Ubufakazi: "Ngangikuzonda ukukhulelwa"

“Umqondo wokwabelana ngomzimba wami nomunye uyangikhathaza. »: UPascale, oneminyaka engama-36, umama kaRafaël (izinyanga ezingama-21) no-Emily (izinyanga eziyi-6)

“Abangane bami babekwesaba ukubeletha kanye nokudumala. Mina, lokho akuzange kungikhathaze nakancane! Kwaphela izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ngilindele ukuzalwa. Shesha, yeka ingane! Nginomuzwa wokuthi nginobugovu kakhulu ngokusho lokho, kodwa angizange ngisithande lesi simo “sokuhlalisana”. Ukwabelana ngomzimba wakho nomuntu sonke lesi sikhathi kuyaxaka, akunjalo? Kufanele ngizimele kakhulu. Nokho, ngangifuna ngempela ukuba umama (ngaphezu kwalokho, kwakudingeka silinde iminyaka emine ukuze sibe noRafaël), kodwa singakhulelwa. Akuzange kungenze ngiphuphe. Lapho ngizwa umnyakazo wengane, kwakungewona umlingo, umuzwa kunalokho wangicasula.

Ngakusola lokho 
bekungeke kungijabulise

Ngisho nanamuhla, uma ngibona umama ozoba ngunina, angingeni ebumnandini ngokuthi “wow, lokho kukwenza ufune!” Mode, noma ngimjabulele. Kimina, ukuzijabulisa kuphelela lapho, nginezingane ezimbili ezinhle, ngenze umsebenzi… Ngisho nangaphambi kokuba ngikhulelwe, ngangisola ukuthi ngangingeke ngikuthande. Isisu esikhulu esikuvimbela ukuthi uphathe ukuthenga kwakho uwedwa. Yiba nesicanucanu. Ukuhlungu obusemhlane. Ukukhathala. Ukuqunjelwa. Usisi wami ungugandaganda. Usekela bonke ubuhlungu obungokomzimba. Futhi uyakuthanda ukukhulelwa! Mina cha, ukuphazamiseka okuncane kuyangiphazamisa, kumosha ubumnandi bami. Ukucasuka okuncane kuyathatha. Ngizizwa ngincipha. Mina ngokungangabazeki imvelo encane! Kukhona futhi esimweni sokukhulelwa umqondo wokuthi angisenawo ukuzimela ngokuphelele, angisekho phezulu kwamakhono ami, futhi lokho kuyangicasula! Zombili lezi zikhathi kwadingeka ngehlise ijubane emsebenzini. KuRafaël, ngalala embhedeni ngokushesha (nezinyanga ezinhlanu). Mina, ojwayele ukuthanda ukulawula impilo yami yobungcweti kanye nohlelo lwami ... Udokotela owayengilandela ngokwakhe wasikisela ukuthi ngingowesifazane “ngokuphuthuma”.

Usongo lokusebenzela ngaphambi kwesikhathi aluzange lusize ...

Side cuddling, Nil kanye nami, kwakudingeka siyeke yonke into efile ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kokuqala, ngoba kwakukhona usongo lokubeletha ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Akusizanga ukungijabulisa. Ngabeletha ngaphambi kwesikhathi (ezinyangeni eziyisikhombisa) ngenxa yokutheleleka ngomgudu womchamo. Endodakazini yami u-Emily, kwakungesona isikhathi sobukhazikhazi. UNil wayesaba ukwenza okubi, noma ngabe yayingekho ingozi. Noma kunjalo… Okuwukuphela kwento engangiyithanda ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe kwakuwukuhlolwa ukuthi ngikhulelwe yini, ama-ultrasound kanye namabele ami anomusa… Kodwa ngalahlekelwa yikho konke nangaphezulu! Kodwa lokho kuyimpilo kunjalo, ngizokuqeda ...

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“Ngifikelwe umuzwa wecala ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe. »: UMaylis, oneminyaka engama-37, umama kaPriscille (iminyaka engu-13), uCharlotte (iminyaka engu-11), uCapucine (iminyaka eyi-8) noSixtine (iminyaka engu-6)

“Ngicabanga ukuthi imizwa yami engemihle ixhumene kakhulu nokumenyezelwa kokukhulelwa kwami ​​kokuqala. Komdala, ukusabela kwabazali bami kwangiphazamisa kakhulu. Ngangipakishe amagabha okudla kwezingane ukuze ngibanikeze isimanga esihle. White, ngokuvula amaphakheji! Bebengazilindele nhlobo lezi zindaba. Ngangineminyaka engu-23 futhi abafowethu (siyizingane ezinhlanu) basebancane. Abazali bami babengakakulungeli ukuba ugogo noma umkhulu.

Ngokushesha basikisela ukuthi mina no-Olivier sasingakwazi ukuthatha ingane. Sasiqala impilo yobungcweti, kuyiqiniso, kodwa kakade sase siqasha indawo yokuhlala, sasishadile futhi siqinisekile futhi siqinisekile ngokufuna ukuqala umndeni! Ngamafuphi, sasizimisele kakhulu. Naphezu kwakho konke, ukusabela kwabo kwangithinta ngokujulile: Ngagcina umbono wokuthi ngangingakwazi ukuba umama.


