Ezimpilweni zethu ezimatasa ezifakwa umsebenzi, umsindo nemisebenzi engapheli, ukuhlehla ngokomoya kuyamukeleka. Izikhungo eziningi ngokwengeziwe nezenkolo zinikela ngokuthatha ikhefu LANGEMPELA izinsuku ezimbalwa. Kuhlanganisani ukuhlehla ngokomoya? Ukuzilungiselela kanjani? Ziyini izinzuzo zayo? Izimpendulo no-Elisabeth Nadler, ilungu lomphakathi waseFoyer de Charité de Tressaint, eliseBrittany.

Ukuhoxa ngokomoya ukuzivumela ikhefu lezinsuku ezimbalwa kude nakho konke okwenza ukuphila kwethu kwansuku zonke. “Kuhlanganisa ukuthatha ikhefu lokuzola, isikhathi sokuba uwedwa, ukuze uxhumane nesimo sakho esingokomoya esivame ukunganakwa”, kuchaza u-Elisabeth Nadler. Ngokuqondile, kumayelana nokuchitha izinsuku ezimbalwa endaweni enhle nephumuzayo ukuzitholela futhi wehlise ijubane elijwayelekile. Elinye lamaphuzu abalulekile okuhoxa ngokomoya ukuthula. Abahlehlayo, njengoba bebizwa kanjalo, bayamenywa ukuba bazozibonela ngangokunokwenzeka, lokhu kuphumula kuthule cwaka. “Sinikeza ababukeli bethu ukuthula ngangokunokwenzeka, ngisho nangesikhathi sokudla lapho kuzwakala umculo opholile. Ukuthula kukuvumela ukuthi ulalele wena kodwa ulalele nabanye. Ngokuphambene nalokho ongase ukucabange, ungakwazi ukujwayelana nabanye ngaphandle kokukhulumisana. Ukubukeka nokushukuma komzimba kwanele ”. Ngaphakathi kwe-Foyer de Charité de Tressaint, izikhathi zomkhuleko nezimfundiso zenkolo nazo zinikezwa abahoxile izikhathi eziningana ngosuku. Aziyona impoqo kodwa ziyingxenye yohambo oluya kumuntu wangaphakathi, kusho iFoyer, eyamukela amaKatolika kanye nabangewona amaKhatholika. “Izindawo zethu zokuphumula ezingokomoya ngokusobala zivulekele wonke umuntu. Samukela abantu abayithanda kakhulu inkolo, abantu abasanda kubuyela enkolweni, kodwa nalabo abacabanga ngenkolo noma abamane bazinike isikhathi sokuphumula ”, kucacisa u-Elisabeth Nadler. Ukuhlehla ngokomoya kusho futhi ukusebenzisa lesi sikhathi sokuphumula ukuze uphumule futhi ushaje amabhethri akho endaweni enkulu yemvelo evumela ukuphumula noma ukuzivocavoca umzimba kulabo abafisa kanjalo. 

Ekuqaleni, ukuhlehla ngokomoya kwaba nokuxhumana okuqinile nenkolo. Izinkolo zamaKhatholika nezamaBuddha zincoma ukuthi wonke umuntu azijwayeze ngokomoya. KumaKhatholika, izohlangana noNkulunkulu futhi iqonde kangcono izisekelo zokholo lobuKristu. Ezindaweni zokuphumula ezingokomoya zamaBuddha, abahlehlayo bayamenywa ukuba bathole imfundiso kaBuddha ngokwenza ukuzindla. Ngakho-ke, izindawo eziningi zokuhlehla ezingokomoya ezikhona namuhla zibanjelwa ezindaweni zenkolo (izikhungo zosizo, ama-abbey, izindlu zezindela zamaBuddha) futhi zihlelwa amakholwa. Kodwa ungakwazi futhi ukuhlehla ngokomoya endaweni engeyona eyenkolo. Amahhotela ayimfihlo, amadolobhana asemaphandleni noma ama-hermitages anikezela ngezindawo zokuphumula ezingokomoya. Benza ukuzindla, i-yoga kanye nezinye izivivinyo ezingokomoya. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zezenkolo noma cha, zonke lezi zikhungo zinento eyodwa ezifana ngayo: zitholakala ezindaweni zemvelo ezinhle kakhulu nezizolile, azinaso sonke isiphithiphithi sangaphandle esigeza ngazo unyaka wonke. Imvelo idlala indima enkulu ekubalekeleni ngokomoya. 

Awekho amalungiselelo athile okuhlela ngaphambi kokuya eholidini elingokomoya. Kalula nje, abahlehlayo bayamenywa ukuthi bangasebenzisi omakhalekhukhwini babo, ithebhulethi noma ikhompuyutha kulezi zinsuku ezimbalwa zekhefu futhi bahloniphe ukuthula ngangokunokwenzeka. “Ukufuna ukuhlehla ngokomoya kuwukufuna ngempela ukusika, ukomela ikhefu. Futhi kuwukuzibekela inselele, ukulungela ukwenza umsebenzi ongabonakala unzima kwabaningi: ukuzenza utholakalele ukwamukela futhi ungabi nalutho olwenza ngokuphelele. Kepha wonke umuntu uyakwazi lokho, kuyisinqumo somuntu siqu ”. 

Isinqumo sokuhlehla ngokomoya asikaze sibe khona ngengozi. Kuyisidingo esivame ukuvela ezikhathini ezibalulekile zokuphila: ukukhathala okungazelelwe kochwepheshe noma ngokomzwelo, ukuhlukana, ukushonelwa, ukugula, umshado, njll. “Asizile ukuzothola izisombululo ezinkingeni zabo kodwa sizobasiza babhekane nazo ngokusemandleni ngokubavumela ukuthi banqamule ukuxhumana ukuze bazindle futhi bazinakekele”. Ukuhlehla okungokomoya kukuvumela ukuthi uxhumane kabusha nawe, uzilalele futhi ubeke izinto eziningi ngombono. Ubufakazi babantu abake baphila ngokukhululeka ngokomoya eFoyer de Charité eTressaint bayakuqinisekisa lokhu.

Ku-Emmanuel, 38, ukuhlehla ngokomoya kwafika ngesikhathi empilweni yakhe lapho ayephila khona njengomuntu oqeqeshiwe “Ukwehluleka okuphelele” futhi kwaba ku “Ukuvukela okunodlame” ngokumelene noyise emhlukumeza ebuntwaneni bakhe: “Ngakwazi ukungena ohlelweni lokubuyisana nami kanye nalabo abangiphatha kabi, ikakhulukazi ubaba engikwazile ukuvuselela ubudlelwano naye. Kusukela lapho, bengilokhu nginokuthula okukhulu nenjabulo. Ngizalwe kabusha empilweni entsha ”. 

Ku-Anne-Caroline, 51, ukuhlehla ngokomoya kwahlangabezana nesidingo "Ukuthatha ikhefu futhi ubone izinto ngenye indlela". Ngemva kokuthatha umhlalaphansi, lo mama wezingane ezine wazizwa “Kuzole ngokwedlulele futhi kume ngokujulile” futhi uvume angikaze ngizizwe kanjalo “Ukuphumula kwangaphakathi”.