Okuqukethwe
Ngaphakathi kwabaningi bethu, le misho ngezinye izikhathi izwakala: “Kungani abanye benento engingenayo?”, “Yini eyenza ngibe mubi kakhulu?”, “Yebo, akukho okukhethekile ngabo!”. Siyathukuthela, kodwa asivamile ukucabanga ngencazelo engokwengqondo yomona. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezenhlalakahle u-Alexander Shakhov uyaqiniseka ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuqeda lo muzwa, kodwa kungaba usizo kithi.
Uma sisesha i-inthanethi ngencazelo yomona, sizothola ngokushesha izingcaphuno ezivela kubacabangi abakhulu. Lokhu futhi «ukucasulwa kokuhle noma okuhle komunye umuntu,” ngokusho kukaVladimir Dahl, umbhali wesichazamazwi esidume kakhulu solimi lwesiRashiya. Lokhu «ukucasuka lapho ebona injabulo yomunye umuntu kanye nenjabulo ngeshwa lakhe siqu,» ngamazwi esazi sefilosofi uSpinoza. Yilokhu futhi “okubeka isiqalo sokungezwani phakathi kwabantu,” ngokukaDemocritus, isazi sefilosofi sasendulo nakakhulu.
Izindlela ezimbili zokuphumelela komunye umuntu
Wonke umuntu unesifiso esingokwemvelo sokuziqhathanisa nabanye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sitshelwa kangakanani ukuthi kubi, akusebenzi kahle, nokunye, akunakwenzeka ukuqeda lesi sifiso. Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu lapha ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nomphumela wokuqhathanisa okunjalo.
Isibonelo, othile uphumelele kakhulu kunawe emsebenzini, esikoleni, empilweni yomuntu siqu, noma ukudala isibalo esihle, futhi ungamncoma. Cabanga: “Kuhle lokhu! Uma lo muntu ekwenzile, nami ngingazuza okufanayo.” Futhi uthole inkokhiso enamandla yokugqugquzela endleleni eya kulokho okufunayo.
Umona ubangela umuzwa wokungabi nakuzisiza futhi uhambisana nenkimbinkimbi yokuhlangenwe nakho okunombala ongemuhle.
Enye inketho iwukuba ungene kwalasha womona, ungene kuwo ujule futhi ujule kuze kube yilapho uqala ukucekela phansi i-psyche nokuphila kwakho.
Noma ubani oziqhathanisa nabanye uhlale ebuza lo mbuzo: “Kungani benayo futhi mina ngingenayo?” Futhi, endabeni yomona, uzinika impendulo: "Ngoba ngibi kakhulu." Futhi uma umuntu ekholelwa ukuthi mubi kakhulu, uqala ukukholelwa ukuthi akasoze afinyelela lokho akufunayo. Ngakho-ke, isiqubulo esiyinhloko somona sithi: “Abanye banawo, kodwa mina ngeke ngibe nawo. Ngifisa sengathi nabo abazange babe nayo!»
Izwa umehluko ngesibonelo sangaphambili sokuqhathanisa okuhle, isiqubulo saso sithi: "Abanye banakho, futhi ngizoba nakho."
Inzondo nokuzibhubhisa
Umona ubangela umuzwa wokungabi nakuzisiza futhi uhambisana nenkimbinkimbi yokuhlangenwe nakho okunombala omubi onamandla. Umuntu uhlupheka ngenxa yokuthi abanye banokuthile akudingayo, kodwa akutholakali kuye (njengoba yena ecabanga).
La mandla angokomzwelo adinga ukukhishelwa ngaphandle ngandlela thize, aqondiswe kokuthile. Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile umuntu onomona uqala ukuzonda umona wakhe esikhundleni sokuthatha isinyathelo sokushintsha ukuphila kwakhe.
Nokho, inzondo evezwa obala ingenza kube sobala ukuthi umuntu unomona. Abaseduze kwakhe babembona njengomuntu omncane, engazithembi, baqonde ukuthi unesimilo esibi, babemhleka. Ngakho-ke, abantu abaningi abanomona bazama ukufihla, ukufihla imizwa yabo yangempela.
Iyini uhlelo olujwayelekile lomthelela womona kungqondo yethu?
- Ivusa ukuthuthukiswa kwemicabango ecindezelayo.
- Imicabango ephazamisayo idala imizwa engemihle.
- Umuntu onomona, ohlukaniswe imicabango ecindezelayo nemizwelo engemihle, uba nesifo sohudo (kukhona ngisho nenkulumo phakathi kwabantu ethi “waba luhlaza ngomona”). Uphikisana nabanye, uhlala yedwa futhi ehlukanisiwe emphakathini.
- Ukuhlala isikhathi eside kulesi simo kuholela ezifweni ze-neuroses ne-psychosomatic, ezivame ukuhlotshaniswa ne-gallbladder, isibindi, amathumbu, nama-pancreas.
Kumayelana nokuzethemba
Okubaluleke kakhulu lapha yimbangela yomona. Kusuka ekungazethembini. Umuntu onomona akenzi lutho ukuze azuze okufanayo nento yomona wakhe: uyesaba ukwenza. Usaba ukuthi ngeke aphumelele, abanye bazokubona lokhu futhi baqale ukumphatha kabi.
Lena indlela eyinhloko yokunqoba umona. Kudingekile ukulwa hhayi ngakho njengoba enjalo - kuyoba ngempumelelo kakhulu ukwandisa ukuzethemba. Futhi-ke umona uzoncipha futhi ube mancane amathuba okukuvakashela.
Ungababaza abanye ngokweqiniso kuphela ngokuqaphela ukubaluleka kwakho, ukuhluka kanye nokwangempela kwakho.
Phela, uma ukholelwa kuwe, ngokubaluleka kwakho, ngakho-ke, ubheka impumelelo yabanye abantu, ungabona amathuba okukhula kwakho. Futhi ikhambi elingcono kakhulu lemiphumela enobuthi yomona ukwazisa abanye abantu ngobuqotho.
Kodwa-ke, nalapha umbuzo uncike ekuzethembeni kwakho: ungancoma abanye ngokweqiniso kuphela ngokubona ukubaluleka kwakho, ukuhluka nokuhluka kwakho.
Ngakho-ke, umona ungabonakala njengenkomba ecacile yokuthi udinga ukusebenzela ukuzethemba kwakho. Bese kuthi labo “Ngiyakufuna, kodwa ngeke ngikuthole nakanjani” okubangele ukuthi uhlupheke kuzophenduka “Ngiyafuna futhi ngizokufeza nakanjani.”