Umuntu one-narcissistic personality disorder ufana kakhulu nomuntu ozethembayo nje. Nokho, kukhona futhi umehluko oyisisekelo. Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi bayini.
Ngomqondo othile, wonke umuntu unezici ze-narcissistic. Izinkinga ziphakama lapho zithatha indawo yokuqala kunezinye izimfanelo nezici zomlingiswa.
Ukuzethemba nokuzihlonipha kusiza ukubhekana nobunzima futhi ungalahlekelwa ukuba khona kwengqondo. Uma sinabo, sihlola amakhono ethu ngokujulile, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo siyakholelwa kwabanye futhi sibafisela inhlanhla. Futhi ukuzethemba kwethu akuhlushwa yilokhu. Kodwa singasho yini ukuthi abantu abane-narcissistic personality disorder banokuzethemba okukhulu? Futhi yini umehluko phakathi kwe-narcissism kanye nokuzethemba okunempilo?
Nawa amapharamitha amathathu abalulekile okufanele uwafunde ukuze uqonde umehluko.
1. Isimo sengqondo ngawe
I-Narcissism iqala ebuntwaneni, lapho ingane ingatholi uthando olungenamibandela nokwamukelwa kubantu abadala, noma iba «isithixo» emndenini wayo. Ukukhula, kuzo zombili izimo udinga "ukondla": uhlala ezama ukulungisa ukuntuleka kothando nokudumisa, akazizwa enelisekile ngaphandle "kokushaywa" kwabanye. Uzibheka njengomuntu ophansi, uhlushwa ukukhathazeka nokufutheka. Ama-Narcisists athambekele ekucindezelekeni futhi azizwe esengozini.
Futhi kumuntu omane azethemba kuye, ukuzethemba akusekelwe ekudunyisweni kwabanye abantu, kodwa kumbono ongokoqobo wolwazi namakhono akhe. Ukholelwa ukuthi uma ezama, uzozuza konke. Uchaza ukwehluleka ngokuntula isipiliyoni, uzama ukuqonda imbangela yephutha futhi ayiqede, ngaphandle kokuwa kusukela ekuqondisweni okuncane.
2. Ubudlelwano nabanye
I-narcissist cishe ihlale isebudlelwaneni obuyimfihlo. Ngokuvamile usebenzisa ubuthakathaka babanye ukuze abanqobe futhi abaphoqelele ukuba badlale ngemithetho yakhe. Isibonelo nje, umholi onokuphazamiseka kobuntu bazodinga abangaphansi kwakhe ukuthi balandele imithetho ayiqambile, nayo ahlala eyishintsha.
Azibonge afune ukuthi nabanye bacule izindumiso zakhe. Akaqageleki, akunakwenzeka ukuqonda ukuthi yini ngempela engamthulisa, ukuthi yini angathanda. Emshadweni, i-narcissist ihlale iphula izivumelwano, isibonelo, ingakwazi ukukopela, isola umlingani wakhe ngenxa yezenzo zakhe ezimbi.
Umuntu onokuzethemba okukhulu uvame ukubhekisela kubantu abasesikhundleni: «Ngimuhle, ulungile» kunokuthi “Ngimuhle, umubi.” Ukholelwa ukuthi uma ephumelela, umuntu ngamunye angathatha indawo yakhe ngaphansi kwelanga, uma ezama kanzima. Abantu abanjalo benza abaholi abahle kakhulu abathuthukisa abangaphansi kwabo, futhi bangabacindezeli noma babasabise. Empilweni yomndeni, abantu abazethembayo abadingi ukuvuma izono njalo kanye nama-roller coasters, uthando lwabo lukhululekile futhi lufudumele, bahlala begcina izwi labo.
3.Izici ze-career
Kokubili i-narcissist nomuntu onokuzethemba okuphezulu angafinyelela impumelelo kulo msebenzi. Yiqiniso, izindlela zokukhuphuka izitebhisi zomsebenzi zizohluka.
Uma owokuqala "amandla futhi ejezisa", khona-ke owesibili uyakhuthaza, uphefumule futhi unikeze impendulo eyanele. Abangaphansi kwabo abakhululekile ngomholi we-narcissistic, futhi i-narcissist ngokwayo ayikhululekile ebudlelwaneni naye. Kuhle uma ekuqonda lokhu bese ecela usizo. Kodwa lokhu akuvamile ukwenzeka. I-Narcissistic personality disorder inzima ukunxephezela.
Umsebenzi onokuzethemba okwanele, ngokungafani ne-narcissist, angakha ubudlelwano obunempilo nabanye, kulula futhi kulula ukusebenza naye. Akazigodli ngokucindezela abasanda kufika futhi akabaxabanisi abadala. Uyakwazi ukubaluleka kwakhe, kodwa akalulazi impumelelo yabanye.
* I-Dark Triad yobuntu: I-Narcissism, Machiavellianism, kanye ne-psychopathy