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Ubuhlakani bengane bukhula kanjani?
Izindaba ezinhle, labo abathi ubuhlakani bakhiwa kunoma isiphi iminyaka, hhayi nje 0 kuya ku-6 ubudala, baqinisile. ! Ukuthuthukiswa kobuhlakani kunqunywa kokubili ngofuzo et ngolwazi olunikezwa imvelo. Zonke izivivinyo ezenziwa iminyaka engamashumi amabili ezinganeni ziyakuqinisekisa lokhu. : izingane zizalwa zihlome ngolwazi futhi babe nazo zonke izindlela zokufunda okudingekayo ukuthuthukisa ubuchopho babo. Inqobo nje uma sibanika ithuba.
Intelligence akuyona nje IQ
Ubuhlakani abukona konke mayelana ne-Intelligence Quotient, noma i-IQ. Kunobuhlakani obuthile obubaluleke ngendlela efanayo empumelelweni empilweni. ! Kuhle kakhulu ukukhuthaza ukuphaphama kwengqondo, kodwa ingane kufanele futhi ifunde ukuthuthukisa ingqondo ukuze iqonde futhi ibhekane nezimo ezihlukahlukene zokuphila kwansuku zonke.
Kumele futhi athuthukise eyakhe ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo (QE) ukufunda ukuveza, ukuhumusha nokuphatha imizwa yabo, yabo ubuhlakani bezenhlalo (QS) ukufunda ukuzwelana, umuzwa wokuxhumana nokuba nobudlelwane. Ngaphandle kokukhohlwa eyakhe amakhono ngokomzimba !
Kafushane : ukuba nengqondo futhi uphile kahle emzimbeni wakhe, ukwazi ukuthi umuntu uzizwa kanjani futhi aphumelele ekwakheni ubuhlobo obuhle nabanye, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umuntu ogcwalisekile ukuze akhanye ngolwazi lwakhe nokucabanga kwakhe okufanelekile.
Ukuze uthuthukise ukuhlakanipha kwengane yakho ngokomzwelo
Msize abhekane nemizwa yakhe. Uma ethukuthele noma ekhala, ungazami ukumthulisa, mvumele aveze imizwa yakhe engathandeki, ngisho noma kunzima ukuyibekezelela. Ungavumeli ukudabuka, ukwesaba noma intukuthelo yakhe ikuthelele, yiba nozwelo, umbambe, umbambe ngesandla, umgone futhi ukhulume naye ngamazwi othando, aqinisekisayo kuze kube yilapho isimo siphela.
Beka imizwa yakhe ngamazwi. Ibanga lemizwa yengane yakho libanzi : intukuthelo, ukudabuka, ukwesaba, injabulo, ububele, ukumangala, ukunengeka… kodwa unenkinga yokukukhomba ngokucacile. Yisho imizwa yakhe, umbonise ukuthi uyayicabangela imizwa yakhe. Mbuze : “Wawuthukuthele ngempela (noma ujabule noma udabukile noma wethukile) ngaphambili, ngani? Mbuze ukuthi ubengenzani noma athini ukuze lokhu kungenzeki futhi.
Mfundise indlela yokwenza abangane. Ukwenza abangane, ukubambisana, ukwenqaba ngaphandle kokuba nolaka, ungafunda. Lapho exabana nomunye, mcele aveze umbono wakhe futhi azibeke ezicathulweni zomunye ukuze aqonde owakhe. Ungamenzi avume uma engazizwa kahle. Uma esefuna ukudlala nezingane angazazi, mchazele ukuthi kumele aqale azibheke, bese eqhamuka namasu amasha okudlala.
Mfundise ukuziphatha okuhle. Ukuze siphile ngokuzwana emphakathini, kunemithetho eyisisekelo okufanele wonke umuntu ayilandele, kuhlanganise nabancane. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuhlonipha abanye, ukuthi njalo “ngiyabonga”, “sawubona”, “ngiyacela”, “siyaxolisa”. Mfundise ukulinda isikhathi sakhe, hhayi ukusunduza, ukucela kunokudwengula izandla, ukulalela ngaphandle kokuphazamisa, ukusiza abancane. Ungamvumeli ukuthi aziphathe njengenkosi yengane ekhaya, ngoba uhlangothi lwakhe olunamandla ngeke lumenze abe nozwela kwabanye, kunalokho. !
Akazenzele ezakhe izivivinyo
Ilukuluku lakhe, isifiso sakhe sokuthola umhlaba azineliseki. Mnikeze amathuba okulinga ngokumphelezela isinyathelo ngesinyathelo futhi umenze acabange ngezingozi ezingaba khona. Akaphazamise, agade, ahlole indlu ... lapho ukhona Yebo, ukumnika amandla futhi uvimbele ukuthi angawuthinti ngemuva kwakho. Mfundise amakhono ansuku zonke, okokuqala ngosizo lwakho, bese eyedwa : yidla, ngena endlini yangasese, ugeze, ubeke amathoyizi akho ...
