Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ukuphishekela imizwelo ecacile ngokuvamile kuphenduka umuzwa wobuze. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - yini okufanele uyenze ngakho?
- Siphuthelwa imizwa eyakhayo! ingane ehlakaniphile eneminyaka engu-XNUMX ubudala yangitshela, icabanga ukuthi kungani kunezinhlobo eziningi kangaka zokuphazamiseka kwemizwa namuhla.
- Futhi yini okufanele uyenze?
— Sidinga imizwa eyakhayo eyengeziwe! kwavela impendulo enengqondo.
Abaningi bayazama ukuqaphela lo mbono, kodwa ngesizathu esithile bayehluleka ukujabula kakhudlwana. Ukuhlinzwa kwesikhashana kuthathelwa indawo ukwehla. Nokuzizwa ungelutho.
Kuyinto evamile kwabaningi: ukungabi nalutho okungaphakathi kuyabambeka, isibonelo, ngemva kwephathi enomsindo lapho bekujabulisa khona, kodwa lapho nje amazwi ethule, kuzwakala njengokulangazelela emphefumulweni ... Ukudlala imidlalo yekhompiyutha isikhathi eside. isikhathi, uthola injabulo enkulu, kodwa lapho uphuma emhlabeni virtual, kusukela injabulo akukho trace - ukukhathala kuphela.
Isiphi iseluleko esisizwayo lapho sizama ukuzalisa imizwelo eyakhayo? Hlangana nabangane, yenza umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa, hamba, ngena kwezemidlalo, phumela ngaphandle kwemvelo… Kodwa ngokuvamile lezi zindlela ezibonakala zaziwa azikhuthazi. Kungani?
Ukuzama ukugcwalisa imizwa kusho ukukhanyisa izibani eziningi ngangokunokwenzeka esikhundleni sokubona lokho ezikukhombayo.
Iphutha liwukuthi imizwa iyodwa ayikwazi ukusigcwalisa. Imizwa iwuhlobo lwamasignali, amalambu okukhanya kudeshibhodi. Ukuzama ukugcwalisa imizwa kusho ukukhanyisa amalambu amaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, esikhundleni sokuhamba uyobheka - abonisani?
Sivame ukudida izimo ezimbili ezihluke kakhulu: injabulo nokwaneliseka. Ukusutha (ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo) kuhlotshaniswa nokwaneliseka. Futhi ubumnandi bunikeza ukunambitheka kwempilo, kepha akusuthi ...
Ukwaneliseka kufika lapho ngiqaphela ukuthi yini ebalulekile nebalulekile kimi. Ukuhamba kungaba yinto enhle kakhulu lapho ngiqaphela iphupho lami, futhi ngingenzi ngomgomo othi “asiye endaweni ethile, ngikhathele isimiso”. Ukuhlangana nabangane kuyangigcwalisa lapho ngifuna ukubona laba bantu, hhayi nje "ukuzijabulisa." Kumuntu othanda ukulima izitshalo, usuku e-dacha luyinto eyanelisayo, kodwa kumuntu oqhutshwa lapho ngamandla, ukulangazelela nokudabuka.
Imizwa inika amandla, kodwa la mandla angasaphazwa, noma angaqondiswa kulokho okungisuthisayo. Ngakho esikhundleni sokubuza, “Ngingayitholaphi imizwelo eyakhayo,” kungcono ukubuza, “Yini engigcwalisayo?” Yini eyigugu kimi, yiziphi izenzo ezizonginika umuzwa wokuthi ukuphila kwami kuhamba ngendlela engiyifunayo, hhayi ukugijima (noma ukuhudula) ngendlela engaqondakali.
Injabulo ayinakuba umgomo wokuphilaUViktor Frankl uthe. Injabulo iwumkhiqizo wokubona izimiso zethu (noma umuzwa wokudlulela ekuzifezeni). Futhi imizwelo eyakhayo ke i-cherry ekhekheni. Kodwa hhayi ikhekhe ngokwalo.