“Uthando Alusahlali Lapha”: Indlela Yokululama Esehlukaniso

1. Beka eceleni isikhathi sokuhlangenwe nakho

Ukuzinika isikhathi sakho kuyingxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yokujwayela ukuntanta kwamahhala. Ngisho noma unezingane, ukuzinakekela akusona isizathu sokungabi nazo izinsiza ezanele wena. “Okubonakala njengokungenzi lutho ngaphandle empeleni kuwumsebenzi obalulekile wangaphakathi wokuzelapha,” kusho uNatalya Artsybasheva, umelaphi wamaGestalt. – Akusizi ukuziphusha. Kubalulekile ukuthi uzibheke, uqaphele izidingo zakho kanye nempumelelo yakho: “O, namuhla angizange ngikhale okokuqala!” Ngakho-ke ngeke uphuthelwe isikhathi lapho izenzakalo ezidabukisayo zithathelwa indawo amandla amasha nesifiso sokuphila.

Uma uzizwa udangele njengamanje, kufanele ube nesikhathi sokwamukela nokucubungula okwenzekayo. Hamba ngezinyawo epaki, uchithe kusihlwa esihlalweni se-armchair ngenkomishi yetiye, wedwa ngemicabango yakho, bhala idayari. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungafihli, kodwa uphile izifunda zakho. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, kuyadingeka ukumaka imingcele yale nqubo: Ngizinika lesi sikhathi sokuhlangenwe nakho futhi ngibuyele ezindabeni zami ezivamile. Kodwa kusasa ngizophinde nginikeze imizwa yami isikhathi esifanele nokunaka kwayo.”

2. Hamba uye phambili

Akusizi ukuzama ukukhohlwa impilo yakho yonke nomuntu onobuhlobo obuseduze naye. Imizamo yokusula okwedlule enkumbulweni nokukwehlisa inani lakho kuzoholela eqinisweni lokuthi kuzokugcina uthunjiwe nakakhulu. Kuthatha isikhathi ukudlula kuzo zonke izigaba zokulila. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kubalulekile ukuthi ungaqali ukuhlala enkumbulweni yesikhathi esidlule. Indlela yokuqonda ukuthi kwenzekeni?

"Kulokhu, okuhlangenwe nakho kokulahlekelwa kuba "indlela yokuphila" futhi iqala ukuhoxisa eqinisweni," kuchaza uNataliya Artsybasheva. - Isibonelo, uma isehlukaniso senzeke kudala, futhi usagqoka indandatho yomshado, gcina izinto zangaphambili futhi uzame ukungatsheli muntu mayelana nokuhlukana. Noma uma ukuthukuthela komngane wakho womshado kudlula imingcele enengqondo: uqala ukuzonda wonke amadoda, uhlanganyele kalula ezingxoxweni ngalesi sihloko ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, thola inkampani yabantu abanomqondo ofanayo, njalonjalo.

Imizwa yecala ingaholela ekunakekelweni ngokweqile kwezingane ukuze “kunxephezele” umonakalo okuthiwa ubangelwe isehlukaniso. Ukucasuka okuchichimayo kungakwenza ube yisisulu esigula ingunaphakade nesikhonondayo, ucuphe owake waphila kanye nokwethusa obaziyo.

3. Ungakhohlwa ngomsebenzi womzimba

“Inqubo yesehlukaniso kanye nokwehlukana ivamise ukuhambisana nokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo - ngokwethukela sifuna ukonga amandla. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile njengamanje ukuhlanganisa ukuvivinya umzimba esimisweni sakho sansuku zonke ukuze usize ucabangisise ngalokho okwenzekayo, wenze izinqumo ezinolwazi futhi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kangakanani, uqale ukubona izici ezinhle zokuphila futhi. , kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Alex Riddle. - Akukhona mayelana nokuqeqeshwa okujulile noma i-marathon yehora elide, ikakhulukazi uma ubungathandi ezemidlalo ngaphambilini. Zibekele imisebenzi eyinselele ekulethela injabulo.

Ngisho nengxenye yehora yokuzivocavoca nsuku zonke izoba nomthelela onenzuzo esimweni sakho sengqondo. Kungaba ukuhamba ngaphambi kokulala, ukudansa, i-yoga. Into eyinhloko ukuthi amakilasi avamile futhi alethela injabulo.

4. Hlela izinto ngendlela efanele ezindabeni zezezimali

Uma wena nozakwenu benijwayele ukwabelana ngesabelomali futhi nijwayele ukuxoxa ngezindleko ezinkulu, amaqiniso amasha empilo yezezimali angaba nzima. “Uma umlingani wakho ebehola kakhulu, nakanjani uzobhekana neqiniso lokuthi ukulondeka kwakho ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo kuzonyakaziswa,” kuxwayisa u-Alex Riddle. Kuze kube yilapho usukwazi ukufinyelela ezingeni elifanayo lemali engenayo uwedwa, udinga ukushintsha imikhuba yakho nendlela yokuphila. Isehlukaniso akufanele sibe yisizathu sokuboleka imali, ngaphandle kwalokho uzibeka engcupheni yokuncika kakhulu ngokwezimali.”

5. Zibandakanye ekuxhumaneni

Ulahlekelwe othandekayo futhi udinga ukukukhokhela. “Yebo, kubalulekile ukuzinika isikhathi sokuba wedwa nemizwa yakho,” kuvuma uNatalya Artsybasheva. “Kodwa thina siyizidalwa zomphakathi, futhi ukuzihlukanisa kubi kithi. Kungase kube kusesekuseni kakhulu ukuqala ubudlelwano obusha obuseduze, kodwa ungathola umuzwa "wephakethe lakho" lapho uhamba ngezinyawo, nasemakilasini okudansa, nomsebenzi wokuzithandela, nakwezinye izindawo eziningi. Into esemqoka akukona ukuzihlukanisa, kodwa ukugcina ibhalansi enempilo. "