Ukubukeka kwethu kukhuluma kakhulu - ngobungane nokuvuleleka, ngothando noma usongo. Ukusondelana kakhulu kungase kudideke. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma singabheki emehlweni oxhumana naye, lokhu kuthathwa njengokungahloniphi noma ukungaqiniseki. Indlela yokuthola ukuyekethisa?
Ukubhekana ngamehlo mhlawumbe kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu lapho niqala ukubonana. Ukubukeka kwe-interlocutor kufanele kuhlale isikhathi esingakanani, ukuze kungasibangela ukungakhululeki, wanquma ukuthola isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseBrithani uNicola Binetti (Nicola Binetti) kanye nozakwabo. Benza ukuhlola lapho amavolontiya acishe abe ngu-500 (abaneminyaka eyi-11 kuye kwengama-79) avela emazweni angu-56 amenywa ukuba ahlanganyele.1.
Abahlanganyeli baboniswe izingcezu zokuqoshwa kwevidiyo lapho umlingisi noma umlingisi ebuke ngqo emehlweni ombukeli isikhathi esithile (kusuka kweshumi komzuzwana kuya kwemizuzwana eyi-10). Ngosizo lwamakhamera akhethekile, abacwaningi balandelela ukunwetshwa kwabafundi bezifundo, ngemuva kwesiqephu ngasinye babuye babuzwa ukuthi kubonakala sengathi umlingisi ekurekhodweni ubheka amehlo abo isikhathi eside noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, kuncane kakhulu. Baphinde bacelwa ukuthi balinganisele ukuthi abantu abakumavidiyo babonakala bekhanga futhi/noma besabisa kangakanani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abahlanganyeli baphendule imibuzo yohlu lwemibuzo.
Ubude obulungile bokuthintana kwamehlo yimizuzwana emi-2 ukuya kwemi-5
Kwavela ukuthi isikhathi esifanele sokuthintana kwamehlo sasisuka ku-2 kuya ku-5 imizuzwana (isilinganiso - imizuzwana engu-3,3).
Yilobu ubude bokubuka ngeso obekunethezeke kakhulu kubahlanganyeli. Kodwa-ke, asikho isifundo esithande ukubukwa emehlweni abo isikhathi esingaphansi kwesekhondi noma imizuzwana eyi-9. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukukhetha kwabo kwakungaxhomeki ezicini zobuntu futhi cishe akuzange kuncike ebulilini neminyaka yobudala (kwakukhona okuhlukile - amadoda amadala ngokuvamile ayefuna ukubheka abesifazane emehlweni isikhathi eside).
Ukukhanga kwabalingisi abakuvidiyo akuzange kudlale indima ebalulekile. Kodwa-ke, uma umlingisi noma umlingisi ebonakala ethukuthele, babefuna ukubheka kancane ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ngenxa yokuthi ucwaningo lwaluhilela abantu abavela emazweni acishe abe ngu-60 ahlukene, le miphumela ingabhekwa njengezimele ngokwesiko futhi okuthandwayo kokuthintana kwamehlo kucishe kufane kubantu abaningi.
1 N. Binetti et al. "Ukunwetshwa komfundi njengenkomba yesikhathi sokubuka okuthandwayo", iRoyal Society Open Science, ngoJulayi 2016.