Kwakuvame ukuthi impilo iphele ngokoqobo ngokuqala kokuthatha umhlalaphansi - umuntu wayeka ukudingeka emphakathini futhi, okungcono kakhulu, wanikela impilo yakhe ezinganeni nakubazukulu. Nokho, manje konke sekushintshile. Ukuguga kuvula ama-horizons amasha, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uVarvara Sidorova.
Manje sisesikhathini esithakazelisayo. Abantu baqala ukuphila isikhathi eside, bazizwa bengcono. Inhlalakahle evamile iphakeme, ngakho-ke kunamathuba amaningi okuzisindisa emsebenzini ongadingekile womzimba, sinesikhathi samahhala.
Izimo zengqondo mayelana neminyaka zincike kulokho okulindelwe umphakathi obonakala unawo. Asikho isimo sengqondo esilungile ngokwebhayoloji ngakuwena kunoma iyiphi iminyaka. Namuhla, abaningi abaneminyaka engu-50 ubudala bahlela ukuphila eminye iminyaka engu-20, engu-30. Futhi kwakhiwa isikhathi esingalindelekile empilweni yomuntu, lapho kubonakala sengathi yonke imisebenzi yokuphila isiphelile, kodwa kusenesikhathi esiningi.
Ngikhumbula izikhathi lapho abantu bethatha umhlalaphansi ngemva kokusebenza okufanele (abesifazane eneminyaka engu-55, amadoda eneminyaka engu-60) benomuzwa wokuthi ukuphila sekuphelile noma sekuphelile. Sekuvele kukhona ukuthula okunjalo, okuzolile, njengoba kubizwa ngokusemthethweni, isikhathi sokuphila.
Futhi ngikhumbula kahle ukuthi indoda eneminyaka engu-50 ebuntwaneni bami yayiyisidalwa esikhulile kakhulu esinesisu, hhayi nje ngoba ngangimncane. Uhloniphekile, ufunda iphephandaba, uhlezi ezweni noma uhileleke ezindabeni ezilula kakhulu. Akekho owayelindele ukuthi indoda eneminyaka engu-50, isibonelo, izogijima. Kungabukeka kuxakile.
Ngisho nomuntu angamazi kwakungowesifazane oseminyakeni yawo-50 owanquma ukuya kwezemidlalo noma ukuyodansa. Inketho yokuthi ku-40 ungaba nezingane ayizange icatshangwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngikhumbula izingxoxo zomngane oyedwa: “Yeka amahloni, wabeletha eneminyaka engu-42.”
Kwakukhona umbono onjalo womphakathi wokuthi ingxenye yesibili yokuphila kufanele ithule, ukuthi umuntu angabe esaba nezifiso ezikhethekile. Waphila impilo yakhe kahle, njengoba besho, futhi manje usemaphikweni esizukulwane esisebenzayo, esiza ngomsebenzi wasekhaya. Unezinjabulo ezimbalwa ezivamile ezinokuthula, ngoba umuntu osekhulile unamandla amancane, izifiso ezimbalwa. Uyaphila.
Indoda yesimanje yamashumi amahlanu izizwa kahle, inamandla amaningi. Abanye banezingane ezincane. Bese-ke umuntu esempambanweni yomgwaqo. Kunento eyafundiswa okhokho nokhokho: phila ngaphandle. Kukhona into isiko lesimanje elikufundisayo manje - ube musha phakade.
Futhi uma ubheka ukukhangisa, isibonelo, ungabona ukuthi ubudala bushiya kanjani ukwazi okuningi. Asikho isithombe esihloniphekile nesinhle sokuguga kwezokukhangisa. Sonke siyakhumbula ngezinganekwane ukuthi kwakukhona izalukazi ezithokomele, amakhehla ahlakaniphile. Konke kuhambile.
Kuphela ngaphakathi manje kukhona inkomba ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, indlela yokuhlela le mpilo entsha ngokwakho.
Kungabonakala ukuthi, ngaphansi kwengcindezi yezimo ezishintshayo, isithombe sakudala sokuguga sifiphele. Nabantu asebengena kulesi sikhathi bahamba ezindaweni ezizintombi nto. Ngaphambi kwabo, akekho owayedlule kule nsimu emangalisayo. Lapho kukhona amandla, kunamathuba, akukho zibopho, akukho okulindelwe emphakathini. Uzithola usendaweni evulekile, futhi kwabaningi kuyethusa impela.
Uma kuthusa, sizama ukuzitholela ukwesekwa, amathiphu ngokwethu. Into elula kakhulu ukuthatha into eseyilungile: noma ngabe yini esevele ikhona, noma uthathe imodeli yokuziphatha kwentsha empeleni enganele, ngoba isipiliyoni sihlukile, izifiso zihlukile ... Futhi yini enhle ukuyifuna nokuthi yini kuhle ukukwazi kule minyaka, akekho owaziyo.
Ngibe necala elithakazelisayo. Owesifazane oneminyaka engu-64 weza kimi, owahlangana nothando lwesikole, futhi ngemva kweminyaka emithathu bethandana, banquma ukushada noma kunjalo. Ngokungalindelekile, wabhekana neqiniso lokuthi abaningi bamlahla. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abangane bakhe bamtshela ngokoqobo: “Sekuyisikhathi sokuba ucabange ngomphefumulo wakho, futhi uzoshada.” Futhi, kubonakala sengathi, wayesesona ngokusondelana komzimba, okuyinto, ngokombono wabangane bakhe, akazange agibele kunoma yimaphi amasango.
