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Emzamweni wobusha baphakade, noma okungenani ukufuna impilo ende, abantu asebekhulile bathambekele ekuphendukeleni emisha yezokwelapha, ekudleni okukhethekile, noma ekuzindleni. , ukuze uhlale unempilo.
Kodwa into elula kakhulu ingase isebenze ngendlela efanayo, uma kungenjalo! Nakuba kungase kuzwakale kumangalisa, kungase kubonakale kunjalo ogogo nomkhulu abanakekela abazukulu babo baphila isikhathi eside kunabanye...
Ucwaningo olubucayi kakhulu olwenziwe eJalimane olusanda kukhombisa.
Ucwaningo olwenziwe yiBerlin Aging Study
Le Isifundo Sokuguga saseBerlin wayethanda ukuguga futhi walandela abantu abangu-500 abaneminyaka ephakathi kuka-70 no-100 iminyaka engamashumi amabili, ebabuza njalo ngezihloko ezahlukene.
UDkt. Hilbrand nethimba lakhe baphenya, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ukuthi kukhona yini ukuxhumana phakathi kokunakekela abanye nokuphila kwabo isikhathi eside. Baqhathanise imiphumela yamaqembu ama-3 ahlukene:
- iqembu logogo nomkhulu abanezingane nabazukulu,
- iqembu labantu asebekhulile abanezingane kodwa abangenabo abazukulu,
- iqembu labantu asebekhulile abangenazo izingane.
Imiphumela yabonisa ukuthi eminyakeni engu-10 ngemva kwenhlolokhono, ogogo nomkhulu ababenakekele abazukulu babo babesaphila, kuyilapho asebekhulile abangenabantwana babefe kakhulu phakathi neminyaka emine noma emihlanu. Eminyakeni eyi-4 ngemuva kwenhlolokhono.
Ngokuqondene nasebekhulile abanezingane ezingenabo abazukulu abaqhubeka benikeza usizo olungokoqobo nokusekelwa ezinganeni zabo, noma izihlobo, baphila cishe iminyaka engu-7 ngemva kwenhlolokhono.
Ngakho-ke uDkt Hilbrand wafinyelela kulesi siphetho: kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kokunakekela abanye nokuphila isikhathi eside.
Kusobala ukuthi ukusebenzelana nomphakathi kanye nokuxhumana nabanye abantu, futhi ikakhulukazi ukunakekela abazukulu bakho, kunemiphumela emihle kakhulu empilweni futhi kunomthelela ekuphileni isikhathi eside.
Ngenkathi asebekhulile, ukuhlukaniswa nomphakathi kungaba sengozini enkulu futhi babe nezifo ngokushesha okukhulu. (Ukuze uthole imininingwane eyengeziwe, bheka incwadi kaPaul B. Baltes, Isifundo Sokuguga saseBerlin.
Kungani ukugada abazukulu kukwenza uphile isikhathi eside?
Ukunakekela nokunakekela izingane kunganciphisa kakhulu ukucindezeleka. Nokho, sonke siyazi ukuthi kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kokucindezeleka nobungozi bokushona ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Imisebenzi eyenziwa ogogo nomkhulu nabazukulu babo (ezemidlalo, ukuvakasha, imidlalo, imisebenzi yezandla, njll.) iyinzuzo kakhulu kuzo zombili izizukulwane.
Ngakho, asebekhulile bahlala bekhuthele futhi besebenza, ngaphandle kokuqaphela, zabo imisebenzi yokuqonda futhi balondoloze yabo ukuqina.
Mayelana nezingane, zifunda okuningi kubadala bazo, nalokhu isibopho somphakathi sokuqala ikhuthaza ukuzwana komndeni, inhlonipho yesizukulwane, ibanika ukuzinza nokusekelwa ngokomzwelo okubalulekile ekwakhiweni kwabo.
Ngakho-ke izinzuzo zezempilo zabadala bethu ziningi: ukuhlala umatasa ngokomzimba nangokwenhlalo, kunciphisa ingozi yokudangala, ingcindezi, ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka, ukusebenzisa inkumbulo yabo namandla engqondo, ukugcina, ngokuvamile, ubuchopho obunempilo ...
Kodwa kufanele uqaphele ukuthi ungadluli!
Umzimba unemikhawulo yawo, ikakhulukazi ngemva kweminyaka ethile, futhi uma siweqa, umphumela ophambene ungase uvele: ukukhathala kakhulu, ukucindezeleka okukhulu, ukusebenza ngokweqile, ... kungakhansela ngokuphelele izinzuzo zezempilo futhi ngaleyo ndlela kufinyezwe ubude bempilo.
Ngakho-ke kuwumbuzo wokuthola olungile olinganiselayo phakathi kokusiza abanye, ukunakekela abancane, ngaphandle kokwenza okuningi kakhulu!
Ukugcina abazukulu bakho, yebo kunjalo!, Kodwa esimweni kuphela ukuthi kube umthamo we-homeopathic nokuthi ungabi umthwalo.
Kukuwo wonke umuntu ukuthi azi ukuthi angakala kanjani isikhathi kanye nesimo sokugcinwa kwabantwana, ngokuvumelana nabazali, ukuze lezi zikhathi zokuhlangana kwezizukulwane zibe kuphela. injabulo yawo wonke umuntu.
Ngakho, ogogo nomkhulu bazigcina benempilo enhle, abazukulu basebenzisa ngokugcwele yonke ingcebo elethwa umkhulu noGogo, futhi abazali bangajabulela izimpelasonto zabo, amaholide abo, noma nje ukuya emsebenzini. ukuba nokuthula!
Imibono yemisebenzi ongayenza noBabamkhulu kanye noMkhulu
Kuye ngesimo sempilo yabo, imali yabo, nesikhathi abasichitha nabazukulu, imisebenzi okumele yenziwe ndawonye miningi kakhulu futhi ihluke kakhulu.
Isibonelo, ungakwazi: ukudlala amakhadi noma imidlalo yebhodi, ukupheka noma ukubhaka, ukwenza umsebenzi wasendlini, ukwenza ingadi noma i-DIY, ukuya emtatsheni wezincwadi, ebhayisikobho, e-zoo, esekisini, olwandle, endaweni yokubhukuda, inkulisa, esikhungweni sokungcebeleka, noma epaki lokuzijabulisa, yenza imisebenzi yezandla (ukudweba, ukufaka imibala, ubuhlalu, izitsha zobumba, ukubhuka okulahliwe, inhlama kasawoti, ukukhilosha, njll.).
Nansi eminye imibono embalwa:
vakashela imnyuziyamu, cula, udanse, udlale ibhola, ithenisi, hamba umjaho wamasaka, isiphithiphithi, uhambe ehlathini noma emaphandleni, uqoqe amakhowe, ukha izimbali, uphequlule endlini engaphansi, hamba uyodoba, uxoxe izindaba, ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo, ukwakha isihlahla somndeni, ukugibela ibhayisekili, ukwenza ipikinikhi, ukubuka izinkanyezi, imvelo, ...
Kunezinkulungwane zezinto ezithokozisayo ongazenza nabazukulu bakho ukuze wenze lezi zikhathi eziqinile zokwabelana zingalibaleki.