Abantu abavulekile, abazethembayo maningi amathuba okuthi bathole impumelelo futhi bazi ukuthi bangabanqoba kanjani abanye. Banombono omuhle, bayathemba abantu futhi ababuvimbi ubunzima. Umnyombo walesi simo sengqondo ngempilo ukunamathela okuphephile kubazali. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Ellis Boyes sikhuluma ngendlela yokumkhulisa.
Omunye wemisebenzi ebalulekile yabazali ukukhulisa ingane ngendlela evikelekile yokunamathisela. Uma ungakwenza lokhu, uzohlola umhlaba ngokuzethemba, azi ukuthi unomuntu angaphendukela kuye ukuze athole usizo.
Isitayela sokunamathiselwe esivikelekile senza kube lula ukuthola abantu obajwayele futhi udale amabhondi aqinile. Abathwali balesi sitayela abesabi ukufuna ukusekelwa ezintweni zothando - abazali, othisha nabalingani. Laba bantu bavulekele izinto ezintsha, ngoba baqinisekile ukuthi abathandekayo babo bayazamukela ngaphandle kwemibandela.
Nawa amanye amathiphu okuthi ungathuthukisa kanjani isitayela sokunamathisela esivikelekile enganeni yakho.
1. Mfundise ukubona nokwanelisa izidingo zakhe. Usizo lokuqonda lapho ekhathele ngempela noma elambile.
2. Qinisekisa ingane yakho ukuthi ingakwazi njalo ukukunaka lapho yesaba noma ifuna ukwabelana ngemicabango, imizwa noma ulwazi. Ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kuyadingeka ngumntwana hhayi ezikhathini ezinzima kuphela, impendulo ezenzakalweni ezinhle nemicabango nayo ibaluleke kakhulu.
3. Sebenzisa ukubheka emehlweni njengendlela yokweseka ingane.
Isidingo somntwana sokunakwa abazali siyahlukahluka kuye ngeminyaka nangesimo somzimba.
4. Ungayisusi ingane kuwe isigubhukane. Qaphela ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuba nawe nokuthi angahamba isikhathi esingakanani ngaphandle kwakho. Isibonelo, funda incwadi imizuzu eyi-10, bese umnika amathoyizi futhi upheke isidlo sakusihlwa. Ngemva kwesikhashana, lapho efuna ukuba umnake, mgone, ukhulume naye, udlale futhi wenze ibhizinisi lakho futhi. Isidingo somntwana sokunakwa abazali siyahlukahluka kuye ngeminyaka nangesimo somzimba.
5. Uma uphakamise izwi lakho kuye noma ungasheshanga ukumnaka, cela intethelelo kuye. Ukuxolisa kuyingxenye ebalulekile yobudlelwano bokwethembana. Wonke umzali uyawenza amaphutha ngezinye izikhathi. Kudingeka sikubone lokhu, silungise amaphutha futhi sibuyisele ukwethembana.
6. Ungazami ukunyonyoba uphume ngomnyango ungaboni lapho ingane isifulathele. Zibonele. Ukuze unciphise ukukhathazeka kwengane, qalisa amasiko ukuze ingane yazi okufanele ikulindele. Isibonelo, ungaqhamuka nemikhuba yokuvalelisa, ukubingelela, nokuvakashela ugogo wakho.
Ungazami ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi uma ingane ingakhali lapho uhamba, ngakho-ke akakhathazeki. Ingane ngayinye inobuntu bayo kanye nesikhathi sayo sokusabela ezenzakalweni. Zama ukujwayela ingane yakho kubantu abasha, izindawo nemicimbi kancane kancane.
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7. Izingane eziningi ezolile ziyabaza ukuvuma ukukhathazeka kwazo. Bangase besabe ukucela umzanyana ukuba abayise endlini yangasese noma abatshele ngokuchitheka kobisi. Khuluma nengane yakho, uphinde uthi ingeza kuwe nanoma iyiphi inkinga futhi uzomsiza ukuthi abhekane nayo. Kufanele azi ukuthi noma umcasukele, usamthanda futhi uyameseka.
8. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi izici zomuntu ngamunye zomntwana zithinta isimo sakhe sengqondo emhlabeni. Izingane ezingenalwazi nezingabazayo ziba nesikhathi esinzima sokwethemba abanye. Badinga ukunakekelwa okwengeziwe nokusekelwa kwabazali.
Kubalulekile ukufundisa, ukufundisa ingane futhi kancane kancane, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, mvumele ukuba abhukude ngokukhululekile. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, lungele ukusiza nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane ineminyaka emingaki.