kufanele yini ukuthethisa ingane ngamamaki esikole
Isazi sezengqondo somndeni uBoris Sednev uxoxa ngokuthi ngabe abazali kufanele banake ukwehluleka.
“Esikoleni kwake kwaba namamaki amabili: wayenesikhathi futhi wayengekho ngesikhathi,” kukhumbula uRobert Rozhdestvensky enkondlweni yakhe ethi “210 steps”. Manje konke sekuyinkimbinkimbi ngokwengeziwe. Yinye into engaguquguquki: kwabanye abazali, ibanga elibi iba yinhlekelele yangempela. “Ungenza okungaphezulu”, “Ubani owenqena kangaka”, “Umuntu onqenayo”, “Umsebenzi wakho ukufunda, futhi uhlale usuku lonke ocingweni”, “Uzoya emsebenzini njengomlondolozi” - abazali bavame ukuphonsa ezinhliziyweni zabo, babheke kudayari.
Kungani ingane ifunda kabi?
Abanye omama nobaba basebenzise unswinyo ezinganeni, abanye bagijimela ukubhekana nothisha, befuna "ubulungiswa". Futhi ungaphendula kanjani ngokufanele emabangeni ukuze ungavimbeli ngokuphelele ingane ekufundeni futhi ungonakalisi ubudlelwano nothisha?
Isazi sethu, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somtholampilo, inhloko yeSednev Psychological Center UBoris Sednev ikholelwa ukuthi kunezizathu eziningi ezihlose ukuthi ukusebenza kwezingane ezifundweni kuncike kuzo. Isibonelo, ukuthi umfundi usifunde kahle kangakanani isifundo, uphendula ngokuzethemba ebhodini, ukubhekana kanjani nokukhathazeka lapho eqeda imisebenzi ebhaliwe.
Ubudlelwano nontanga nothisha nakho kungakuthinta ukufunda. Imvamisa kwenzeka ukuthi ingane iba ibanga lika-C lapho kungekho nogqozi lokufunda, ayiqondi ukuthi kungani kufanelekile ukutadisha isifundo esithile.
“Ngiwumuntu osiza umphakathi. I-Physics ngeke ibe wusizo kimi empilweni yami, kungani ngizochitha isikhathi ngayo, ”- isikhuthazi esijwayelekile somfundi wasesikoleni esiphakeme osenqume ukuthi uzongena kwi-Faculty of Law.
Vele, akumele sikhohlwe ngesimo somndeni. Ngabazali abavame ukuba yisizathu sokuthi ingane iyeke ukuba nentshisekelo yokufunda.
Kuyacaca ukuthi uzophatheka kabi uma ingane iqala ukuhudula kabili kathathu isikole ngokulandelana. Ukulwa nalokhu mhlawumbe kusazuzisa. Kepha udinga ukwazi ukuthi kanjani - inhlamba ngeke isize lapha.
Okokuqala, i kumele kuqondwe ukuthi ukuhlolwa akuhlangene nobuntu bengane. Ngoba akafundi kahle, akazange abe ngumuntu omubi, usamthanda.
Okwesibili, awukwazi ukulenga amalebula: uthole i-deuce, okusho ukuthi uyisehluleki, uthole abahlanu - iqhawe nomfana opholile.
Okwesithathu, izilinganiso kufanele ziphathwe ngokungaguquguquki. Abazali kufanele babe nokuma okucacile okususelwa kuzici ezinhloso. Ake sithi uyazi ngokweqiniso ukuthi ingane inesibalo sezibalo, kepha ngenxa yobuvila bayo, yaqala ukuthola ngababili nabathathu. Ngakho-ke kufanele ucindezelwe. Futhi uma bekulokhu kungabalulekile kuwe ukuthi amamaki akhe akulesi sifundo, khona-ke “ngokuzumayo” ngeke ukwazi ukuqala ukubelesela ingane ngamamaki - ngeke nje akuqonde ukuthi uyini.
OkwesineUngafaki isikhalazo ngokusebenza kwezemfundo uma usenkingeni emsebenzini.
Okwesishiyagalolunye, yenza ngaphandle kwezindaba ezesabekayo ngeminyaka yakho yokufunda. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okungekuhle esikoleni, izinkumbulo, kanye nokwesaba akumele kuthinte isimo sengqondo sengane yakho ngamamaki.
