Yini esiza umuntu ukuba asinde ngisho nasekamu lokuhlushwa? Yini ekunika amandla okuqhubeka naphezu kwezimo? Nakuba kuzwakala kuyindida, into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni akukhona ukuphishekela injabulo, kodwa injongo nokusebenzela abanye. Lesi sitatimende sakha isisekelo sezimfundiso zesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sase-Austrian kanye nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uViktor Frankl.
“Injabulo ingase ingabi yilokho ebesikucabanga. Mayelana nezinga lempilo lilonke, amandla omqondo kanye nezinga lokwaneliseka komuntu siqu, kunokuthile okubaluleke kakhulu kunenjabulo,” uLinda noCharlie Bloom, odokotela bezifo zengqondo kanye nochwepheshe bobudlelwano abenze izingqungquthela eziningi ngesihloko senjabulo.
Ngonyaka wakhe wokuqala ekolishi, uCharlie wafunda incwadi akholelwa ukuthi yashintsha impilo yakhe. “Ngaleso sikhathi, kwakuyincwadi ebaluleke kakhulu kwengake ngayifunda, futhi isalokhu kunjalo nanamuhla. Ibizwa ngokuthi Ukufuna Kwesintu Incazelo futhi yabhalwa ngo-1946 ngudokotela wengqondo waseViennese kanye nodokotela wezengqondo. UVictor Frankl".
UFrank usanda kukhululwa ekamu lokuhlushwa lapho ayeboshwe khona iminyaka eminingana. Wabe esethola izindaba zokuthi amaNazi ayebulele wonke umkhaya wakhe, kuhlanganise nomkakhe, umfowabo, bobabili abazali nezihlobo eziningi. Lokho uFrankl okwadingeka akubone futhi abhekane nakho phakathi nokuhlala kwakhe ekamu lokuhlushwa kwamholela esiphethweni esisesinye sezitatimende ezimfushane nezijulile ngokuphila kuze kube namuhla.
"Yonke into ingasuswa kumuntu, ngaphandle kwento eyodwa: inkululeko yokugcina yomuntu - inkululeko yokuzikhethela kunoma yiziphi izimo indlela yokuphatha ngayo, ukukhetha indlela yakho," esho. Lomcabango kanye nayo yonke imisebenzi eyalandela ka-Frankl kwakungeyona nje ukucabanga okusezingqondweni - kwakusekelwe ekubukeni kwakhe kwansuku zonke ezinye iziboshwa ezingenakubalwa, ekucabangeni kwangaphakathi kanye nolwazi lwakhe lokusinda ezimeni ezinonya.
Ngaphandle kwenjongo nenjongo, umoya wethu obalulekile uba buthaka futhi siba sengozini enkulu yokucindezeleka ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Ngokubona kukaFrankl, amathuba okuthi iziboshwa zasekamu zisinde ayencike ngokuqondile ekutheni zineNjongo yini. Umgomo onenjongo nakakhulu kunabo, owabasiza ukuba babe nengxenye ekuthuthukiseni izinga lokuphila labanye. Uveze ukuthi iziboshwa ezihlukumezeka ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo emakamu kodwa zakwazi ukuphila zazivame ukufuna nokuthola amathuba okuhlanganyela okuthile nabanye. Kungaba izwi eliduduzayo, ucezu lwesinkwa, noma isenzo esilula somusa nozwela.
Yebo, lokhu kwakungesona isiqinisekiso sokusinda, kodwa kwakuyindlela yabo yokugcina umqondo wenjongo kanye nencazelo ezimweni zokuphila ezinonya ngokwedlulele. “Ngaphandle kwenjongo nencazelo, amandla ethu aba buthaka futhi siba sengozini enkulu yokucindezeleka ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo,” kunezela uCharlie Bloom.
Nakuba kungokwemvelo ngomuntu ukukhetha injabulo kunokuhlupheka, uFrankl uphawula ukuthi umuzwa wenjongo nenjongo ngokuvamile uzalwa ngenxa yobunzima nobuhlungu. Yena, ngokungafani nabanye abantu, wayeqonda ukubaluleka okungahlengwa kokuhlupheka. Waqaphela ukuthi okuthile okuhle kungakhula kuphume ekuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kakhulu, kuguqule ukuhlupheka kube ukuphila okukhanyiswe yiNhloso.
