Okuqukethwe
Abanye abantu abadala bazibheka ngokuthi "ama-crybabies", "osisi" kanye "nabancane". Abanye banesithakazelo: siyini isizathu sezinyembezi ezinobudlova, ukwesaba okungazelelwe nokunye ukusabela okunamandla? Lezi zingane zihluke kanjani kontanga yazo? Ungabasiza kanjani? Sibuze le mibuzo ku-psychophysiologist.
Ingane ngayinye iyazwela ekushukunyisweni kwangaphandle: ukushintsha ukunambitheka, izinga lokushisa, umsindo kanye namazinga okukhanya, ukushintsha isimo sengqondo somuntu omdala. Kodwa kukhona labo abanokusabela okunamandla kakhulu kusukela kumbeleko. "Khumbula iqhawekazi lenganekwane ka-Andersen ethi The Princess and the Pea," isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Vyacheslav Lebedev unikeza isibonelo. “Izingane ezinjalo azikwazi ukubekezelela ukukhanya okukhanyayo nemisindo ekhahlameza, zikhononda ngobuhlungu obusuka nje, zicasulwa ama-mittens namatshana emasokisi.” Babonakala futhi ngamahloni, ukwesaba, ukucasuka.
Uma ukusabela kwengane kuzwakala kakhulu kunezomfowabo / udadewabo noma ezinye izingane, kulula ukungazilinganisi kuye, kudinga ukunakwa okukhethekile. “Ingane enohlobo oluqinile lwesimiso sezinzwa ngeke iphatheke kabi lapho izwa amazwi ahlabayo ebhekiselwa kuye,” kuchaza isazi sezinzwa. “Futhi kumnikazi wababuthaka, ukubukeka okungenabungane kwanele.” Ingabe uyibonile indodana noma indodakazi yakho? Bese ugcina ukuzola nokubekezela.
Amaprosesa asekelwe
Ungayijezisi ingane
Isibonelo, ngokukhala noma ukuthukuthela. "Akaziphathi ngale ndlela ukuze adonse ukunaka noma azuze okuthile, umane akakwazi ukubhekana nokusabela kwakhe," kuchaza uVyacheslav Lebedev. Zimisele ukumlalela futhi usize ukubheka isimo ngakolunye uhlangothi: «Othile wenza okubi, kodwa akulona iphutha lakho. Lokhu kuzomvumela ukuthi asinde ecaleni ngaphandle kokuthatha isikhundla somuntu ohlukunyeziwe. Kusukela ekuzalweni, udinga ukuhlanganyela okwengeziwe kunabanye. Uhlupheka kakhulu kunabanye lapho abasondelene naye bebukela phansi okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe (“Kungani ucasulwe izinto ezincane!”).
Gwema ukuhlekwa usulu
Izingane ezizwelayo zisengozini yokungavunyelwa abantu abadala, ithoni yazo ejabulisayo noma ecasukile. Bacasulwa kakhulu ukugconwa - ekhaya, enkulisa noma esikoleni. Xwayisa uthisha ngalokhu: izingane ezisengozini zinamahloni ngokusabela kwazo. Banomuzwa wokuthi abafani nabo bonke abantu, futhi bazithukuthelele ngokwabo ngalokhu. UVyacheslav Lebedev uyagcizelela: “Uma besetshenziswa njengezisulu zezinkulumo ezicasulayo, khona-ke ukuzethemba kwabo kuyehla,” kugcizelela uVyacheslav Lebedev, “ebusheni, bangase bahlangabezane nezinkinga ezinkulu futhi bazihlukanise nabo.”
Ungajahi
"Uhambo oluya enkulisa, uthisha omusha noma izivakashi ezingajwayelekile - noma yiziphi izinguquko ekuphileni okuvamile kubangela ukucindezeleka ezinganeni ezithinteka kalula," kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. - Ngalesi sikhathi, baba nemizwa eseduze nobuhlungu, futhi basebenzise amandla amaningi ukuze bazivumelanise nezimo. Ngakho-ke, ingane ihlale iqaphile.” Mnikeze isikhathi sokuzivumelanisa nesimo esisha.
