Okuqukethwe
Ingabe uwumfanekiso wokwethembeka futhi awukaze uvumele ukuziphatha okungaqondakali, futhi umlingani wakho uyaqhubeka nokuba nomona ngazo zonke izinsika? Cishe ufuna ukukulungisa. Kodwa ingabe kuyafaneleka? Ake sikuthole.
Ake siqale ngombuzo: uyini umhawu we-pathological futhi kungani uvela?
Lokhu, njengoba usuqonde kakade, ngeke kube ngomhawu ofanelekayo, lapho udlala ngothando ngobulili obuhlukile phambi komlingani wakho, kodwa mayelana nalawo macala lapho kungekho sizathu sokukhathazeka.
Kunezizathu eziningana zokuthi kungani kungavela umhawu obhubhisayo.
1. Ukuzizwa ungafaneleki
Umuntu ohlangabezana nesikhwele se-pathological uvame ukuhlala nomuzwa wokuthi akalungile ngokwanele, ukuthi akakufanelekele ukuthandwa. Lesi simo sengqondo ngakuye sikhula, njengomthetho, ebuntwaneni.
Lapho ingane iqala ukuzwa lo muzwa yilapho iqala ukuncintisana ngothando lukanina. Angakwazi ukuncintisana noyise, nabafowabo nodadewabo, ngisho nabangane bakamama.
Umcabango othi “Ungcono kunami. Umama umthanda ukwedlula mina. angisadingeki” kuletha okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu ngokwedlulele, ikakhulukazi kwengqondo yengane, futhi kungakhula kube ukwesaba ukwaliwa. Lapho esekhulile, ebudlelwaneni nabanye abantu, owesilisa noma owesifazane onjalo uzosiphinda lesi simo. Noma yimuphi omunye umuntu angaba usongo olungase lube “kuthando lwakhe oluphelele” nomlingani wakhe.
2. Umhawu njengendlela yokugcina ukusondelana
Futhi lokhu akukhona ukusondelana ngokomzimba, kodwa mayelana nokusondelana ngokomoya. Ekusondelaneni kweqiniso, siba sengozini. Wonke amaphuzu ethu abuthakathaka ayambulwa, futhi lowo oseduze kakhulu nathi angasilimaza kakhulu.
Uma umuntu enengqondo ethi "Ungethembe muntu", uzozivikela ngokulawula umlingani wakhe. Singasho ukuthi umona kuleli cala uba yindlela yokuzivikela.
3. Umona njengendlela yokugwema ukusondelana
Lapha isizathu esifanayo - sengozini. Kuphela ngenxa yokuhlukumezeka kokwenqatshwa. Kulesi simo, ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa kunamandla kangangokuthi umona uzoba yithuluzi lokuwugwema.
Umona wenza kube nokwenzeka ukubona umlingani wakho njengomuntu ongaphelele, ngakho-ke uyingozi. Lokhu-ke kuyisizathu esihle kakhulu sokuhlukana. Imibono iphila ekuqulekeni komuntu onjalo: “Ngincamela ukukushiya kunokuba ungishiye”, “Awuyena umuntu engingamethemba.”
Kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi kunoma yikuphi, umhawu womlingani wakho uncike kakhulu kuwe. Zonke izizathu ezingenhla ziyimiphumela yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kwasebuntwaneni, okusekelwe ebuhlotsheni bakhe nabazali bakhe.
Uma ukuqonda lokhu, khona-ke isifiso sokufakazela ubuqotho nokuzinikela kwakho sizoba sincane kakhulu. Uzoqonda ukuthi umlingani wakho kuphela ongashintsha okwenzekayo. Ukuze enze lokhu, uzodinga ukuqaphela izinkinga zakhe futhi aphendukele kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Ekhuluma ngomhawu we-pathological, kubalulekile ukuqaphela izinga lale pathology. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, ingakhuluma ngokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Lokhu kufaka phakathi i-neurosis, i-personal pathology, i-schizophrenia, utshwala noma okunye ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa. Imiphumela yalokhu okweqisayo, ngeshwa, kuvame ukuba yizihloko zemilando yobugebengu. Kulokhu, udokotela wengqondo kuphela ongasiza umuntu.