Ngempela wabhodloza udonga, ekhombisa ngesibonelo sakhe ukuthi lokhu kungenzeka. Lokhu kuzokhunjulwa yizingane zakhe, abazukulu bakhe, futhi lesi sibonelo sizokwakhelwa ngandlela thize emlandweni womndeni. Kusuka ezibonelweni ezinjalo lapho ushintsho lwemibono seluqala khona.
Into ongayifisela abantu kulesi sikhathi ukuthi uzilalele wena. Ngoba kuphela ngaphakathi manje kukhona inkomba ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, indlela yokuhlela le mpilo entsha ngokwakho. Akekho ongathembela kuye: nguwe kuphela ongazitshela ukuthi kufanele uphile kanjani.
Umhlali wesimanje wedolobha akashintshi nje kuphela indlela yokuphila, kodwa nomsebenzi. Esizukulwaneni sami, ngokwesibonelo, ngeminyaka yawo-1990, abaningi bashintsha imisebenzi. Futhi ekuqaleni kwakunzima kuwo wonke umuntu, bese wonke umuntu ethola umsebenzi oyifunayo. Futhi cishe bonke babehluka kulokho ababekufunde ekuqaleni.
Ngiyabona ukuthi abantu abaneminyaka engu-50 baqala ukuzifunela umsebenzi omusha. Uma bengakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi othile, bazowenza ngendlela yokuzilibazisa.
Labo abazitholela imisebenzi emisha abasiboni nakancane isikhathi esinzima kwabaningi njengokuthatha umhlalaphansi. Ngibheka ngesithakazelo esikhulu futhi ngibancoma abantu abathi kule minyaka bathola izixazululo ezintsha ngaphandle kokwaziswa nokusekelwa komphakathi, ngifunda kubo, ngizama ukuhlanganisa isipiliyoni sabo, futhi lesi sikhathi soshintsho lwezenhlalakahle singibamba kakhulu.
Yebo, ungacasuka ngokungapheli ukuthi abasangithathi emkhakheni wami okhethekile, angisakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi. Kusafanele uzame okuthile okusha. Uma ungayiswa lapho ufuna khona, thola enye indawo lapho uzojabula khona, ujabule futhi uthakazelise.
Ukuphi nkosi yakho siqu - kungase kube khona ukusikisela okunjalo. Abantu abaningi bayesaba into engaziwa, ikakhulukazi lapho becabanga ukuthi abanye bayosabela kanjani kukho. Kodwa abanye basabela ngendlela ehlukile.
Othile mayelana nowesifazane oneminyaka engu-64 ozama ukuphila ngenkuthalo uthi: "Yeka ukwesabeka, yeka iphupho elibi." Umuntu unabantu abaningi abamlahlayo. Futhi othile, ngokuphambene nalokho, uthi ngaye: "Yeka umfo omuhle." Futhi lapha singaluleka into eyodwa kuphela: funa abantu abanomqondo ofanayo, bheka labo abazokusekela. Baningi abantu abanjalo, awuwedwa. Lokho kuqinisekile.
Ungazami ukubukeka u-sexy futhi ukhangayo. Ungalufuni uthando, funa uthando
Futhi, zibuke esibukweni futhi uthuthukise lokho onakho, ngisho noma ukhumbula usemncane. Ekuqaleni, ungesabi uma ubheka lapho, ngoba esikhundleni sobuhle obuneminyaka engu-20 ubudala, isalukazi esineminyaka engu-60 sibheka wena. Kodwa lapho wenza le ntokazi ingabi yintsha, kodwa ibe yinhle, uzoyithanda kakhulu.
Bheka abesifazane abadala kunawe ngeminyaka eyi-10, 15, 20. Ungakhetha imodeli, ungaqonda ukuthi yini ongase uthembele kuyo, yini ongayihambisa kuyo, indlela yokuhlobisa ngokwakho ukuze kungabi yinto ehlekisayo, kodwa yemvelo.
Kukhona enye into ebaluleke kakhulu: sivame ukudideka, ikakhulukazi ezikhathini zamuva, ukukhanga ngokocansi kanye nekhono lokubangela uthando. Akudingekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuvusa isifiso sobulili, kwanele nje ukukuthanda.
Isimanjemanje, ikakhulukazi umagazini noma isiko likamabonakude lisitshela ukuthi sibukeke sexy. Kodwa kuyamangaza ukubukeka u-sexy ku-60, ikakhulukazi uma ungayifuni into enjalo.
Sonke siyaqonda ukuthi eneminyaka engu-60 owesifazane angathandwa abantu abahlukene. Akuwona kuphela amadoda afuna umngane womshado, owesifazane oneminyaka engu-60 angathandwa abanye besifazane, amadoda angafuni umngane womshado, kodwa nje umuntu othakazelisayo, omuhle.
Angathandwa yizingane, abantu abadala, ngisho namakati nezinja imbala. Ungazami ukubukeka u-sexy futhi ukhangayo futhi ungakubheki. Ungalufuni uthando, funa uthando. Kuzoba lula.