Uke wahlangana nabasanda kushada ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ngemva komshado futhi waqaphela (yebo, kuwe!) ukuthi bobabili bakhule kancane ngosayizi? Cha, akuyona into eyenzeka ngengozi: izifundo ezimbalwa zibonisa ukuthi ubudlelwano obujabulisayo bandisa amathuba okuzuza isisindo.
Ukuthola ukuthi ingabe ozakwethu abazizwa bekahle futhi bekhululekile uma bebodwa bayakhuluphala ngempela, abacwaningi baseNyuvesi yaseQueensland e-Australia bathatha isinyathelo. Phakathi neminyaka eyishumi, balandela abahlanganyeli be-6458 ocwaningweni futhi bathola ukuthi abesifazane abaneminyaka engu-20 kuya ku-30 ubudala, abangenazo izingane, ababesebudlelwaneni obuhlala njalo nobanelisayo, banesisindo esingaphezu "kwezizungu" - isilinganiso se-5,9 kg. , kanti abanye bakhula kancane kancane ngo-1,8 kg ngonyaka.
Nokho, akubona abesifazane kuphela abakhuluphalayo. Ososayensi baseSouthern Methodist University eDallas balandela imibhangqwana esanda kushada engu-169 iminyaka emine futhi bafinyelela isiphetho esifanayo: kokubili amadoda nabesifazane emishadweni ejabulisayo bakhuluphala. Ozakwethu baseNyuvesi yaseNew York bayavumelana nabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho: ubuhlobo obujabulisayo, abalingani bazuza isisindo esiningi, kodwa izinkinga zomshado kanye nesehlukaniso esiningi siholela eqinisweni lokuthi abalingani balahlekelwa isisindo.
Kanjani futhi kungani uthando lusenza sikhuluphale?
Ukuchaza i-classic, singasho ukuthi yonke imindeni ejabule iyafana, kodwa ikhuluphala ngezizathu ezahlukene. Enye iwukuthi abalingani bavame ukuthatha imikhuba yokudla yomunye, ngezinye izikhathi hhayi enempilo kakhulu.
Ngakho, abesifazane abashadile baqala ukuncika ekudleni okunamafutha amaningi noshukela, futhi izingxenye zabo zokudla ziyanda kancane kancane. Abanye baze baqale ukudla kakhulu njengomlingani womshado (noma ngisho nangaphezulu), ngaphandle kokucabangela ukuthi isidingo samakholori emadodeni nakwabesifazane sihlukile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi imibhangqwana ichitha isikhathi esiningi namandla elungiselela ukudla. Lapho sihlala sodwa, sivame ukweqa okungenani ukudla okukodwa noma sidle ukudla ngokushesha, kodwa lapho siba yingxenye yombhangqwana, siqala ukulungiselela ukudla kwasemini okugcwele kanye nesidlo sakusihlwa, okuhlanganisa nama-dessert notshwala. Emshadweni, ukudla okuhlangene akukona nje ukudla, kodwa futhi kuyithuba lokuba ndawonye.
Ukucindezeleka okuhle okubangelwa isikhathi sokudlala ngothando nokuqomisana kuyaphela futhi isifiso sokudla siyakhula
Esinye isizathu kungenzeka ukuthi izithandani zivame ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi samahhala ndawonye ngangokunokwenzeka, ngokuvamile zingakunaki ukuvivinya umzimba. Kancane kancane, indlela yabo yokuphila iya ngokuya iyancipha. Izinto eziza kuqala kithi ziyashintsha, futhi ukuzinakekela, okuhlanganisa ezemidlalo nokudla, kufiphala ngemuva.
Abacwaningi baye baqaphela ukuthi ubudlelwano ezimweni eziningi bukhula ngokuvumelana nesimo esifanayo: isikhathi sezinsuku zokuqala, esivame ukwenzeka ezindaweni zokudlela nezindawo zokudlela, silandelwa yisiteji lapho abalingani benquma ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuqala ukuhlala ndawonye. Manje bachitha izimpelasonto zabo ekhaya: ukupheka ukudla kwezifundo eziningi, ukubukela amafilimu esofeni namaphophu noma u-ayisikhilimu. Le ndlela yokuphila, ngokushesha noma kamuva, kulindeleke ukuthi iholele ekuzuzeni isisindo.
Nokho, akukhona nje ngendlela yokuphila: ngokubona ukuthi ubudlelwano bethu buzinzile, siyaphumula, sizizwa siqiniseka ngokwengeziwe futhi silondekile. Ukucindezeleka okuhle okubangelwa isikhathi sokudlala ngothando nokuqomisana kuyaphela, futhi isifiso sokudla siyakhula.
Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyindlela evamile kuphela: imibhangqwana eminingi ikwazi ukuqhubeka nokuphila ngendlela enempilo emshadweni njengangaphambili. Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokwamukela imikhuba yokudla engenampilo yomlingani wakho, mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokumbonisa ukuthi kumnandi kangakanani ukuzinakekela, ukudla ngendlela efanele nokuzivocavoca?