Becaphuna incwadi kuyi-Atlantic Monthly, uLinda noCharlie Bloom bayabhala: “Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukuba nenjongo nenjongo ekuphileni kwandisa inhlalakahle nokwaneliseka kukonke, kuthuthukisa ukusebenza kwengqondo nempilo engokomzimba, kukhulisa ukuqina nokuzethemba, futhi kunciphisa ukucindezeleka. amathuba okuba nokucindezeleka. “.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuphishekela injabulo ngokuphikelelayo kwenza abantu bangajabuli kangako. “Injabulo,” bayasikhumbuza, “ngokuvamile ihlotshaniswa nenjabulo yokuzwa imizwelo emnandi nemizwelo. Sizizwa sijabule lapho isidingo noma isifiso saneliswa futhi sithola esikufunayo.”
Umcwaningi uKathleen Vohs ugomela ngokuthi “abantu abajabulayo nje bathola injabulo enkulu ngokuzitholela izinzuzo, kuyilapho abantu abaphila ukuphila okunenjongo bethola injabulo enkulu ngokupha abanye okuthile.” Ucwaningo olwenziwa ngo-2011 lwaphetha ngokuthi abantu abaphila ukuphila okunenjongo futhi abanenjongo echazwe kahle balinganisela ukwaneliseka kwabo kunabantu abangenanjongo, ngisho nangezikhathi lapho bephatheke kabi khona.
Eminyakeni embalwa ngaphambi kokubhala incwadi yakhe, uViktor Frankl wayesevele ephila nenjongo ejulile, ngezinye izikhathi eyayidinga ukuba alahle izifiso zakhe ngenxa yezinkolelo nezibopho. Ngo-1941, i-Austria yayisivele iphethwe amaJalimane iminyaka emithathu. UFrank wayazi ukuthi kwakuyindaba yesikhathi ngaphambi kokuba abazali bakhe bathathwe. Ngaleso sikhathi wayesevele enedumela eliphezulu lochwepheshe futhi waqashelwa emhlabeni wonke ngamagalelo akhe emkhakheni wezengqondo. Wafaka isicelo futhi wathola i-visa yase-US lapho yena nomkakhe babezophepha khona, kude namaNazi.
Kodwa, njengoba kwaba sobala ukuthi abazali bakhe bazothunyelwa nakanjani ekamu lokuhlushwa, wabhekana nokukhetha okubi kakhulu - ukuya eMelika, ukubaleka futhi enze umsebenzi, noma ukuhlala, ebeka ukuphila kwakhe engozini kanye nempilo yomkakhe, kodwa asize. abazali bakhe esimweni esinzima. Ngemva kokucabangisisa, uFrank waqaphela ukuthi injongo yakhe ejulile kwakuwukuba nomthwalo wemfanelo kubazali bakhe asebekhulile. Wanquma ukubeka eceleni izithakazelo zakhe siqu, ukuhlala eVienna futhi anikele ukuphila kwakhe ekukhonzeni abazali bakhe, bese kuba ezinye iziboshwa emakamu.
Sonke sinekhono lokwenza izinqumo futhi senze ngokuvumelana nazo.
“Okuhlangenwe nakho kukaFrankl phakathi nalesi sikhathi kuye kwanikeza isisekelo somsebenzi wakhe wethiyori nokwelapha, osekunethonya elikhulu kusukela ngaleso sikhathi ezingeni lempilo lezigidi zabantu emhlabeni wonke,” kunezela uLinda noCharlie Bloom. UViktor Frankl washona ngo-1997 eneminyaka engu-92 ubudala. Izinkolelo zakhe zazigxile ekufundiseni nasezincwadini zesayensi.
Impilo yakhe yonke isebenze njengesibonelo esimangalisayo sekhono elimangalisayo lomuntu oyedwa lokuthola nokudala injongo ekuphileni okugcwele ukuhlupheka okumangalisayo ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ngezinye izikhathi. Yena ngokwakhe wayewubufakazi obungokoqobo bokuthi sonke sinelungelo lokukhetha isimo sethu sengqondo sokuba ngokoqobo kunoma yiziphi izimo. Futhi nokuthi ukukhetha esikwenzayo kuba yisici esinqumayo eqophelweni lempilo yethu.
Kunezimo lapho singakwazi ukukhetha izinketho ezijabulisayo zokuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi, kodwa azikho izimo ezinjalo lapho singenakho ikhono lokukhetha isimo sethu sengqondo ngabo. “Impilo kaFrankl, ngaphezu kwamazwi awabhala, iqinisekisa ukuthi sonke sinekhono lokukhetha nokwenza ngokuvumelana nakho. Ngokungangabazeki, kwakuyimpilo eyayiphilwa kahle,” kubhala uLinda noCharlie Bloom.
Mayelana nababhali: ULinda noCharlie Bloom bangama-psychotherapist kanye nabelaphi bemibhangqwana.