“Ushintsho umthetho wempilo. Futhi labo ababheka okwedlule kuphela noma okwamanje kuphela ngokuqinisekile bayolikhumbula ikusasa.” John Kennedy Okuwukuphela okungaguquki ezimpilweni zethu wushintsho. Ngeke sikwazi ukuzigwema, futhi lapho simelana nakakhulu noshintsho, ukuphila kwethu kuba nzima nakakhulu. Sizungezwe uguquko futhi yilokhu okunomthelela omkhulu ezimpilweni zethu. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, sibhekana nezinguquko zokuphila ezisibekela inselele futhi zisiphoqelele ukuba sicabangele kabusha izinto ezithile. Ushintsho lungangena ezimpilweni zethu ngezindlela eziningi: ngenxa yenhlekelele, umphumela wokukhetha, noma nje ngenhlanhla. Kunoma ikuphi, sibhekene nesidingo sokukhetha ukuthi siyalwamukela yini ushintsho ekuphileni kwethu noma cha. Ngakho-ke, izinguquko ezimbalwa ezinconyelwe impilo engcono: Zama ukuthola ukuthi yini ebalulekile kuwena empilweni nokuthi kungani. Yini ofisa ukuyizuza? Uphupha ngani? Yini ekujabulisayo? Inhloso yempilo izokunikeza isiqondiso sokuthi ufuna ukuphila kanjani impilo yakho. Njengezingane, sasiphupha ngaso sonke isikhathi. Sikwazile ukuphupha nokubona ngeso lengqondo lokho esizokhula sibe yikho. Sasikholelwa ukuthi konke kungenzeka. Nokho, lapho sesikhulile, ikhono lokuphupha lalahleka noma laba buthaka kakhulu. Ibhodi lephupho liyindlela enhle yokukhumbula (ukudala) amaphupho akho futhi ukholelwe ekugcwalisekeni kwawo futhi. Ukubona amaphupho abhaliwe nsuku zonke, sibamba iqhaza ekufinyeleleni leyo migqa yempilo lapho (amaphupho) egcwaliseka khona. Yiqiniso, ngesikhathi esifanayo ukwenza imizamo ephathekayo. Ukuzisola kukubuyisela emuva. Ukuzisola kumayelana nesikhathi esedlule, futhi ngokumosha isikhathi ucabanga okwedlule, uphuthelwa imanje nekusasa. Okwenzekile noma okwenziwe akukwazi ukushintshwa. Ngakho-ke dedela! Okuwukuphela kwento okumele ugxile kuyo wukukhetha kwamanje nekusasa. Kukhona indlela esiza ukuzikhulula ekuzisoleni. Vuthela amabhaluni. Ebhaluni ngalinye, bhala lokho ofuna ukukuyeka/ukuxolela/ukukhohlwa. Ukubuka ibhaluni lindiza esibhakabhakeni, ngokwengqondo ithi goodbye ekubhaleni ukuzisola unomphela. Indlela elula kodwa esebenzayo esebenzayo. Imayelana nokuphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka. Esinye salezo zibonelo ukukhuluma obala. Yenza uhlu lwezinto ofuna ukuzifunda ezingakubekela inselele futhi zikusize ukhule. Ungayeki ukwenza izinto ezinzima kuwe, ngoba lapho udlula ukwesaba nokungazethembi kwakho, ukhula kakhulu.
2022-11-11