Umthetho ojwayelekile womuntu ohloniphekile: nikeza abagibeli abanezingane ithuba. Konke kubonakala kulula, kodwa umbuzo uwukuthi: kuze kube yilapho ingane ingakwazi ukuma izitobhi ezimbalwa esitimeleni? Futhi kungani ebaluleke ngaphezu, ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane okhathele, nakuba osemusha? Intatheli kanye nomqondisi u-Elena Pogrebizhskaya ukhuluma nge-Russian child-centrism.
Owesifazane oneminyaka engu-55 ubudala onengane eneminyaka engu-7-8 ubudala wayehamba nami esitimeleni esingaphansi komhlaba, cishe ugogo wakhe. Nganginendawo yokuhlala eyeqisayo, lapho abantu ababemi eduze kwami ngaso sonke isikhathi bencika kubapristi babo. Ngokuvamile, bobabili bema lapho, futhi ngizwa ingxoxo. Umfana uthi: "Ngifuna ukuma." Ugogo kuye: "Ungahlala phansi?"
Nakuba zingekho izihlalo ezingenalutho nxazonke. Umfana uyaphendula: “Cha, ngifuna ukusukuma,” futhi ugogo wamphendula: “Hhayi-ke, uzokhula ngokushesha.”
Ngicabanga kimi, yeka inkhulumomphendvulwano ezithakazelisayo. Ngokuvamile, bama umzuzu owodwa, ugogo wabe esesondela entombazaneni eyayihlezi maqondana nami futhi wathi: “Sivulele indawo!”
Yasukuma intombazane ngokushesha, kwasukuma indoda eyayihlezi eduze kwayo. Wahlala ugogo, wahlala phansi umzukulu. Bagibela-ke.
I-Classic Russian child-centrism: konke okuhle kakhulu ezinganeni, okubi kakhulu kubantu abadala
Umbuzo: futhi yiliphi ilungelo okufanele liboshwe ingane eneminyaka engu-8, hhayi intombazane eneminyaka engama-30? Futhi kungani, uma ngokuzumayo umfana ekhathele, ukukhathala kwakhe kubaluleke kakhulu kunokukhathala kowesifazane omdala? Futhi uma owesifazane eza kimi futhi ethi, "Vula indawo!", wayezwa: "Cha, kungani emhlabeni?"
Lokhu, ngokubona kwami, kuyi-child-centrism yaseRussia yakudala: konke okuhle kakhulu kubantwana, futhi konke okubi kakhulu kubantu abadala, lokho kusho. Asukume, ayihlale phansi ingane. Hhayi-ke ugogo wakhe omncane kanye kanye.
Lona bekuwumbhalo wami kuFacebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia). Futhi bekungasoze kwafika enqondweni yami ukuthi isivunguvungu esingasibangela. Okokuqala, ngasizathu simbe abantu baqala ukucabanga ukuthi bobabili ugogo nomfana bangagula. Bangakwazi, kunjalo. Bagula kanjani abebevele behlezi emotweni eduze kwabo.
Okwesibili, kwavela ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane ingumfana. Lapha bathi sikhulisa amadoda anjani.
Okwesithathu, umcabango wabaningi wadala ngokushesha isithombe sowesifazane osekhulile, ogulayo onengane yomzukulu. Eqinisweni, kwakungowesifazane osekhulile, oneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-50 futhi engekho ngaphezulu. Ngakho-ke, nakhu abangibhalele ngakho ekuphenduleni okuthunyelwe.
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Elena, ngihlanganyela ngokuphelele imicabango yakho. Lona uhlobo oluthile lwephupho elibi elivamile, futhi asikhulumi nje kuphela ngokuthi "ukunikeza indlela yokuthutha", kodwa ngombono "konke okuhle kakhulu kubantwana". Kungani okuhle kakhulu? Ingabe abadala abafanelwe okungcono? Ingxenye yemikhiqizo ithi “Baby. Kuphephile.» Futhi ngokuvamile, lesi simo sengqondo esibi "umncane, ngakho-ke ukhethekile" sibulala umuntu. Phew. Akhulume.
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Qaphela ukuthi ugogo waphakamisa intombazane ukuze avule umzukulu wakhe. Umuntu wekusasa! Bakheka kanjalo-ke ubudlelwano phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane. Yakhiwa omama nogogo abanjalo abakulungele ukuzidela bona nabo bonke abanye abantu besifazane enganeni yabo ekhathele.
Bese kuqala - «wonke amadoda ayizimbuzi», «awekho amadoda avamile asele» ... Futhi avelaphi, uma ukukhuliswa okunjalo. Amadoda akhuliswa kusukela ekuzalweni!!!!!
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Ugogo udlulisela izidingo zakhe kumzukulu wakhe, kuyilapho eshaya indiva isifiso sakhe ... Njengakulelo hlaya: “Kufanele ube nowakho umbono, futhi manje umama uzokutshela ukuthi yimuphi.” Ngangingeke ngivume.
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Naphezu kwenkinga emhlane wami, mina ngokwami ngihlala ngima - ukukhetha kwami siqu, kodwa ... Kungani umuntu ebophekile ukuba avumele othile? Kuthiwani ngokukhethwa kwemvelo? Kuyafaneleka ukucabangela: mhlawumbe umuntu akadingi ukuya ndawo uma (a) engakwazi ukuma ngezinyawo zakhe?
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Ngivuma ngokuphelele. Namanje angiqondi ukuthi kungani abazali bengazibeki izingane zabo emathangeni. Ngokuvamile ngibona umama emile, nengane ihlezi. Mhlawumbe angazi okuthile ngezingane, mhlawumbe ziyikristalu futhi zingaphuka.
Futhi ucabangani ngalesi simo futhi ungasukuma yini uma lo gogo eza kuwe namagama athi "Dedela"?