Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi siyakwazi ukulawula ukusabela ezimweni nezenzakalo ekuphileni kwethu. Singasabela kunoma yikuphi “okucasulayo” kungaba ngothando (ukuqonda, ukwazisa, ukwamukela, ukubonga), noma ukwesaba (ukucasuka, intukuthelo, inzondo, umhawu, njalonjalo).
Impendulo yakho ezenzakalweni ezihlukahlukene zempilo ayigcini nje ngokunquma izinga lakho lokukhula nokuthuthuka komuntu siqu, kodwa nokuthi yini oyihehayo empilweni yakho. Ngokusaba, wenza futhi uhlangabezane nezenzakalo ezingafuneki ezenzeka kaningi ekuphileni.
Izwe langaphandle (isipiliyoni okwenzeka kuwe) yisibuko salokho ubunjalo bakho, isimo sakho sangaphakathi. Ukuhlakulela nokuba sesimweni senjabulo, ukubonga, uthando nokwamukelwa.
Kodwa-ke, akunakwenzeka ukuhlukanisa yonke into ibe "emnyama" futhi "emhlophe". Ngezinye izikhathi umuntu ukhangwa isimo sokuphila esinzima hhayi ngenxa yomzwelo omubi, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi umphefumulo (umuntu ophakeme) ukhetha lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho njengesifundo.
Isifiso sokulawula ngokuphelele zonke izehlakalo zempilo yakho ukuze ugweme izehlakalo ezimbi akusona isixazululo esingcono kakhulu. Le ndlela isekelwe ebugovu nasekwesabeni. Uma uzama ukuthola indlela yomlingo yenjabulo nokulawula impilo yakho, uzofika ngokushesha emicabangweni elandelayo: “Ngifuna imali eningi, imoto, i-villa, ngifuna ukuthandwa, ukuhlonishwa, ukuqashelwa. Ngifuna ukuba ngcono kulokhu nalokhuya, futhi-ke, akufanele kube khona ukuphazamiseka empilweni yami. Kulokhu, uzomane ukhulise i-ego yakho futhi, okubi kakhulu, uyeke ukukhula.
Indlela yokuphuma ilula futhi iyinkimbinkimbi ngesikhathi esifanayo, futhi iqukethe Noma yini eyenzekayo, khumbula ukuthi izokusiza ukuthi ukhule. Khumbula ukuthi akukho okwenzeka ngaphandle kwesizathu. Noma imuphi umcimbi uyithuba elisha lokuzikhulula ekukhohliseni, vumela ukwesaba kukushiye futhi ugcwalise inhliziyo yakho ngothando.
Yamukela okwenziwayo futhi wenze okusemandleni akho ukuphendula. Impilo ikude nokuba yizimpumelelo, izinto onazo, nokunye ... imayelana nalokho oyikho. Injabulo ngokuyinhloko incike ekutheni ubuhlobo esibugcina buqine kangakanani nothando lwethu lwangaphakathi nenjabulo, ikakhulukazi phakathi nezikhathi ezinzima zokuphila. Kuyaxaka ukuthi lo muzwa wothando wangaphakathi awuhlangene nokuthi unemali engakanani, uzacile noma udume kangakanani.
Noma nini lapho ubhekene nenselelo, kubone njengethuba lokuba inguqulo yakho engcono kakhulu, ukusondela kulokho okufanele ube yikho. Ukuze uthathe ubuningi obuvela esimweni samanje, ukusabela kuso ngothando, amandla nokuzimisela kuyadingeka. Uma ufunda ukwenza lokhu, uzoqaphela ukuthi unqoba kanjani ubunzima ngokushesha, ugwema ukuhlupheka okungadingekile.
Phila umzuzu ngamunye wokuphila ngothando emphefumulweni wakho, noma ngabe injabulo noma ukudabuka. Ungesabi izinselele zokudalelwa, thatha izifundo zakho, ukhule ngolwazi. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu...shintsha ukwesaba ngothando.