“Angikukhuliselanga lokhu”: kungani abazali bengasifundisanga ukujabula

Lapho ngingena endlini ngithenge, bonke ngilindele ukuhwashaza kwezingubo zokugoqa, ngibuka futhi ngizama, u-Asya ngokushesha uthatha izikhwama ezandleni zami, ulahle yonke into lapho, aqale ukudla uma kungukudla, futhi akuzame uma kuwukudla. into entsha. Ngangingenaso isikhathi sokukhumula amateki ami, futhi wayesevele eklebhula amaphakheji, ehlafuna futhi elele embhedeni egqoke i-jeans entsha. Mhlawumbe ngisho naku-jean yami entsha - uphatha ngokushesha abafikayo bakamuva, abafake ekusakazweni.

Ngangilokhu ngicabanga, kungani ukushesha okungaka kungicasula? Ngabe senginquma ukuthi lokhu kwakuwukubingelela kwasebuntwaneni baseSoviet, lapho izinto ezintsha ekhabetheni lezingane zaziyivelakancane - kanye nezinjabulo ze-gastronomic. Futhi ngangifuna ukwelula isikhathi sokujwayelana nabo futhi ngilule futhi ngijabulele injabulo yokuba nempahla.

Ngakho-ke, esikhwameni sikaNcibijane samaswidi, ama-raisins okuqala kashukela adliwe, bese kuba amathofi, bese kuba ama-caramel "ama-Goose paws", "Snowball" futhi kuphela - ushokoledi "Squirrel" kanye ne "Bear". Futhi ubani okhumbula ukuthi umama wayegcina kanjani ekamelweni likashokoledi "ngeholide" noma imbiza yemayonnaise enesembozo esigqwalile - ku-Olivier ngoNyaka Omusha?

Kodwa wonke lawa ma-redneck quirks ezikhathini zanamuhla akuyona into embi kunazo zonke esiyithola lapho. Kusukela e-USSR.

Ubaba womngane wami wesikole samabanga aphezulu wayengudokotela ohlinzayo, futhi enobude obumhlophe obunamehlo aluhlaza neminwe ende "yokuhlinzwa". Wafunda izincwadi eziningi (ihhovisi “likababa” kulapho amashalofu anezincwadi asuka ezinhlangothini ezine kuya ophahleni), ngezinye izikhathi wayedlala isiginci, aye phesheya (kwakungavamile ngaleso sikhathi), alethe amakesi epensela awolintshi endodakazini yakhe futhi ngezinye izikhathi ayithathe. esikoleni ekilasini lakhe Zhiguli imoto. Akekho noyedwa wethu owayenabazali abazosilanda.

Lapho engazange aphumelele iseshini yokuqala yoju ngenxa yezizathu zempilo yomuntu siqu ehlulekile ngaleso sikhathi, imibukiso nakho konke okwakudingeka, udokotela ohlinzayo wayeka ukukhuluma naye. Njengoba kuvela manje - lapho sesingaphezu kwamashumi amane - kumile unomphela. Futhi ngokushesha washaya ingidi kulowo mnyango othandekayo wehhovisi. Yayingasekho indlela yendodakazi yakhe - noma ekamelweni lakhe, noma empilweni yakhe. Ngoba yena, njengaye, wayekholelwa kuye, futhi yena, sengathi, wamkhaphela.

Komunye umndeni, ubaba usabhekwa njengongqondongqondo kuze kube namuhla - imbongi, umculi, ungqondongqondo, imfundo ehlakaniphile, inkumbulo emangalisayo. Kanye nokuzithuthukisa ngokungakhathali, ukukhula komuntu siqu. Abantu badonsekela kuye, yeka indlela okuthakazelisa ngayo ngaye! Ngachitha ubusuku eduze komuntu onjalo - futhi njengokungathi ngiphuza emthonjeni wolwazi, ngakhanyiselwa futhi ngakhanyiselwa ...

Kuthe uma ungqondongqondo ethola ukuthi indodakazi yakhe isikhulelwe futhi izoshada, wathi eseyinqamula, wangabe esaba indodakazi yakhe. Akazange akuvumele lokho, futhi iqiniso lokukhulelwa lambangela ukuhlukumezeka ... Ubudlelwano babo baphelela lapho. Umama wakhe umthumelela okuthile ngasese kumyeni wakhe, enye imali, ezinye izindaba, kodwa intombazane ilahlekelwe uyise.

Omunye ubaba ungumuntu ocebile wokudala ngokwakhe, futhi wakhulisa indodakazi yakhe ngomoya ofanayo. Ebona ikhono lokuqinisekisa, wafuna ukuthi "hhayi usuku olungenalayini", ukuthi nsuku zonke uzomlethela inkondlo entsha ukuze ihlaziywe. Futhi waletha, wazama, futhi wafunda, wasebenza, washada, wazala ingane ...

