Okuqukethwe
Indlela yokunqoba i-taboo futhi siqonde lokho esikuthandayo ebuhlotsheni obuseduze? Indlela yokuxhumana nozakwethu ngalokhu? Okokuqala, zitshele (futhi mhlawumbe nabanye) ukuthi akukho lutho olungokwemvelo ngaphezu kokunaka umzimba, kuhlanganise nokuvusa inkanuko.
Ekuthinteni
Ukuthakasela ngomzimba, okokuqala ngokwethu futhi kamuva komunye umuntu, kuvela kithi kudala ngaphambi kokuba sazi ukuthi abafana bahluke kanjani emantombazaneni. Ngokuthinta isikhumba sakhe nokufunda isimo somzimba, ingane yakha isithombe sayo - ithola izindawo ezibucayi kakhulu futhi ifunde ukuthi ikuphi ukuthinta okujabulisa kakhulu.
Lena inqubo engokwemvelo futhi edingekayo: "Ukuntuleka kocwaningo olunjalo kungaholela ezinkingeni ezinkulu esikhathini esizayo," kuxwayisa isazi socansi u-Elena Korzhenek. Isibonelo, uma ingane igqoke ama-diaper isikhathi eside futhi ingenalo ithuba lokujwayelana nezitho zangasese, khona-ke le ndawo ibhekwa "njengebala elimhlophe" emzimbeni - lezi zingxenye zilahlekelwa ukuzwela kwazo futhi azihambisani. esithombeni esingokwengqondo somzimba wabo.
Kodwa indaba ayilona ithemba - ngokuhamba kwesikhathi singabamba. Ngemva kokudala imephu yemizimba yethu, siqala ukuba nesithakazelo emizimbeni yabanye. Cishe eminyakeni emithathu, sithola ukuthi bonke abantu abaseduze bahlukene izigaba ezimbili: labo abakwazi ukubhala besukuma, nalabo okungabaxakile. Noma, njengoba kubizwa futhi, kwabesilisa nabesifazane.
Ukuhlola injabulo
Kamuva, njengoba siqhubeka nokwazi umzimba wethu, sithola ukuthi yiziphi izindawo ze-erogenous, futhi singavusa ukuzwela kulezo zindawo lapho bekungekho khona: amaphuzu ashukumisayo emzimbeni akhulisa ukuthambekela kwabo. Umzimba awukho ngokomzimba kuphela, kodwa futhi ukhona emcabangweni wethu: lapho singashintsha izici zayo, sibe namandla noma sithandeke kakhulu.
“Emcabangweni, sizibona sinendima efiseleka kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iqhawe elinamandla, isicishamlilo noma umhlengikazi,” kuphawula isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSvetlana Nechitailo. Ngokuvamile, lezi zindima zikude nalokho esikwenzayo empeleni: osebenza emlilweni ngeke afake isigqoko sokudlala ucansi.
“Ijazi elimhlophe linganele emsebenzini,” kuvuma umhlengikazi u-Irina oneminyaka engu-32 ubudala, “abantu abagulayo, ikakhulukazi amadoda alulama, bavame ukungidlala ngothando, kodwa lokhu kumane kuwuphawu lokuthi amandla abo abuyele kubo. Futhi emaphusheni ami avusa inkanuko, ngizibona nginguCleopatra noma uMadame de Montespan, intandokazi yenkosi yaseFrance.
Emaphusheni, sizibona njengalabo, ngokombono wethu, abaqinisekiswa ukukhangwa okuvusa inkanuko emehlweni abanye. Futhi, kunjalo, sifaka lokhu kokugcina emdlalweni. "Amaphupho, kuhlanganise nezocansi, yizithombe eziye zaba futhi zihlala ziphulukisa kithi, ezisiza ukubhekana nokulimala okunjalo njengokuntuleka kokunakwa noma ukuthintana," kugcizelela u-Elena Korzhenek. Kodwa abesifazane nabesilisa banezindlela ezihlukene zokubhekana nezimo ezivusa inkanuko.
I-Erotica Martian ne-Venusian
Ukukhiqizwa kwefilimu kucabangela umehluko wezithakazelo: abesifazane bakhangwa kakhulu ukuqomisana, ukuyenga kanye nezothando, kuyilapho amadoda evame ukweqa izingxoxo futhi agxile esenzweni ngokwaso. Ngenxa yalokhu, i-erotica yabesilisa isondelene nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi ibonisa imizimba enqunu yabalingisi, inciphisa isakhiwo sibe sincane. Futhi owesifazane, ngokuphambene nalokho, ufuna kuqala ukutshela ukuthi wonke umuntu wagcina kanjani embhedeni.
“Lapho kwenziwa imizamo yokwenza izithombe ezingcolile zobulili ezithamelini zabesifazane, kwasetshenziswa izindlela ezimbili,” kusho uSvetlana Nechitailo, “enguqulweni yokuqala, ababhali banaka ngokukhethekile isizinda nesakhiwo, kanti kwesibili bazama ukugxila kwabesifazane. injabulo, kodwa hhayi ngokuqondile, ngokuvala izitho zobulili, futhi ngokungaqondile, ngokusebenzisa amacebo, imisindo, isimo sobuso.
