesikucabanga. Indlela yokubhekana nokushintsha okungazelelwe ezimweni zokuphila?
Ngokusondela komkhosi weminyaka engamashumi amathathu, singena enkathini entsha yokuphila: ukubuyekezwa kwamanani kuyaqala, ukuqaphela iminyaka yobudala yangempela. Abanye abantu banomuzwa wokuthi baye baphila okungalungile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Imicabango enjalo ijwayelekile futhi ayisona isizathu sokuphelelwa ithemba.
Ithiyori yemijikelezo yeminyaka eyisikhombisa
Ekhulwini elidlule, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zenza ucwaningo, zahlaziya izinkinga zezizukulwane, ziqhathanisa nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu abaneminyaka efanayo. Umphumela waba umbono wemijikelezo yeminyaka eyisikhombisa.
Phakathi nokuphila kwethu, ngamunye wethu udlula emijikelezweni eminingi enjalo: kusukela ekuzalweni kuya eminyakeni engu-7, kusukela ku-7 kuya ku-14, kusukela ku-14 kuya ku-21, njalonjalo. Umuntu ubheka emuva eminyakeni edlule futhi ayihlolisise. Umjikelezo wokuqala owazi kakhulu - kusuka eminyakeni engama-21 kuye kwengama-28 - ugeleza ngokushelela kokulandelayo - ukusuka eminyakeni engama-28 kuye kwengama-35.
Ngalezi zikhathi, umuntu usevele enombono womndeni wama-XNUMX kanye nesifiso sokuwakha, isifiso sokuzibona kulo mkhakha futhi aziveze njengomuntu ophumelelayo.
Ugxilile emphakathini, wamukela uhlaka lwawo futhi uhlanganyela izinkolelo ezishoyo.
Uma imijikelezo ihamba kahle, inkinga izodlula futhi umuntu akanalutho akhathazeke ngalo. Kodwa uma kubuhlungu, ukungeneliseki ngokwakho, indawo ezungezile nokuphila ngokuvamile kuyakhula. Ungashintsha umbono wakho ngomhlaba. Futhi isikhathi esiphakathi kwemijikelezo emibili yokuqaphela siyithuba elihle lalokhu.
Indlela yokusinda kule nkinga?
Yiqiniso, ungakwazi ukulwela ukuphelela, kodwa ngokuvamile kuyakhohlisa futhi akucacile. Kungcono ukuphendukela kuwe, imizwa yakho futhi uzibuze imibuzo ezingeni elithi "iba, yenza futhi ube":
Iyini imigomo yami ekuphileni?
Ngifunani ngempela?
Ngifuna ukuba ubani onyakeni? Futhi eminyakeni engu-10?
Ngifuna ukuba kuphi?
Uma umuntu engakwazi ukuphendula le mibuzo, khona-ke kunesidingo sokuzazi futhi azamukele, aphendukele ezifisweni zakhe futhi asuke ezinkolelweni zabanye abantu. Ukuzivocavoca okukhethekile kuzosiza kulokhu.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba
Ngena endaweni enethezekile futhi uzame ukuphumula. Kufanele uphendule imibuzo elandelayo ngokubhala:
Ukholelwani manje?
Yini abazali bakho nabanye abantu ababalulekile kusukela ebuntwaneni bakho ababekholelwa kuyo?
Ingabe ikhona imizamo oyenzile yokuguqula impilo yakho?
Ingabe unomuzwa wokuthi ngokwesimiso kungenzeka ukufeza izifiso zakho lapho usumdala?
Kukufanele kangakanani lokho okufunayo?
Lapho uphendula, lalela umzimba wakho - kuyinkomba eyinhloko: uma umgomo noma isifiso singajwayelekile kuwe, umzimba uzokhipha ama-clamps futhi uzizwe ungakhululekile.
Result
Ngemva kokuphothula umsebenzi, uzothola isethi yezinkolelo ozizuze kubathandekayo bakho, futhi uzokwazi ukuzihlukanisa nezakho. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, thola ukulinganiselwa kwangaphakathi ekuphileni kwakho.
Udinga ukusebenzisana nabo futhi ubeke izimo zengqondo ezinhle esikhundleni sazo: “Ngingakwenza. Into esemqoka ukuthi ungangabazi futhi uhambe ngendlela enikeziwe. Ngizokwenzani ngempela kusasa? Futhi ngesonto?
Yenza uhlelo ephepheni futhi ulilandele. Maka isenzo ngasinye esiqediwe ngokuhlanganisa ngokugqamile. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uye phambili. Inkhulumomphendvulwano eyimfihlo no-«I» yakho izokuvumela ukuthi uhambe ohambweni lwangaphakathi lwezifiso ezijulile. Kwabanye, lokhu kusha futhi akujwayelekile, kuyilapho abanye besaba ukuvuma izifiso zabo zangempela. Kodwa kuyasebenza.
Wonke umuntu angathola izici ezintsha kuye ngezimo zengqondo zangaphakathi, ukuhlaziya izifiso kanye nokuhlukaniswa kwazo zibe ezabo nabanye. Bese kuba nokuqonda ukuthi wonke umuntu udala eyakhe impilo.