Kungabonakala sengathi uma singazilalela thina, silandelele eyethu imizwa nemizwelo, lokhu kusisiza ukuthi siziqonde kangcono thina kanye nabanye. Noma kunjalo, lezi zimfanelo ezinhle nazo zinecala elibi, lapho, ngenxa yokugxila ngokweqile emhlabeni wethu wangaphakathi, sibanjwe ukukhathazeka futhi sihlala silindele okubi kakhulu. Ungafika kanjani ekulinganiseni?
Abaningi bethu baphila ngaphandle kokuzizwela thina nezifiso zethu. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuqala ebuntwaneni, lapho sizama ukungacasuli abazali bethu futhi sikhethe leyo misebenzi ngisho nemisebenzi yesikhathi esizayo abayibona ifanelekile.
Lokhu kulungele ngokwengxenye - siyazikhulula esibophezelweni sokwenza izinqumo. Nokho, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, nakanjani sibhekana neqiniso lokuthi asizazi thina. Asiqondi ukuthi iyiphi ifilimu esifuna ukuyibuka, ukuthi siyakuthakasela yini ukufunda le ncwadi, sizoyaphi eholidini, nokuthi siyawuthanda yini umsebenzi wethu. Futhi siphila isimo sempilo yethu njengokungeziwe, cishe ngaphandle kokuzwa imizwa.
USvetlana uyakhumbula: “Isikhathi eside ngiphila sengathi ngiyaphupha. — Ngaya emsebenzini, okwangidina, futhi ngezimpelasonto ngangibukela futhi ngifunda yonke into etholakala kuyi-Internet. Ngangivame ukuhlushwa yikhanda elibuhlungu, okungekho noyedwa kodokotela owayekwazi ukuchaza, futhi ngangingaqondi ukuthi ngangifunani ngempela. Umama wathi nginomsebenzi ozinzile futhi kufanele ngibambelele kule ndawo.
Konke kwashintsha ngokuzumayo lapho, ngikanye nomngane wami, ngiya ku-yoga futhi ngaqala umkhuba wokuzindla. Lokhu kwaphazamisa ukugijima kwami ngokungacabangi emibuthanweni futhi kwangifaka ekugcineni eqinisweni lempilo yami yangaphakathi. Ngaqala ukulalela izimpawu zomzimba wami, futhi lokhu kancane kancane kwangisiza ukuba ngiyiqonde kangcono imizwa yami. Ikhanda elibuhlungu ladlula, ngashiya emsebenzini, ngaya eNdiya izinyanga eziyisithupha, futhi lapho ngibuya, ngase ngikwazi kahle engangifuna ukukwenza.
"Kulokhu, ukuzicabangela okwasiza intombazane ukuba ilulame ngomqondo obanzi wegama elithi: ukuthola indlela yakhe futhi isuse i-migraines, nayo engazange ivele ngengozi," kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMarina Myaus. - Isimo sokuhlukaniswa ne "I" yomuntu asibonakali: ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umzimba wethu uqala ukusazisa ukuthi impilo yomzimba isho, okokuqala, inhlalakahle engokomzwelo.
Ukucindezelwa kwemizwa yethu kuphenduka izifo eziningi ze-psychosomatic lapho siqala ukugula, kuyilapho kungekho zilonda zemvelo ezitholakalayo. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuhlaziya izinqubo zakho zangaphakathi: izifiso, izisusa, isisusa. Nokho, kubalulekile ukwazi indlela ebuyayo.”
Ukugxila ngokweqile kuwena kunikeza imizwa ehlanekezelwe futhi kugxile eqinisweni elingamanga
Imizamo yokuzilalela ngezinye izikhathi ithatha isimo sokuthatheka, iqale ukugqoka umlingiswa ophoqelekile. U-Carl Gustav Jung naye wayehlukile, owafunda imfundiso ye-ego states ngokucwilisa ohlelweni lokuzihlola - ukubheka ngokucophelela izinqubo zakhe zengqondo. Lokhu kwamenza waphathwa yizinzwa futhi kwamphoqa ukuba ayeke ukuhlola isikhashana. Ngokuvamile uthando lokuzicabangela luhlotshaniswa nokuhlaziya okungapheli kwenhlalakahle yomuntu siqu.
“Njengoba isihlobo sami esiseduze sabulawa umdlavuza webele, angikwazi ukuqeda umuzwa wokuthi kukhona okungalungile ngami,” kuvuma uMarina. — Ngiwutadisha ngokucophelela umzimba wami, futhi njalo kubonakala sengathi ngithola amaqhuqhuva ayingozi. Okunye ukuhlola kudokotela kuthi ngiphile saka. Lokhu kuthulisa isikhashana, kodwa-ke futhi umcabango uyangihlukumeza: lesi sifo sisendaweni ethile eduze.
"Lesi yisibonelo sakudala lapho isimo sokuzicabangela siyeka ukukhiqiza futhi siqala ukulimaza," kusho uMarina Myaus. “Ukugxila kakhulu kuwena kunikeza imizwa ehlanekezelwe futhi kukucwilise eqinisweni elingamanga.”
“Ngesikhathi ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa ekhaya kutholakala ukuthi nginalo, ngajabula kakhulu. Kimi, iphunga nokunambitha kwashintsha ngokushesha, kwakubonakala sengathi umzimba ngokwawo uyashintsha, "kukhumbula u-Yana. — Nokho, ukuhlola kukadokotela kwabonisa ukuthi ngangingakhulelwe. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi, yonke imizwa etholwe ngokuzumayo yanyamalala.
Ngokuvumela ngisho nokuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo, nokho sizifaka engozini yokuhlanekezela isithombe sangempela sezimpilo zethu. Ungaphuma kanjani esimweni sokuzicabangela isikhathi eside? Zama ukuzivocavoca lapho uqala ukuzincoma ngokukwazi ukubheka ujulile ku-Self yakho, ngoba leli yikhono elibalulekile okungafanele lilahleke. Ufundile ukuzizwa nokuziqonda wena - futhi lokhu kuyinzuzo yakho enkulu. Kodwa-ke, manje kubalulekile ukufunda indlela "yokuvela" kulesi simo. Ukuze wenze lokhu, zama ukususa intshisekelo yakho kokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphakathi uye emhlabeni wangaphandle.
"Vumela ukugxilwa kokunaka kudonswe kukho konke okukuzungezile okwamanje," kusikisela uchwepheshe. — Uma uhlezi etafuleni futhi uphuza itiye, gxila ekunambithekeni kwesiphuzo, ukunethezeka kokuma kwakho, iphunga, imisindo nemibala ekuzungezile. Ungaziqophela yona noma uyichaze ngokugcina idayari ekhethekile yalokhu. Kancane kancane uzoqala ukuzwa ukuthi nguwe olawula ukuthi ukwazi kwakho kungaphakathi noma ngaphandle. Zombili lezi zimo zibalulekile ekulinganiseni kwethu ngokomzwelo nasenhlalakahleni yethu.”