Futhi ngesinye isikhathi kwavela ukuthi izinkondlo, ake sithi, azibalulekile kangako, ukuthi asikho isikhathi esisele sezinkondlo, kufanele uphathe ikhaya, futhi umyeni akayena omunye walabo abazothi: hlala, othandekayo, bhala ama-sonnets, futhi ngizokwenza okunye. Futhi lapho ubaba eqaphela ukuthi kuzodingeka alinde ukushicilelwa kweqoqo lezinkondlo zendodakazi yakhe, akazange ahlukane nayo ngokuphelele, cha, kodwa ngawo wonke amathuba ubonisa ukuthi wayephoxeke kangakanani, ukuthi wawangcwaba kanjani amakhono akhe, ukuthi kanjani. uyavilapha ngempela, njengoba engazibhali zonke izinto ezintsha...

Kufanele akhokhe imali yendlu, enze umsebenzi wesikole nengane, apheke isidlo sakusihlwa somndeni, noyise: "Kungani ungabhali? Ingabe ufuna ugqozi? Hlobo luni lombhedo okhethe ukukwenza empilweni… «

Ngesinye isikhathi u-Andrei Loshak wabhala ku-Facebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia): “Ikhehla eliphethe induku, intshebe, nejakhethi yedenim eligugile lasondela esiteshini sikamasipala sase-Universiteit - umzwelo wekilasi wezwa okuthile okungokwemvelo ekubukekeni kwalo. Ubungase ube umngane kayihlo kalula. Wangibuka ngokungaqiniseki futhi wangibuza, “Uxolo, ingabe uyazithanda izincwadi zobuciko?” Bonke ubumbano besigaba esifanayo bathi yebo, banentshisekelo.

Futhi abaningi basabela, ontanga yami bakhumbula abazali babo ...

Siphinde sibe nama-albhamu obuciko ekhaya, amarekhodi, izinkondlo, iphrozi - izimpande zisephambi kwamehlo ethu - ngokoqobo nangokomfanekiso. Futhi ubaba uvela kulesi sizukulwane samashumi ayisithupha, abazalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi, phakathi noma ngokushesha ngemva kwempi. Ukulangazelela, ukufunda, ukulalela i-Radio Liberty, ukucabanga, ukuxabana, ukugqoka ama-bell-bottom, ama-turtleneck nama-sweatshirts anekholomu ebukhali...

Babecabanga ngokungathi sína ngenjongo yokuphila, befuna ukuyithola. Futhi bathola, belahlekile, baphinde bathola, bephikisana ngezinkondlo, beyizazi zefiziksi nabaculi ngesikhathi esisodwa, bexabana nabangane uma bengavumelani nabo ezindabeni ezingaqondakali, eziqagelayo ... Konke lokhu kubangela inhlonipho, ukunconywa, ukuziqhenya ngabo. Kodwa.

Konke lokhu akuphathelene nenjabulo.

Cha, hhayi ngenjabulo.

Obaba bethu babengazi ukuthi ukujabula kuyinto ehloniphekile futhi enhle. Empeleni, lena umgomo oyifunayo - injabulo yakho siqu. Futhi uthando olungenamibandela aluqondwa kahle. Babekuqonda okufunayo - futhi babefuna futhi bengenasihawu kubo kanye nezingane zabo (kanye nabafazi babo).

Kuyo yonke inqubekelaphambili yabo, babehlala esimweni lapho, ngokungathí sina, kukholakala ukuthi umphakathi uphakeme kunomuntu siqu, futhi injabulo jikelele emsebenzini kanye nenjongo yokuphila kufanele ilinganiswe ngenzuzo oyilethe izwe. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, impilo yakho namuhla ayinandaba - zazi ngokwakho ukuze ukhulise ukukhiqiza kwabasebenzi futhi wakhe ikusasa eliqhakazile akekho owaziyo. Ngokungabaza okuthile, kodwa obaba bethu babekholelwa kukho ... Futhi babekholelwa nokuthi inkululeko eningi yaba phezu kwesabelo sabo. ncibilika.

Kodwa iyini inzuzo yemfundo yabo, ubuhlakani, izithakazelo ezibanzi, ulwazi lwezobuciko, izincwadi, impumelelo yobungcweti, uma bebengajabule futhi behluleka ukujabulisa izingane zabo, noma bebalahlile ngamagama athi “Angizange ngikukhulise kwalokhu"?

Futhi ngani?