Umphumela awuzange ufeze okwakulindelwe: kokubili okukhethwa kukho akuzange kubangele injabulo enkulu phakathi kwezilaleli zesifazane. Umehluko embonweni we-eroticism uyabhekwa ekwelashweni kwemibhangqwana. Bobabili abalingani bayelulekwa ukuthi emaphusheni abo bafake ingxenye abavame ukuyiphuthelwa - ezothando kwabesilisa kanye nezocansi kwabesifazane.
Lokhu akuwona umsebenzi olula, ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane, ubulili babo osekungamakhulu eminyaka bungathandeki, futhi umzimba wabo kusafanele uhlale ufihliwe kwamanye amasiko. Ukwenqatshwa kwalezi zinkolelo-ze kusiza ukuqonda kangcono uzakwethu nokusungula othintana naye.
Izibuko nemikhonto
Emvelweni, indima yomkhohlisi ivame ukunikezwa owesilisa: nguye onezimpaphe ezikhanyayo, izingoma ezinomsindo zokuqomisana namagatsha esidlekeni. Owesifazane ukhetha ngokuthula okuhamba phambili kwezinketho ezihlongozwayo. Emphakathini wesintu, ngokwesiko, owesilisa naye udlala indima ebonakalayo, eyenga owesifazane futhi efakazela ubudoda bakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Kodwa lokhu akuyona ukuphela kwemodeli yobudlelwane engenzeka. Phela, thina, ngokungafani nezilwane eziningi, siya ocansini hhayi kuphela ngokuzala, kodwa futhi nje ukuzijabulisa. Futhi injabulo ayikwazi ukutholwa kuphela, kodwa futhi inikezwe. Ingabe izindima zomamukeli nomnikezeli zinqunywa ubulili bethu, noma ingabe zihlukile kwezamukelwayo?
“Ozakwethu bahlukene ngempela ngabamukeli nabaphayo, kodwa hhayi ngokwesakhiwo sezitho zangasese, kodwa ngokwesisekelo sokukhula kwabo ngokobulili. Ngokuvamile, indima inqunywa isipiliyoni sokuqala socansi, "kusho u-Elena Korzhenek. Izazi zezocansi zikholelwa ukuthi cishe akunakwenzeka ukushintsha izintandokazi zakho kule ndawo, kodwa ungakwazi ukuxoxisana futhi wenze izindima ezingavamile ngokushintshana.
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Esikhathini eside ngaphambi kokufika ocansini, silwela ukukhombisa umlingani ongase abe naye ukuthi sinesithakazelo kuye futhi sifuna ukuthuthukisa ukujwayelana nobuhlobo. Ingabe zikhona izindlela zokwazi ukuthi izeluleko zethu zifanelekile yini?
U-Elena Korzhenek uthi: “Ebudlelwaneni obuhlala isikhathi eside, sivame ukuqonda ukuthi hlobo luni lokuthintana, ubulili noma ngokomzwelo, umlingani alufunayo, lokhu kubikwa ngomzimba wakhe, ukubuka kwakhe ngothando, ukushukuma komzimba okuvusa inkanuko, ukucunula okuyengayo, noma , ngokuphambene, ukukhathala okusobala ngemva kosuku lokusebenza.”
Nokho, ezigabeni zokuqala, ukuhlazeka kungenzeka. Izinhloso ezichazwa kabi zivame ukuholela ezingxabanweni, "ngakho-ke lapha kufanele ulandele umthetho olula: uma ungabaza, buza," kusho uSvetlana Nechitailo. "Umlingani akufanele aqagele ngezifiso zakho." Ngisho noma siqinisekile ngempendulo eyakhayo, kufanelekile ukuqiniseka.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ikhono lokukhuluma ngokungagwegwesi ngezifiso zakho, kuhlanganise nezifiso zomzimba, liyoba usizo esikhathini esizayo. Ebudlelwaneni bothando nobuseduze, sivuleleke ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kubangela ukuphoxeka, ukuphoxeka nokujabula, okufana nalokho esibhekana nakho esiteji, nakuba zonke izilaleli zethu zingumlingani nje, kodwa umbono wakhe ubaluleke kakhulu.
Nokho, ukuthobeka namahloni makungasivimbeli ekuxoxeni ngezifiso zomunye nomunye. Phela, ukwenqaba ingxoxo enjalo, ukuzama ukulandela izindinganiso ezamukelwa ngokuvamile, kusho ukuzincisha injabulo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, “wonke umuntu unombono wakhe siqu wemithetho yokuziphatha okuhle, futhi ukuzama ukuthobela abantu ongabazi kuyibhizinisi elingenathemba,” kugcizelela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Umzimba ungumsizi wethu ekuzuzeni injabulo, ehlala ikhona futhi ilungele ukuxhumana nathi. Kusisiza ukuba silandele izifiso zethu futhi sifune umuntu esingafeza naye.