Ukuqomisana nge-inthanethi kusadumile. Futhi ukwahlulela ngemiphumela yezibalo, amathuba okusungula ubudlelwano ezinkundleni zokuxhumana maningi kakhulu. Kodwa unganciphisa kanjani inani lezinsuku ezingaphumelelanga futhi ulethe umhlangano osulindelwe isikhathi eside nesiphetho sakho eduze? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Eli Finkel unikeza iseluleko kulabo abalindele ukuthola uthando kuwebhu.
Ukuthandwa kwezingosi zokuqomisana kukhula nsuku zonke. Siya ngokuya sikhetha ozakwethu abangaba khona ku-inthanethi. Ingozi eyinhloko esilindele kulabo esibajwayele ukuthi, ukuxhumana nomuntu ongabonakali, sivame ukudala umbono ongalungile ngaye (futhi ngathi). Uma uhlola othile ngokusekelwe kumilayezo noma okuthunyelwe ekhasini elisezinkundleni zokuxhumana, maningi amathuba okuthi akhohliswe. Ukuze ugweme amaphutha nokudumazeka, sebenzisa iseluleko esilula sesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
1. Ungachithi isikhathi. Inani lamakhandidethi liyadida, kodwa zama ukunciphisa imingcele yosesho - ngaphandle kwalokho ubeka engcupheni yokuchitha impilo yakho yonke kukho. Zinqumele ezinye zezinqubo ezibaluleke kakhulu (iminyaka yobudala, imfundo, isimo senhlalo, indawo yokuhlala, izici zomlingiswa) futhi ngokushesha ungene ezingxoxweni nabantu abalungile.
2. Ungathembeli kakhulu kuhlu lwemibuzo. Ukuhlolwa okubonakalayo akuqinisekisi ukushaya okungu-XNUMX% - umane uhlole olwandle lwezithombe nohlu lwemibuzo. Zisiza ukunquma imingcele evamile kuphela: indawo yokuhlala, imfundo ... Ngokunye, themba umuzwa wakho.
Uma unentshisekelo kumuntu omusha omaziyo, setha umhlangano wobuso nobuso ngokushesha okukhulu.
3. Ungalibali ukubhalelana. Ukuxhumana nge-inthanethi kunengqondo esigabeni sokwenza ukwazana. Zinike isikhathi sokushintshisana ngezinhlamvu, kodwa umelane nesilingo sokwelula lesi sigaba. Uma unentshisekelo kumuntu omusha omaziyo, misa umhlangano wobuso nobuso ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukushintshisana okude kwezinhlamvu kungadukisa - ngisho noma lowo okhulume naye eqotho ngokwedlulele, ngokuzenzakalelayo siqala ukwakha isithombe esicatshangelwayo esingeke siqondane neqiniso. Kuwusizo kakhulu ukuhlangana nomuntu omthandayo futhi unqume ukuthi uzoqhubeka yini nokuxhumana.
4. Hlanganani ekhefi. Kuphi ukwenza usuku lokuqala? Inketho engcono kakhulu, njengoba ucwaningo lubonisa, isimemo senkomishi yekhofi esitolo sekhofi sentando yeningi. Ukuya ebhayisikobho, ekhonsathini, embukisweni, noma ngisho nasesitolo sokudlela kuyisinqumo esibi, ngoba ukuhlangana endaweni egcwele abantu akunikezi isithombe esiphelele somuntu. Futhi umkhathi we-cafe kanye netafula elivamile lidala umphumela wokuthembana nesimo sengqondo komunye nomunye.
Mayelana Nochwepheshe: U-Eli Finkel uyisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwezenhlalo eNorthwestern University (USA).