Kubonakala sengathi umhlaba usushintshile, ukuthi ngamagajethi impilo iye yahluke ngokuphelele, ukuthi inkululeko yomuntu siqu kanye nezithakazelo zomuntu manje zicatshangelwa okungenani ngumuntu ngokwakhe. Cha. Thina, njengokhokho bethu, “singabantwana beminyaka embi yaseRussia” futhi sithwele ngaphakathi kwethu ukwesaba nezinkimbinkimbi zabazali baseSoviet. Noma kunjalo, ngiyayigqoka.

Konke lokhu kwenzeke muva nje - ubaba ubesebenza ephephandabeni iSocialist Industry, kanti umama ubesebenza ekomitini lesifunda leqembu. Futhi ebangeni lesithupha, uthisha waseRussia kanye nezincwadi, umkhomanisi omdala uNadezhda Mikhailovna, ebona i-manicure yami (nge-varnish esobala), wathi: "Ngizotshela inhlangano yeqembu ukuthi izingane zabasebenzi bekomidi lesifunda zenzani - penda izinzipho zabo.” Ngangesaba kangangokuthi ngayinquma yonke iveni ngensingo, khona kanye esifundweni. Akusekho mqondo wokuthi kanjani.

Ulapha, usondelene kakhulu ngokulandelana kwezikhathi nangokomzimba, wonke lo mbono wokuhamba ngokwakheka nangesinyathelo, wonke lawa makomiti endawo, amakomiti eqembu, izinhlangano zeKomsomol, imihlangano lapho besebenza khona amadoda ashiya umndeni, amantombazane "agijimela ukudansa" esikhundleni salokho. lokuma emgqonyeni, lapho belahlwa khona ngezimonyo, ubude besiketi, ukujola nendoda eshadile ... Konke lokhu kwakuyindaba yomphakathi oqaphile kanye nesizathu sokusola.

Futhi lo muzwa waphakade wecala lokuhlala kahle, "ukuphila ngokwakho" noma "ihora ngokwakho", ngoba injabulo yomuntu siqu ivela lapho. Kusukela lapho, ukwesaba ukuthi uma ngihleka namuhla, khona-ke kusasa ngizokhala, kanye nomcabango: “Into ebengilokhu ngiqamba amanga isikhathi eside, ngidinga ukugeza phansi, kokubili ephasishi nasendaweni yokuhlala.” Futhi konke lokhu "akukhululekile phambi kwabantu", "bazothini omakhelwane", "ngosuku lwemvula", "kuthiwani uma kuzoba nempi kusasa?" kanye nesithombe esisesidlangalaleni esibizwa ngokuthi “Psychology for Every Day” eneseluleko: “Uma ujabulile, thula ngakho…” ngokwakho...

Futhi lapho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sithi: "Zithande, zamukele kunoma yiluphi uhlobo nesimo - impumelelo nokwehluleka, ekuqaliseni nasekuhlehleni, ekusebenzeni nasekungenzini," angiqondi ukuthi ngingayenza kanjani! Kodwa ngifunda umtapo wabazali bami, ngiya eminyuziyamu nasezinkundleni zeshashalazi, ngazi zonke izinhlobo zozwela, futhi ngokuvamile ngingumuntu olungile. Kodwa angikwazi ukujabula. Angazi ukuthi kunjani. Isayensi nobuciko, izincwadi nemidwebo akufundisi lokhu. Ngingakufundisa kanjani lokhu ezinganeni zami? Noma sekuyisikhathi sokufunda kubo?

Ngesinye isikhathi, lapho ubusha bami sebuphelile kudala, ngihlanyiswa isifo sezinzwa nokuzidabukela, nganquma ukuzifundela ngedwa. Nganquma ukungahlehlisi noma yini, ngingayilondolozeli isikhathi esizayo, ngingesabi, ngingayigcini imali. Kukhona oshokoledi ngokushesha - futhi awekho ama-caramel!

Futhi nganquma ukungayifuni injongo yokuphila. Ukushaya amagoli aphezulu, ukuyeka izifiso ezingaphilile. Ukuze afundele injabulo kuphela, kodwa ukuba abheke imidwebo nezindlu zabadwebi abahle. Ukuthanda izingane ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphandle kwemibandela. Futhi ungafundi izindatshana ezinkulu nezincwadi eziwugqinsi zefilosofi nezengqondo, kodwa zisize nje ukuthi ujabule kancane kancane. Okokuqala, yithenge. Futhi ekuqaleni - ukuqonda ukuthi uma ungaphili namuhla-manje, ikusasa alisoze lafika. Liyohlehla lihlehle njalo, futhi ngizogijima ngililandele ngize ngife, njengembongolo ilandela isanqante.

Kubonakala kimi noma kwavela ukuthi umhlaba wonke ukhathele ukuvelela, ulwazi kanye necala? Uyini umkhuba: abantu bafuna izindlela nezizathu zokujabula. Nenjabulo.

Ngizokwabelana nami. Futhi ngizolinda izindaba zakho.