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Lapho kuzalwa ingane yethu yesine, ngaya komunye owangisiza ukuba ngibone ngokucacile futhi ngikhululeke ekubeni nomuzwa wecala ngezikhathi ezimbalwa. Bekufanele ngabe ngisheshe ngahamba ngoba ngadonsa kanzima ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe kane! Ngokwesibonelo, ngazitshela ukuthi “uma i-PMI idlula, bayothola ukuthi indlu ayihlanzekile ngokwanele!” Emehlweni abanye, ngangizizwa “njengomama wendodakazi”, umuntu ongenandaba nongazi lutho. Abangane bami baqhubeka nezifundo zabo, bazungeza umhlaba wonke mina ngifake amanabukeni. Ngazizwa ngiphuma kancane. Ngaqhubeka nokusebenza kodwa ngamachashazi. Ngashintsha imisebenzi, ngasungula inkampani yami. Angikwazanga ngempela ukuzihlukanisa ngokuzwana phakathi kwezingane zami nomsebenzi wami. Yayinamandla kakhulu kowokugcina owafika ngokushesha kunalokho obekulindelwe… Ukukhathala, ukuqwasha, umuzwa wecala kwanda.

Angikwazanga ukubekezelela ukubona isithombe sami emafasiteleni esitolo

Kumele kushiwo ukuthi ngangigula ngempela. Ngokukhulelwa kwami ​​kokuqala, ngikhumbula ngisho ngiphonsa ngefasitela elingemuva lemoto ngenkathi ngilele phezu kweklayenti phakathi nohambo lwebhizinisi ...

Ukukhula kwesisindo nakho kwangicindezela kakhulu. Ngakhula phakathi kuka-20 no-25 kg isikhathi ngasinye. Futhi-ke angizange ngilahlekelwe yikho konke phakathi nokuzalwa. Ngamafuphi, ngaba nezikhathi ezinzima lapho ngingakwazi ukubekezelela ukubona isithombe sami emafasiteleni ezitolo. Ngaze ngakhala ngakho. Kodwa lezi zingane, ngangizifuna. Futhi noma kubili, besingeke sizizwe siphelele. ”

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“Angikwazanga ukubekezelela ukutshelwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi yini okufanele ngiyenze! »: U-Hélène, oneminyaka engama-38, umama ka-Alix (iminyaka eyi-8) noZélie (iminyaka emi-3)

“Angizange ngikhathazeke ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe kodwa abanye bakhathazekile! Okokuqala, umyeni wami u-Olivier, owayebheke konke engangikudla. Kwakufanele kulinganiswe ngokuphelele ukuze “uthuthukise okuthandwa yingane!”. Odokotela nabo abanginikeza izeluleko eziningi. Izihlobo ebezikhathazeke ngomnyakazo wami omncane “Ungadansi kakhulu!”. Nakuba la mazwi ayevela emuzweni omuhle, angenza ngibe nombono wokuthi konke kwakunqunyelwe mina ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi akukho emikhubeni yami ...

Kumele kushiwo ukuthi iqale kabi ngokuhlolwa kokukhulelwa. Ngikwenze ekuseni, ngiphushwa kancane ngu-Olivier, owathola isisu sami "sihlukile". Kwakuwusuku lwephathi yami ye-bachelorette. Kwadingeka ngitshele abangani abangamashumi amahlanu lezi zindaba ngaphambi kokuba ngiqaphele. Futhi kwadingeka nginciphise ukusetshenziswa kwami ​​kwe-champagne nama-cocktails ...
Kimina, ukukhulelwa yisikhathi esibi sokuba nengane, futhi ngokuqinisekile akusona esimnandi engasisebenzisa ngokunenzuzo. Kancane njengohambo lokuya eholidini!

Isisu esikhulu sikuvimbela ukuthi uphile ngokunethezeka. Ngashayisana nezindonga, angikwazanga ukubeka amasokisi ngedwa. Angizange ngizwe ukunyakaza kwezingane ngoba zazihlezi. Futhi ngahlupheka kakhulu emhlane wami kanye nokugcinwa kwamanzi. Ekugcineni, angikwazanga ukushayela noma ukuhamba imizuzu engaphezu kweshumi nanhlanu. Angisakhulumi ngemilenze yami, izigxobo zangempela. Futhi kwakungezona izingubo zokubeletha ezazingijabulisa ...

Akekho owadabukela ibhodlela lami...

Eqinisweni, ngangilindele ukuthi idlule, ngizama ukungashintshi kakhulu indlela yami yokuphila. Indawo yobungcweti engisebenza kuyo igcwele ubudoda. Emnyangweni wami, abesifazane bangabalwa ngeminwe yesandla esisodwa. Kwanele ukusho ukuthi akekho owanyakaziswa ithini lami noma wangibuza ukuthi ngenze kanjani ukuqokwa kwami ​​​​kokwelashwa. Okungcono kakhulu, ozakwabo benza sengathi ababoni lutho. Okubi kakhulu, nganginelungelo lokusho amazwi anjengokuthi “Yeka ukuthukuthela emhlanganweni, uzobeletha!” Okusobala ukuthi kwangicasula nakakhulu. ”…