Ngendlela, ngokwezibalo, izinga lokufa kwezinsana nomama kuleli lincane kakhulu!
Kuyahlaba umxhwele, akunjalo? Ake sibheke ukukhulelwa kwamaDashi ngokuningiliziwe.
Owesifazane ufunda ngesikhundla sakhe esihle futhi .... Cha, akagijimeli amabombo esibhedlela njengoba kuyisiko lethu. Ekupheleni kwe-trimester yokuqala (amasonto angu-12), uya kumbelethisi, ozomqondisa (uma ngingasho kanjalo kulesi simo).
Futhi ngemva kokudlula ukuhlolwa okudingekayo (igazi le-HIV, ugcunsula, i-hepatitis kanye noshukela) kanye ne-ultrasound, uzonquma ukuthi umama okhulelwe udinga udokotela noma cha. Inketho yesibili ivame kakhulu, ngoba, futhi, ukukhulelwa e-Holland akufani nokugula.
Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izinketho "lapho futhi kanjani ukubeletha" owesifazane anakho? Kunezinhlanu zazo:
- ekhaya nombelethisi ozimele (owesifazane uyazikhethela);
- ehhotela lababelethisayo elinombelethisi ozimele, naye ozikhethele yena, noma ohlinzekwa yisikhungo sokubelethisa,
- esikhungweni sokubeletha esinethezeke kakhulu, indawo ecishe ibe sekhaya kanye nombelethisi ozimele,
- isibhedlela esinombelethisi ozimele,
- esibhedlela esinodokotela kanye nombelethisi wasesibhedlela (isimo esibucayi, esivame ukusetshenziswa ekukhulelweni kanzima).
Lokhu noma lokho kukhetha kuncike kuphi? Ngokuqondile kusukela esigabeni sobungozi lapho owesifazane engowakho. Ngendlela, yonke incwadi kazwelonke inikezelwe ezigabeni zobungozi. Mhlawumbe, usuvele uhlushwa umbuzo: Kungani kuhluke kithi? Kungani ukuzalwa ekhaya kuphephile kwabanye futhi kuyingozi kwabanye? Enye i-physiology noma yini?. Impendulo ilula: isimo sengqondo esihlukile, izinga elihlukile lenkonzo, ukuthuthukiswa okuhlukile kwezwe lonke.
Ucabangani, ingabe i-ambulensi isemsebenzini ngaphansi kwamafasitela owesifazane obelethayo? Vele akunjalo! Kodwa e-Holland kunomthetho ocacile futhi, okubalulekile, ohlale usetshenziswa: uma ngesizathu esithile umbelethisi obelethisayo ebiza i-ambulensi, kufanele afike kungakapheli imizuzu eyi-15. Yebo, noma kuphi ezweni. Bonke ababelethisi baqeqeshwe kakhulu futhi banezinga elihloniphekile lemfundo, ngakho bangakwazi ukubala ukuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi imizuzu engu-20 ngaphambili.
“Mhlawumbe abesifazane abakhetha ukubeletha ekhaya abahlakaniphe ngokwanele noma abazithathi ngokungathí sina kakhulu,” ungase ucabange. Kodwa nalapha impendulo ithi negative. Kuneqiniso elilodwa elithakazelisayo eliqinisekiswa ucwaningo: ukuzalwa ekhaya kukhethwa abesifazane abanezinga eliphakeme lemfundo kanye ne-IQ.
Ngokucophelela, kancane kancane, umkhuba wokuzalwa ekhaya ungena ekwazini kwethu. Bavame ukukhuluma ngakho, babhale ngakho, futhi othile azizame ngokwakhe. Lezi yizindaba ezinhle, ngoba ngokuqinisekile kunezinzuzo eziningi zalolu hlobo lokubeletha: indawo ethokomele, ekhanyayo engahlangene nezindonga ezimpunga zamawodi esibhedlela, ithuba eliyigugu lokuzwakala nokukhetha indawo ekhululekile kakhulu yokubeletha, ehambisana nenqubo njengengxenye yabahlengikazi abangekho isixuku, udokotela, udokotela wokubelethisa, futhi kukhona umbelethisi okhethiwe, njll. Uhlu luyaqhubeka.
Kodwa iseluleko esiyinhloko siwukuthi: zilalele, uzizwe, funda ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo esibaluleke kangaka ekuphileni. Khumbula ukuthi lapha awunasibopho sakho kuphela.