Ukuze uthuthukise ubuhlakani obunengqondo / bolimi bengane yakho
Yondla ilukuluku lakhe lobuhlakani. Nikeza ingane yakho indawo ecebile nejabulisayo. Menze afune ukufunda ngezincwadi zezithombe, izincwadi ezikhuluma ngezigigaba zamaqhawe awathandayo. Akukaze kube kusesekuseni kakhulu ukuthi uyinambithe : amakhonsathi, imibukiso yopopayi noma yaseshashalazini, umbukiso wemidwebo, izithombe eziqoshiwe. Bheja emidlalweni yebhodi elula : Imindeni engu-7, iMemori, i-Uno, njll. Futhi kamuva, eyinkimbinkimbi, njenge-chess. Ungamgqugquzeli ngokweqile ngemidlalo “yezemfundo” kanye nenqwaba yezifundo ezincane, wazi nokuthi ungamyeka adlale yedwa futhi ucabange ngezwe elimzungezile.
Vusa ulimi lwakhe. Mcwilise khona manjalo “ebhavini lolimi”. Thuthukisa isilulumagama sakhe ngokusebenzisa amagama anembayo (hhayi imigilingwane, amawijethi noma ulimi “lwengane”…). Gcina imisho ibe mifushane futhi icacile, ivumelane nezinga lenkulumo nokuqonda. Uma kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, uzoyeka, uma uthanda, uzomnikeza ukunambitheka kwamagama. Uma efuna amazwi akhe, mboleke awakho : "Yilokho obufuna ukukusho?" “. Phendula imibuzo yakhe ngokunembayo - ngisho nokudida kakhulu !
Menze ahlanganyele empilweni yomndeni
Kusukela ngonyaka nesigamu, menze abambe iqhaza empilweni yomphakathi. Angasiza ekulungiseni itafula, abeke amathoyizi, asize ekwenzeni izingadi nasekulungiseleleni ukudla ... Yisho zonke izenzo ozenzayo, igama lezithako, inombolo yazo, isikhathi sokupheka ukuze azi ukuthi ukudla kuzolunga nini, menze phunga ukudla kubila noma ukosiwa. Lapho uthola abangani nomndeni, mvumele akunakekele. Mfundise injabulo yokwenza izinto ukuze ajabulele wonke umuntu.
Thuthukisa ubuhlakani bengane yakho
Khulisa umsebenzi wabo womzimba. Mnikeze ithuba lokunyakaza kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Dlala naye ibhola, ibhola, ikati negundane, fihla futhi ufune, umjaho. Dlala izicathulo zeqhwa, ikhayithi, i-bowling. Yonke le midlalo ithuthukisa nobuhlakani bakhe! Ukuze wenze i-gymnastics futhi umfundise izingxenye ezihlukene zomzimba, dlala “uJacques a dit ! ”. Ngamaholide, thatha uhambo, khawula amaphilisi, amakhompyutha nomakhalekhukhwini ngangokunokwenzeka. Khetha imisebenzi yokuzilibazisa esebenzayo, njengokwakha ikhabethe, ukwenza ingadi, ukucofa, ukudoba ...
Thuthukisa amakhono amahle emoto. Ukuze wenze kahle ukuthinta kwakhe, mnikeze imidlalo yokushumeka, imidlalo yokwakha, izindida, ipulasitiki. Mcele ukuthi adwebe, afake umbala nopende. Ungakwazi ukupenda ngebhulashi, kodwa futhi ngezandla zakho, izinyawo, izipontshi, isifutho kanye nezinye izesekeli eziningi. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ukuthi bafunde ukubhala.
Izindlela ezi-7 zokuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bengane yami
>> Culani ndawonye. Kuthuthukisa ukufunda kwakhe lapho efunda ulimi.
>> Funda. Akuphumuli nje kuphela, kodwa kuyabasiza ukuthi babone amagama.
>> Dlala umacashelana. Umntwana uphinde afunde ukuthi izinto zinganyamalala futhi ziphinde zivele.
>>> Imidlalo yokwakha. Kumsiza ukuthi aqonde umqondo “wembangela nomphumela” kanye nokuthi “uma… bese”.
>> Imidlalo yezandla. Amakati amancane amathathu… izingane zisabela kahle emilolozelweni enesigqi nenengqondo.
>> Yisho izinto. Etafuleni, uma umphakela, yisho ukudla ukuze anothise ulwazimagama lwakhe.
>> Thinta impahla. Amanzi, udaka, isihlabathi, umququ … Ufunda ukubona indlela okwenziwa ngayo.