Qaphela
Ngomthwalo
"Izingane ezizwelayo zikhathala ngokushesha, ngakho-ke hlala ubheka isimiso sengane yakho sansuku zonke, ukulala, ukudla okunempilo nokusebenza komzimba." Qinisekisa ukuthi unesikhathi sokuphumula ngokuthula, ungamvumeli ahlale phambi kwezikrini zefoni. Ungayivumeli indodana noma indodakazi yakho ihlale kuze kube phakathi kwamabili yenza umsebenzi wesikole (njengomthetho, ayiwuvumeli umcabango wokuya esikoleni ingasiqedanga isabelo). Beka imikhawulo yesikhathi eqinile yokufunda. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi uzimisele ngezinye izikhathi ukudela amamaki amahle noma uhlobo oluthile lombuthano ukuze ingane ibe nesikhathi sokululama.
Neqembu
“Uma ingane ikhululekile ukuxoxa nontanga oyedwa kuphela futhi ijwayele ukukhulumela phezulu nomsebenzi wayo, ungabizi abanye abangane abayishumi,” kukhumbuza uVyacheslav Lebedev. “Izingane ezinesimiso sezinzwa esibuthakathaka ngokuvamile ziba namahloni, zilulama ngokuzivalela ngaphandle. Umsebenzi wabo wengqondo uqondiswe ngaphakathi. Ngakho akufanele ngokushesha uthumele indodana yakho (indodakazi) ekamu amasonto amabili. Uma ingane ibona ukunaka kwabazali futhi izizwa iphephile, khona-ke izokhula kancane kancane.
Ngezemidlalo
Ukuqina kuyaqeqeshwa, kodwa hhayi ngezinyathelo eziqinile. Ngokuthumela indodana yakhe “usisi” esigabeni sombhoxo noma sesibhakela, ubaba angase ayinikeze ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo. Khetha umdlalo othambile (ukuqwala izintaba, ukugibela ibhayisekili, ukushushuluza, ukuvivinya umzimba). Inketho enhle ukubhukuda: ihlanganisa ukuphumula, injabulo kanye nethuba lokuthola ukulawula umzimba wakho. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ingane yakho ayiyithandi ezemidlalo, funa ozongena esikhundleni sayo noma uhambe kakhudlwana.
Khuthaza
Indalo
Nakuba ingane yakho ingenawo umkhawulo owanele wamandla nokukhuthazela, inezinzuzo zayo siqu, iyacabangela, ikwazi ukubona ngobuqili ubuhle futhi ihlukanise izinhlobonhlobo eziningi zokuhlangenwe nakho. “Lezi zingane zikhangwa yinoma yiluphi uhlobo lokusungula: umculo, ukudweba, ukudansa, ukuthunga, ukulingisa nokusebenza kwengqondo, phakathi kwezinye izinto,” kuphawula uVyacheslav Lebedev. "Yonke le misebenzi ikuvumela ukuthi uguqule ukuzwela kwengane ukuze kuzuze futhi uqondise imizwelo yakhe ngendlela efanele - ukuveza ukudabuka, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, injabulo, futhi ungayigcini kuye."
Ukungeniswa
Hlaziya nengane imizwa nemizwelo yayo. Mcele ukuthi abhale phansi ebhukwini lezimo lapho ephelelwa amandla. Bonisa izivivinyo ezisiza ukulawula imizwa futhi nizenze ndawonye. Ukukhula, indodakazi noma indodana ngeke ibe nokuzwela kancane: isimo sengqondo sizohlala sinjalo, kodwa umlingiswa uzothukuthela. Bazivumelanisa nokungajwayelekile kwabo futhi bathole indlela engcono kakhulu yokuyiphatha.