Futhi enye into: uma ukhathazekile ukuthi ingane izokwehluleka nakanjani isivivinyo, ngeke inikele futhi ibambe ezimbili, ingabheka kalula isimo sakho sangaphakathi. Bala - nesibuko. Lapho-ke nakanjani kuzoba namamaki amabi. Zole kuqala, bese uqala ukufunda ngendodana noma indodakazi yakho.
Okokuqala, ukwakha ubudlelwano bokuthembela enganeni. Lokhu, vele, kufanele ukwenze isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokungena esikoleni.
Ingane idinga ukwamukelwa nokuthandwa ngobuyena. Kuyiqiniso, lapha udinga ukwabelana ngesimo sakho sengqondo ngengane nakwimpumelelo yakhe. Futhi ukwenza kucace enganeni: uhlukile, ukuhlolwa - ngokwehlukana.
Kulula kakhulu ukufunda nokuthola amamaki amahle emiphumeleni uma uyiqonda kalula. Susa ukubaluleka okungadingekile nokucindezeleka okungadingekile. Enye yezindlela ezisebenzayo lapha kuzoba ukuphatha ukuhlolwa njengomdlalo. Lesi simo sengqondo singaqhathaniswa neminye imidlalo, imidlalo yekhompyutha, amafilimu, amakhathuni noma izincwadi, lapho udinga khona ukudlula kumazinga amasha bese uthola amaphuzu. Endabeni yezifundo kuphela, ukuze uthole amaphuzu amaningi, udinga ukwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikole.
Bonisa isithakazelo esiqotho kulokho ingane ekufundile. Zama ukukhuthaza ingane ukuthi icabange. Isibonelo, ulwazi olutholakele lungasetshenziswa kukuphi lapho, njll. Izingxoxo ezinjalo zingasiza ukwakha intshisekelo esihlokweni noma olwazini oluthile. Lokhu kungabaluleka, ikakhulukazi uma kubhekwa ukuthi isikole ngokwaso asihlali sikunaka ngokwanele lokhu. Kulokhu, amamaki abonwa njengebhonasi emnandi noma njengokuhluleka okwesikhashana.
Umklomelo we-A yinto yokuqala efika engqondweni yabo bonke abazali abaphupha ngokwenza ingane umfundi ovelele noma umfundi omuhle.
“Kufanele ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezinto ezingaphatheki (isikhathi esiku-computer noma ezinye izinto zobuchwepheshe, ukubukela i-TV, ukuhamba nabangani, njll.) Nezikhuthazo zemali. Indlela yokuqala inezinzuzo ezithile: ingane yenza umsebenzi wasekhaya, izama ukuthola amamaki amahle, futhi ngasikhathi sinye ilawula isikhathi esichithwa kukhompyutha, ibuka i-TV, njll. Kepha, njengoba ingane ikhula, ukulawula okunjalo kuphenduka kancane kancane kube ukuxabana nokuxabana. ”Kusho uBoris Sednev.
Abazali, bengazi ukuthi babhekene nentsha, zama ukufaka imingcele ethe xaxa kunokuqinisa isimo.
Imali futhi iyindlela ethandwayo yokugqugquzela. Kodwa-ke, noma "kukhokhwa amamaki", ingane isengalahlekelwa yintshisekelo yokufunda. Ngempela, ngokungabikho kwesisusa sangempela, sangaphakathi salo msebenzi owenziwayo, ngisho nomuntu omdala uya ngokuya alahlekelwe intshisekelo ngekhwalithi yomsebenzi.
“Kuyafaneleka ukucubungula zonke izinzuzo nobubi bezinzuzo zezinto ezibonakalayo hhayi ngokuzihlukanisa, kodwa kunalokho ngokubambisana nezinye izindinganiso zomndeni ezihlobene nokutholakala kolwazi, imfundo nesimo sengqondo ngengane esemndenini. Futhi into ebaluleke kakhulu kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi kube ukwamukelwa kwengane okungenamibandela nokuba nentshisekelo yangempela olwazini nasekuzikhuliseni, ”kuphetha isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.